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I cosleep in the mornings after SO goes to work...its the only wa to get LO to sleep.
He sleeps on top of my arm in the middle of the bed away from blankets and pillows.
He stays asleep until i wake up and my arm is numb.
Ill continue to do it as long as im super sleepy and he is not falling asleep in the crib.

We co-bed part of the night. Generally P comes into our bed after her first waking after DH and I have gone to bed so she starts off in her bed in our room and then moves to our bed anywhere from 1-5 in the morning.

Was co sleeping your first choice?
Yes & No. We weren't initially set up for co-bedding so P slept in her RnP by our bed. That lasted about 6 weeks. I was not ever opposed to co-bedding though and knew we would at some point.

Do you regret starting co sleeping?
Nope. We all sleep better and the night nursing is great for my supply so it's kind of a win win.

How long do you plan to co sleep?
No real plan at this point. I'd say atleast until P is a year.

Does your LO still wake up when you co sleep?
Sometimes, if she's teething or in a WW. She usually just turns her head rooting for the boob and then goes back to sleep nursing.

Where does your LO sleep at? In the middle, in your arms?
She generally sleeps between me & the wall without any covers and low enough under where the pillows are to be where muh boobs are. Sometimes she sleeps between DH and I (now that he's used to her in the bed) with the covers only on him (I am usually warm enough with her near me).

Was co sleeping your first choice?

No, not at all. It was actually something I swore I'd never do. But E would not sleep unless he was being held/snuggled up to me, so after a night of not sleeping and another two nights of dozing in the recliner with him in my arms I decided it was probably safer for all of us if we were in the bed.

Do you regret starting co sleeping?

It wasn't my first choice, or even on my radar as a possibility, but I absolutely do not regret it. I love having him so close to me, I love feeling him curl his warm little body into mine, I love not having to get out of bed to nurse, I love that the first thing I saw in the morning was his sleepy, loving grin directed at me.

How long do you plan to co sleep?

We co-slept all night until about 4 months. At that point I nursed him to sleep in our bed and then once he was fully out moving him to PnP at the foot of our bed and bringing him back when at his first wake-up. Two weeks ago we started putting him to sleep in the PnP (and bringing him into bed when he woke up) and last Friday we started putting him to bed in his crib in his own nursery. When he's woken up I've nursed and then put him back in the crib, but I still bring him into bed for a few hours when he wakes up in the early morning.

Does your LO still wake up when you co sleep?

Not usually. Sometimes he would rouse long enough to root and then fall right back asleep nursing. And he often woke up before me...I would wake up to him nursing and stroking my face.

Where does your LO sleep at? In the middle, in your arms?

He slept either between me and the wall or me and DH. DH takes up maybe 1/4 of the bed, and sleeps in a sleeping bag with a cat on top of him. He's conditioned to not roll over, lol. Plus we aren't cuddly sleepers so I've never been concerned about him rolling over in his sleep to try to cuddle. And even if he did, E would be in the crook of my arm, so if DH rolled over he'd wake me up by rolling onto my arm before he rolled onto DS. And DS is a total bed-hog anyway...I imagine he'd manage to kick DH off the bed before he'd get rolled on, lol.

I don't know if we'll have a second LO but it's likely something we'll plan on doing again.

Was co sleeping your first choice?
Not really but I wasn't super opposed to it. Every mammal sleeps with their young, why do we banish them to a crib? I mean, not even I sleep alone, why should a tiny newborn?

Do you regret starting co sleeping?
Sort-of, for a variety of reasons - 1) DH snores & we have a queen + he's not as comfortable cosleeping as I am, so he's sleeping on the pull-out. I miss snuggling with my husband, tbh. 2) I have insomnia sometimes & feel like I'm disturbing him. 3) he expects to be nursed everytime I come to bed.

How long do you plan to co sleep?
Not too much longer (he'll be 6 months in Feb). He's started to move when he wakes up and go sideways, and I'm afraid he'll wiggle right off the edge.

