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I needed to see this today! With my period about to show up and feeling unsure about what to do next, I'm in a funk.

I've tried to think about what good can come from experiencing the tough stuff. Patience and so on.

@TheSwissWifeStyle: I love to travel. Right now, I'd love to be at a resort where you do nothing but relax.

For me finding someone IRL to talk to about what I am going through has been helpful as @Mrs.Someone: mentioned

The other thing that has helped that I wasn't really expecting was that I have taken a break from the RE and committed myself to the next 3-4 months with the ND. It has taken considerable pressure off the whole situation and I am much less stressed.

@mrs. bird: Don't be ashamed, I have been there and done the same thing. You need to do whatever works for you to cope with the situation.

I try to remind myself that others' successes do not add to my failures. There isn't a set inventory of babies in the world and someone else getting pregnant doesn't make me less likely to do so. My BFF is starting TTC this month, so this has been my mantra lately, since I know what's probably coming.

Like @Mrs.Someone, Circle + Bloom has really changed my outlook on staying positive. It feels good to take those 15-20 minutes a day and only think about myself.

I also think that the things I've worked the hardest for in my life are the ones I appreciate the most and when my baby does get here they will be loved so much.

Unfortunately I don't have anyone IRL to talk about my journey but sometimes I think that's better because I would probably go on and on every day and that's not good either.

I just wanted to pop in and say I'm thinking of you all and hoping for good news soon!!

I've been trying for six months with some complex issues but hope you don't think I'm too presumptuous commenting! What's getting me through is making plans for things we can do if we're not pregnant. If we're not pregnant this month, we're going to visit the Belgian Beer Cafe and get a cherry beer. If we're not pregnant by Oct, we're looking at booking a holiday to Fiji it helps, in an odd way. Takes the pressure off, so to speak.

AF showed this morning (2 days late! Just enough to give an IF girl hope!!) so I really needed this thread. Right now I'm in a grouchy mood, so I'm having a hard time coming up with anything that keeps me positive and hopeful. However, what @Shutterbug: said has been one of the biggest things to keep me sane over the last 2.5 years of TTC while a lot of couples around us have gotten pregnant. Babies aren't rationed, so even though they might be pregnant AGAIN doesn't mean I can't get pregnant too.

I'm trying to keep in mind today that at least a lot of the uncertainty is gone now. We have a plan of action. We will be starting IVF so soon and at least then I'll feel like we are moving forward instead of just sitting there stuck in the bog of infertility. And (on a much more superficial note) I'll be able to drink as much wine as I want in France at the end of the month and I'll be on BCP so I won't have to worry about getting my period on vacation. I guess it's just the little things that keep you going...

This may sound like I was hopelessly in denial, but I never *really* considered us to be infertile, just unlucky. I never had any doubts we would become parents again.

Hugs to all

I remember what helped me was at the start of the year, when my first IUI failed I told my husband I needed to plan a vacation. I wanted it to be early in the year and for it to be a vacation where we were either celebrating pregnancy, or just taking a break from all of the cycles. So in January, I booked us a little getaway for April. It helped me have something to focus on. I wanted to do my best each day to "be present" and not wish my days away. But I know myself, and having that trip really gave me something happy to think about.

Circle + Bloom meditations were my life preserver during my second and third IUI. And planning yummy indulgences at the end of each cycle that resulted in a negative was also something good for me.

House projects are also a great distraction Plus, then you can't really symptom spot because you might just be sore from all of the yardwork, or from painting, or any other sort of exertion!