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I would, yes, and plan to (hope to!) for my kids. Both my DH and I had university (and grad school for me) covered by parents. It wasn't seen as a 'handout' to us, but instead an opportunity for US to pay for our children's college at a time in our lives when we would (hopefully) have an income to support an education, instead of weighing down a young person with debt so early in their life.
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@locavore_mama: same. I was the youngest of 4 girls and my parents paid for my sisters educations (undergrad) but ran out of the means to do so when it was my turn. Honestly, my sisters are super entitled. I worked my butt off to go to school and had to pay as I went.
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If I could afford to pay for all of his schooling so he could have an idyllic college experience and not have to work or take on debt, yes I would! Working is important, but he'd have the rest of his life for that. I don't think of college as merely a means to a job, but an important facet of life on its own.
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@littlek: if money was no object I would absolutely pay for it!
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You bet. I can't imagine having the funds and opting not to for the sake of a lesson. Provided they are doing well and working hard, I have zero issues with paying for it, if I am in the position to! Show you appreciate it by kicking ass and setting yourself up for a good and stable future. That's all I ask. College is not ALL work. A little fun is allowed
I certainly partied a little. And I'm doing pretty well 
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If we had the money, definitely. DH and I both grew up in families where education was first priority.
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if we have the money, absolutely. it was a gift our parents gave both DH and myself and something that we will always be grateful for.
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@HLK208: this scares me a lot. We plan to have about 4, all close in age. I can't imagine having all of them in college at once. We will do all we can do so that the first 2-3 aren't totally entitled in comparison to the youngest. I hope they get good grades;) And who knows, we may never have 4 (and if we do, they may be more spaced out than i'd like).
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Neither D nor I finished college, and it's hurt us now. If we can afford to pay for E's college, we absolutely will, in a heartbeat. I don't want him to ever have to struggle the way we have.
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@hellocupcake: I love that idea, if we have the means once LO graduates (which seems so far in the future, but will probably be here before I know it)!
Even if money was not an issue, I would want LO to take out a small loan each year. My parents paid for almost everything, but still had me take out a loan to get some credit history and make sure I understood that this was an investment in my future as an adult. There's nothing wrong with paying for your child's education in full, but I like the way my parents did it and it's what I plan to do as well. Plus, as I mentioned in the other thread, I hope to have 3-5 kids - and bringing them into the world is more important to me than being able to pay for their college education in full. They can all sit around in a big, poor, but hopefully happy group and complain about cheapskate Mom later
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@Smurfette: I agree with this! I would have to know that it is really what they want and they would have to be serious about it.
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Yes, I would absolutely like to do this. I was fortunate to have my parents pay for my schooling and I am definitely grateful to them for that.
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Yes absolutely. Honestly I didn't have time to work when I was in school. I know a lot of people want their kids to have part time jobs and I don't know how that would have been possible for me. I did work when I wasn't at school though.
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@chopsuey: @CupQuakeWalk: yep!
We will pay as much as we can. If we could pay 100%, we would. But they'd work part time and be required to apply for scholarships, too. I would give up a heck of a lot to be able to do so.
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@HLK208: @CupQuakeWalk: I'm the oldest of 5, all close together, and my parents helped us all as much as they could. We all have loans, we all worked, but we were also all given an incredible gift with how much they paid. Just wanted to chime in and say that it is possible to pay for the first without them feeling super entitled.
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Even if money were no object I want my children to contribute to their education via applying and receiving scholarships.
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I would not. Like @Mrs. Lemon-Lime, I want them to contribute to their education via scholarships and work-study programs.
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Yes, I plan on helping LO as much as I can in regards to higher education but fun money and shopping money is another story. I had to pay my own way with everything: car, car insurance, rent, gas, food, school, etc... it was so stressful! I wouldn't wish that on any kid.
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If we could afford it, still no.
The whole concept is rather foreign to me because my parents only paid for about 15% of my education and out of all of my friends at college, only ONE of them was having their schooling paid for.
If we could afford it, we would cover about 75%.
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Yes. Absolutely.
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If they are a good student and pass their classes, sure/maybe. But I would hope that they wouldn't expect the college money. I don't want them to think they are entitled to it and could possibly take it for granted. Maybe they are good kids and won't. But I still think that had I friended the wrong type of crowd, I might not be where I am. I still like being able make them work for it. So I think telling them that college will be paid for as long as they put the effort and work into it.
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I definitely would. I don't want my kids to be saddled with debt.
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Yes. Student loan debt is ridiculous, IMO.
And having to get yourself through it doesn't mean you'll appreciate it. I took out tons of loans, did work and learn, and worked 30 hours a week all the way through college and still blew it off. I was young and stupid and am paying for it now that I'm older and smarter.
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@locavore_mama: I agree with some of your statements. Thank you.
Most of friends had money, but me? Nope. Yeah, I think my friends who had a large portion of the schooling paid off are extremely lucky. For me, I did want to go to college and I knew the only way was to take out loans. There was no way around it. I went to a popular state university but decided not to go to the main campus. I went to a satellite campus so it was smaller. One because I didn't want to be tempted to party and two because I wanted individualized attention. I knew I was paying for my education. (Yeah, it sucked seeing people graduate from college with no school debt and I was jealous of them. I've accepted where I came from and can't fault my parents. They tried hard to provide for us.)
Also, my parents and sister had to escape from Vietnam and to be where we are. My parents had to learn English and get a job and provide for his family. Life is hard and nothing is a given. So for me, I feel as though you need to pay and work for your schooling. (Also, my dad would laugh in my face if I expected my education to be paid for. He would probably say that he left VN to give myself the freedom/ ability to go to college.) If its school debt that worries some people, it's not going to hurt you much. Lots of Credit card debt is what really hurts you. If you want to talk about debt, there's car loans, too. At some point, we all have some debt. I learned young enough about my bad/stupid college spending habits and I am glad that I had the chance to fix/learn it back then.
I see that we all have different ideas on when and how much debt your LOs will have because of school. To each his own.
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If we were really well off then yes. So far, LOs will be paying for their own college.
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Yes and we intend to. I actually feel pretty strongly that it's part of my responsibility as a parent to provide my children with a college education and the cost of it is the main reason we will likely only have two children instead of the three I would prefer.
My parents paid every dime for me to go to boarding school and a private university. They also paid for all my necessities like housing, food, car, gas, etc. I earned fun money working summer internships and babysitting during the school year. I value my education immensely, I worked hard and graduated magma cum laude and had a job on Wall Street lined up before I graduated. Honestly I don't buy into the idea that a child needs to pay for their schooling to appreciate it. If you raise them in an environment where you place a high level of focus on the importance of a good education, that's what's important.
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@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: I agree. I expect her to try for scholarships and get a job. If we had the money I'd pay for her tuition, but I'd still expect her to cover her own living expenses. I see nothing wrong with her learning to budget and work hard.
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@Smurfette: Exactly this! This is what my parents did. They paid tuition so that I didn't come out with any loans, but for any fun or spending money (and depending on the month with my dad's job, sometimes grocery money!) I worked all through school. It was really the best of both worlds. I'd love to be able to do that for my future kiddos one day.
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Sure. If I think it's worth it. I want to see good grades and responsibilty in high school. If I can forsee them squandering away college then no way.
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yes
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.@mfa_lady: Same! We will work to be able to pay for their undergrad experience. They'll be responsible for their fun money. I worked all through college as well.
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No, we expect that he will finance some portion of his education on his own, whether it is through loans, work study programs or summer jobs.
I believe that you have to have some skin in the game.
I certainly partied a little. And I'm doing pretty well 
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