Does your LO still wake up when you co sleep?
Yes, both for nursing (11pm, 3am, 5am, give or take an hour). I'm interested to see if he drops some of those wakings if he sleeps without me getting in/out of bed & disturbing him.

Where does your LO sleep at? In the middle, in your arms?
Middle (my right), breast level. Sometimes I'll grab him and roll to my left to nurse on that side. When that happens he's usually cradled in my arms. When he was younger (<6 weeks) we would sleep on my chest and I would sleep propped up on pillows

Was co sleeping your first choice?
Co-sleeping, yes. But co-bedding, no. I had always planned to have LO in our bedroom because I planned to nurse, and because the nursery is upstairs (our master in on the main floor).

Do you regret starting co sleeping?
Not one bit! Except I think it has somewhat hindered my pp sex life.

How long do you plan to co sleep?
At least until 6 months or when LO sleeps through the night . . . which hasn't come close to happening yet (she is almost 5 months).

Does your LO still wake up when you co sleep?
Yes - repeatedly, but less frequently than when she is in her RnP.

Where does your LO sleep at? In the middle, in your arms?
Usually cradled in my arms and away from the middle, or on my chest. When I am in bed alone, I sometimes cradle her in my arms with her in the middle of the bed.

@MrsJazz: "I think in some way co-sleeping eases some of my work outside the home mommy guilt." This is exactly how I feel . . . one on one time that I can't give her during the day.

ETA: For me, co-sleeping means in the same room but not in the same bed, whereas co-bedding means in the same bed.

Was co bedding your first choice?
--no! when I was pregnant, I said over and over that I'd never have a 'family' bed, couldn't understand why anyone would, etc. etc. I was one of THOSE PEOPLE who judged before doing.

Do you regret starting co bedding?
--Not at all. She started in the bassinet next to the bed, but our room is so awkwardly set up that I couldn't get out of bed. My side was with my nightstand in the only space between wall and bed, then bassinet in front of nightstand, so I had to scoot all the way down the bed to get up. With a horrible tear this was SO miserable. We bought a summer infant co-sleeper thing for in the bed at about 1 month, and then when she outgrew that she's just in between us. Same as @yoursilverlining, her head is right between our pillows (we have a king, so she has tons of room) and the blankets are way low. Before she was rolly, she was on my side and I went in the middle, but I don't want her to squirm off the edge!

How long do you plan to co sleep?
--as long as it works, TBH. we're hoping to try to transition to crib in the spring, when her room won't be arctic freezing. it has a wicked draft.

Does your LO still wake up when you co sleep?
--she wasn't until she got sick 2 weeks ago. she would sleep 7p-3a, then wake and nurse and go right back out again. The last two weeks she's been up every 3-4 hours to nurse. I think out of habit from when she was congested, not sure..

Where does your LO sleep at? In the middle, in your arms?
--middle, but early morning I usually pull her in to snuggle because for some reason 3a is her witching hour! when I snuggle her she goes right to sleep.

we do it sometimes when she wakes up at night, she is older now so its not as scary as the newborn stage. we sleeps in the middle. I definitely didnt plan to co-sleep ahead of time, I did want her crib in our room, which is where it is, but didnt know I would end up bringing her into our bed sometimes

@littlebittyhouse: Same thing happens to me! I usually end up falling asleep with LO and then all the stuff I had planned to do in the evenings is ruined and I'm scrambling in the morning.

@mrsjazz: I end up falling asleep with him too which is glorious until the morning comes and I haven't spent time with the hubs or prepped anything! Then I think about that little sleepy face. So hard.

If co-sleeping is sleeping in the same room we'd planned on doing that for around 6 months, in an Arm's Reach Co-sleeper, but he wasn't down with that, so he moved into our bed, which is what I now consider co-sleeping.

I feel like clarifying as well - co-sleeping to me means same room, but separate beds, which we always planned on doing until at least 6 months. Co-bedding is in the same bed, but in the spirit of the question is what I was referring to when I was answering.

And when I say he "wakes up" I mean he wakes up to dream feed (so not fully awake). It just sucks because it means I have to be awake at first too.