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Talking with other women on Hellobee who could relate and understand what we were going through really helped me. I think it's always hard when you're making that transition to an RE. There's always so much hope built up inside that you won't have to take that step. But it can be a good step - with great results. Best of luck to you - and definitely lean on the good women here on HB. Finding some friends or family you can talk to in person also helps.

It is very hard at times and then there are other times where you have hope - it's all very up and down emotionally. Acknowledge your feelings and know that you're not alone in the struggle. I read more than I post on these boards but I find the Hellobee infertility boards a place of comfort, especially when I'm having bad day.

I was also apprehensive about seeing the RE but after talking to her and knowing there was someone that wanted to help us conceive I felt much better.

Sorry to hear you're feeling this way! I was in the same place when we hit a year of trying. Its really rough emotionally, and you never expect it to be YOU that has the hard time getting pregnant. The one thing that helped me to become more positive was trying the Circle + Bloom meditations (they have free one to try out). I was skeptical, but it really put me in a better head space, especially that first month. Other than that, talking to friends who understand and/or are supportive helps. Hope you feel better soon!

I wallow sometimes because I should be able to. No one talks about the emotional ups and downs of TTC and the dents it makes in your self esteem and your relationship. After I'm done with my pity party though I do try to focus on all the other good stuff. In my journal last night I wrote, "because I'm not pregnant right now I don't have cankles." Silly, but there are some good things to not being KU.

I would also suggest Circle + Bloom, such a pimp of that product

Another plug for Circle + Bloom. I also found a local support group on the Resolve website and went to a Yoga for Fertility class every week. I met some great women and felt much less alone.

I think what saved me from falling into depression was the resolution that infertility would not take away my whole life. I wanted to be strong for me and for my marriage. Was I bubbling with positivity? Absolutely not. But until I exhausted all of my resources and options, I did maintain some hope. And really that's all that can be expected.

Sending hugs and good thoughts your way!

@littleredhairedgrl: You sound a lot like me! I was shocked when we could not get pregnant, and then I thing for sure clomid would work, nope and I was sooo taking back about seeing an RE and doing IUI, well I'm about a day or two away from the first procedure and over the moon excited but still nervous! Keep positive, and relax, so hard to do, but know rhay it WILL happen!!!! I just joined this page and feel the love already!! Good luck and keep me posted!!!

@littleredhairedgrl: It's so hard to stay positive, I know! But you have the new RE to look forward to, and I hope you have success in August! One good thing is that you have a diagnosis, so at least you and your docs know what you're working with, and how best to treat it.

You don't have to answer if you don't want to, but I was just curious, what is your DH's morph percentage? Wondering what "low" is.

Like what @TheReelDeal: said, when I get bummed out I try to think about all the awesome things going on right now in my life, some of which wouldn't be possible if I were pregnant. (Of course I'd rather be pg!!)

Hugs, and best of luck!!

I hope HelloBee is a good support for you.

I go back and forth between feeling zen, then thinking about my age and wanting to eat Clomid like skittles. We've been trying for 9-10 months now, I'm 34, and I used to think I wanted 3-4 children. My life path has been different than I thought it would be when I was 25!

I recently was searching for recommendations for natural skin care products, and it led me to a blog called A Blog About Love. This woman is faced with infertility, and she's gone through other hardships as well. But she speaks about how her faith (Mormon) allows her to have peace and happiness. My religious beliefs differ from hers, but her message still really speaks to me and has helped me enormously. I also did 5 sessions of acupuncture and loved it, not just for the needles part, but for the discussions I had with the acupuncturist as well. It felt like a very pro-active and loving thing to do for myself.

@LittleRedHairedGrl: some of the blog content I could do without, like all of the pictures of themselves and their emails to each other. But the posts on how to be peaceful and happy in life hit home.

Acupuncture is expensive, and it's why I only did five sessions. Like many wellness workers, my acupuncturist was willing to work on a sliding scale, letting me pay whatever I could. That's something to consider. But for me, it's wasn't so much the act of acupunture itself, but doing something that focused my thoughts and actions in a positive manner, which is what I'm sure the yoga will do for you as well.

@FaithFertility: oh, the fertility yoga idea just made me think of this. DH and I had to meet with a social worker in order to start our IVF cycle and she recommended listening to a cd of positive affirmations. It seemed really silly at first but it did help. I think it's in my car. I'll have to find out the name of it later.

@littleredhairedgrl: You have some great advice here. Hugs!! Hang in there. It's definitely been a rollercoaster of emotions dealing with IF.

I got the circle and bloom program during Infertility awareness week. I'm saving it when I start TTC again.

Oh, accupuncture is great! I'm on a TTC break and I'm still getting weekly accupuncure appts. It helped me.

@swedishfish: ohhh wow! Yeah, it is truly a journey, I'm thankful to have found this page, nice to chat about it to people who get it!