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@BandDmommy: totally agree. I would have loved to have two LOs before I turned 30, but didn't meet my SO until I was 29!

We were 2 and through when I was 33. I really don't know if I would have TTC if I were 35 and still wanted to add to our family.

I think if I had met my SO later in life and really wanted kids, I would try to make it happen despite age. My cut-off at that point would probably be 40.

However, we have been together since high school and got married at 21/22, so we'll be done by 30 (#1 at 24, #2 is due a month before I turn 26, and we want a third eventually).

Yes. I met my husband when I was 34 and had my first at 36. We will TTC when LO is older. I wasn't ready to be a mom in my 20s and I do not regret any of my decisions - love my husband and finally have a job that gives me work life balance.

@blackbird: Well said lol!

@looch: Yes thanks.

Before turning 35 I think I thought of it as some deadline. Then i turned 35 and I felt the same as I did when I was 30. And 33. And 34.

Either way I had my first at 35 and will hopefully have #2 at 37 or 38. I don't regret anything, although sleep deprivation is harder on me now than it was 10 years ago. But 10 years ago I used it for other noble causes.

I'm 35 and am not sure whether or not we're done yet. I had my first at 32 and wouldn't have it any other way. I always planned on living my 20s for me, and me alone, and that is exactly what I did. Even if I had met DH sooner (we met when I was 29) I still wouldn't have considered having kids before 30.

Age doesn't really play a factor in when we stop having babies. I have just as much energy now, if not more so, than I did in my 20s and see no reason why turning 35 should be a turning point where we no longer consider having children. That being said, I have my hands full with my 2.5 yr old and my 10 month old so if we do have a third, it won't be for another 2 years at least!

Haha, ladies, I turned 35, and not only did I live to tell about it, I am going to turn 40 this year. I delivered in Europe, and AMA is not 35 there, it's 40. I do belive that as you get older, your body takes longer to recover, but if you had problems at 35, chances are you would have had problems at 25.

I think the big deal about 35 is that we've all been told for so long that at age 35, your egg quality/count diminishes and you're more likely to deliver a child with special needs.

I had J at 31 and am not sure if we're done. I'm turning 35 this year.

@looch: I asked my doctor about this at my annual visit this year, since I had turned 35 that year. She told me to not even worry about it. She did recommend that I decide by 38, if we are having another or not, since eggs count will start to diminish.

I just had a baby and I'm 36. My pregnancy was no different than my pregnancy when I was 34. I had no additional monitoring and not once was AMA mentioned.

@looch: well shit I'm in my 20's and have plenty of aches and pains, lol. Such is life

I met my husband when I was 32.5 and got married at 34.5. We took a year to just be married, and then it took eight months (and a mc) to conceive. I delivered my first baby two months before my 37th birthday. We are undecided about a second but if we decide to pull the trigger then I hope to deliver for the last time before my 40th birthday.

In my 20s and early 30s I spent nine years living in NYC, travelled to 23 countries on five continents, completed a masters degree, and finally found a company I love working at. It would have been nice to meet my husband a few years earlier, but I can't change that and he was definitely worth waiting for. And while it would be nice to hop on a plane on a whim, I have a lot of good memories from my 20s and am happy to settle down without feeling like my child is holding me back from too much.

@looch: thanks for saying that! Honestly, I think you'll be tired whatever age you have your kids. Fertility wise, I think it's a crap shoot too. I had zero problems getting pregnant in my 30s. But I have several friends who had problems in their 20s and early 30s.

@BandDmommy: I had my 2nd son at 35 and my age was really never mentioned. Well until I developed GD which age is a factor. I wonder if it will be next time.

I probably will be, for LO #2. I'm 32 now with LO due in March. I'd like to have the first potty trained before getting pregnant again, so that puts me at 35. I'll probably be using frozen embryos from our recent IVF cycle, however.

@travellingbee: No, I agree with you.

@regberadaisy: I don't think there was anything lost in translation, you asked a question, people answered based on their experiences. Were you expecting that everyone would have said yes, that they would have preferred to have their kids all before 35?

@travellingbee: I agree. Threads like this are mildly insulting to women who are having children after 35.

I would prefer to be done by 35, just because I'm looking forward to going back to work. We decided that I would stay home with the kids while they're young, but I really look forward to the satisfaction of bringing home a paycheck again. So I see waiting to TTC after 35 as a deterrent to that. I turn 32 next month and LO #2 is 3.5 months so I'll likely be at least 33/34 if we decide to have a 3rd.

I would also say that my feelings are colored by my own experience. My mom had 4 kids by her 30th birthday and she was 22 when she had me. There are some things I liked about having a younger mom, so while there is nothing wrong with having kids after 35, I would just prefer to be done sooner rather than later.