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@TheSwissWifeStyle: Yup. Last year, I had some cherries laying around and love mojitos, so mixed the two. Yup, hoping to be in the TWW in Disney.

@mrswin: Good luck!!

Hi everyone, I've sucked at keeping up this week, but gonna try to catch up tonight. It's been crazy at work and I barely have an hour to eat and wind down at home before going to bed.
But we had our IVF consent appointment yesterday. I guess we're moving forward with that. Now that it's kinda real, I'm a little freaked out by it. The risks kinda scare me now, the what if it doesn't work, the pain.

@GreenThumb: congrats! So exciting.

I still read everyday and really love this group. I try to be sensitive about posting here too often though b/c of those tricky IF feelings when you're still in the thick of it. I get it.

@LindsayInNY: It sounds like you want to keep it private. So I would be brief and not talk about it.

Do you know if she did IUIs to conceive? Maybe she is trying to support you and see how you are doing. It could be nice to have someone who understand the process.

Though, I don't think I told anyone IRL about my first IUI. I think the second IUI is when I told my younger sister about it. She is familiar with TTC lingo so it was easier talking to her about it.

@LindsayInNY: Yeah, people asking questions on how the IUI went, can be one of the down sides. Especially after a BFN. I would keep this one private, then.

@LindsayInNY: I think if you want to keep it private you can just say we're still trying, and looking into options and leave it at that. I wouldn't lie and say a treatment didn't work though, for me, I feel like I'd jinx it if it worked and I told people it didn't. I have not told anyone we were even trying except for one friend, and she knows that we are trying IVF next month. She will know pretty much immediately if it happens, but I trust that she wont say anything to anyone else. It kind of nice to have the one real life outlet for this.

@PurplePumps: I also agree with @mrswin:. Acupuncture really helped a lot with my stress levels. And actually @LindsayInNY: talking to my acupuncturist every week was kind of like therapy for me, since I wanted to talk about it, but didn't really want to talk to friends.

@mrswin: 17 sounds like a great number!! Congrats!

@PurplePumps: @mrswin: I like your suggestions about saying we're still trying and looking into options. I basically avoided the question when I replied to her lol. I'm fairly open with people in real life about our struggles and that helps. But now that we're at the "next step" phase, I want to keep that a bit to myself.

@mrswin: What a great number!! Can't wait for your next update!

@GreenThumb: I'll be starting right after this cycle. We had a vacation planned for beginning of Aug, so I decided to do a natural cycle and then IVF.
@mrswin: wow, 17 does sound great!
Did you guys *really* feel a difference with the acupuncture? My husband has been thinking about it for his back pain, so maybe we can try it together. What is it like?

@PurplePumps: I agree with LazyPanda that it's very relaxing. I'm not sure if it's in my head, but some weeks I feel calmer than others.

Also, I find it really interesting some of it's very, very different than Western medicine, but I feel like it can't hurt! Maybe just try an initial session and see what you think

Hey Bees,

Sheesh but I have been MIA, trying to catch up on everyone's news now Following my lap I took 2 days downtime, then DH and I had a 3 day expo that our business was taking part in. I propped myself up on painkillers and got through it and finally felt back to my old self from about Sunday. Aside from the (TMI) hectic thrush that turned up following the lap. And AF has started which doesn't help the aforementioned situation.

Either :
a) AF is good news that ovary blasting kicked the buggers into motion or
b) AF is random bleeding as womb has only just noticed it had a d&c.

Follow up appt tomorrow to check hormone levels, I'm keen to see what the ovaries are up to too. I cannot wait to get these stitches removed - I literally nearly fainted when i took the plaster off my belly button! It just looks so macabre to have stitches in your belly button, and I'm not normally squeamish! DH and I have taken to calling it Frankenbelly, which may stick as an all encompassing nickname for the dodgey lady bits that are giving us such a rough time!

First IVF consult is NEXT TUES. I'm actually feeling excited!

Sorry I've been MIA for a while, it's been hard just starting a new job and trying to get on here. I'll try to catch up with what's going on with everyone!

As for me, we decided to take a break from TTC for a while. During that time we started to really look at what we have and really appreciate everything, we talked a lot and realized that we're both ok with not having kids. We felt as though there's so much pressure to have one because that's what you're supposed to do, that we didn't even think of the alternative. We realized how happy we are just the two of us (and our furbabies!) and we have so much to enjoy together. For the first time in a long time I felt relaxed and at peace and so excited and optimistic about our future together.

Then, my period was late. Super late. 6 days. I'm every 28 days like clockwork. I took a cheap pregnancy test that I had in the house and it showed up positive immediately with two very strong lines. I then took two more, both different brands and again, two immediate strong lines on each of them. I started shaking and freaked out and ran downstairs to finally say those two words to my husband.... "I'm pregnant". He didn't want to believe it but the sparkle in his eyes said it all, he was estatic. I was still freaking out worrying about what if's.... what if I hurt the baby when I was drinking on the weekend, what if I miscarry again, what if I don't like the baby when it gets older (I'm not the greatest with kids), what if I hate being pregnant, what if I'm too selfish to be a good parent. I felt scared and nervous and also a little excited.

My husband was super excited but cautious and so he wanted me to test on some different brands. We went out and got more pregnancy tests. ALL NEGATIVE! Not pregnant.

I feel so confused and almost blank. It was such a rollercoaster of emotions and I feel like I hugely let my husband down. He was so excited and happy! I have cramps today so my period is on its way. It feels like those three tests I took were just cruel jokes.

@mrswin: Nope, finished today (CD16), pretty sure I O'd yesterday. I wasn't sure if it would affect the swimmers in there today lol

@alohaorchid: heartbreaking and a punch to the stomach! So sorry you went through that. Ouch.

@mrswin: I'm cheering you on big time, my friend! Looking forward to many more positive updates from you.

@Robyn_ZA: Sorry about the thrush and sending good thoughts that AF is good news! Hope you heal well with those stitches. Frankenbelly! Haha. Cute! I'm excited for your IVF consult next week!

@babycanuck: I have no idea. I would ask your RE.

@alohaorchid: Oh, no! I'm so sorry about the roller coaster of emotions for you. I was happy and really happy then sad for you. Sending lots of your way.

@mrswin: Woohoo. Thanks for the report. I don't know much about IVF but those numbers look great to me!

@AmeliaBedilia: Welcome! So sorry you had to join us. I know there a few IFers (who are now pregnant or had a child already) who did not want to go down the IUI and IVF route. So don't feel out of place here. (We all know that some treatments are off the table and others are and it's all a personal choice and we respect that. ) I know a lot of us go down that IUI/IVF route here in this thread but hoping you get support from others in your position. (If there is a current IFer in this category right now and that has been posting in the check-in thread and I forgot, I'm sorry. My memory is horrible.) Maybe you can create a thread asking for current and IF graduates who did not want to persue IUI/IVF and ask them what they did. That may help.