Am I going to be able to handle this? What if the baby is late...and After I had DD I was incredibly sore until 4 weeks and still hurt at 6 weeks.....
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I wouldn't commit to being in a wedding. I was fine by 3 weeks but I wouldn't have wanted to be separated from DD at all. Attend conditionally though.
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There are just too many variables to know for sure . . . you could have an easy-er delivery, fast recovery, and totally feel like you have cabin fever and are dying to get out of the house . . . BUT, really, it seems pretty ambitious.
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@birdofafeather: I committed like 6 months ago... but the wedding was suppose to be in September and now they have to move it up... 3 months.
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@polkadots: Honestly, I would just decline. And the bride SHOULD understand. With a change in the timeline that significant, she should expect that it would cause some people to not be able to participate/attend.
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I wouldn't. the bride should understand... 3 months is a big change!
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@polkadots: by moving the wedding up, they shouldn't assume that commitments are still valid and should revisit the topic with those involved.
Honestly? I am TRYING to look at this with positive perspective but, no...I think it's overly ambitious.
Truly? You may not even feel comfortable GOING as a guest, let alone a be in the wedding party.
I had a very easy delivery, but had a colicky baby and went to a wedding 6w PP with ZERO makeup on and bags under my eyes because I was getting zero sleep. Also, I kept leaking and switching out nipples pads. 'Twas a lovely f-n wedding:) -
Eek. I was induced at 41 weeks and attended a wedding 2 weeks postpartum. I can't imagine being IN a wedding though. I was already exhausted from caring for a newborn. Plus there is no catching up on lost sleep. And your focus really isn't on the wedding... just my two cents.
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I would politely decline. I wouldn't want to be away from LO that long (being in a wedding party means being gone all day!) and what if you are breastfeeding? I think the bride and everyone else will understand.
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@TurtleDoves: I don't see much positive in this either, for me or for my friend the bride. I'll probably be so overwhelmed from delivery, postpartum, adjusting to taking care of 2 LOs, and won't be able to really be active in the wedding.
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@polkadots: yeah, that's crazy with the timeline change. stinks, but the bride has got to know that a change like that means that some people might not be able to be involved.
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I would decline. Your friend should understand!
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I had a bridesmaid in my wedding drop out and she was due three weeks before my wedding. I kinda suspected that she would though so I wasn't too shocked
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I went to a friends wedding three hours away when my baby was three weeks old and it was doable but your due date is only an estimate so you could be looking at two weeks or less.
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@polkadots: aw, I'm sorry for her now...but you have to be realistic. I didn't realize you are having #2! That makes recovery more tough because sleeping and resting is tough with a toddler.
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Terrible idea, imho. You could go late, your baby could need more care than most or be a worse sleeper than average. At that time you'll likely still look pretty pregnant and be recovering from birth. You might just be a week or two out from delivering - and what if you have a csection to recover from?
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I'd decline too. My bff asked me to be her a wedding a month after my duewith DS. I had to decline. I didn't even know how I'd get fitted for my dress.
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@polkadots: I would decline and say even attending is up in the air. The have to understand. I was still soreish at 3 weeks. I could walk around fine, but extended periods of walking and standing would me my have pain.
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No. I'd offer to go as a guest if you can, but not be in the wedding. It's too hard to know.
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I'd offer to go as a guest with the understanding that you may not feel up to attending. I went out quite a bit early on pp with LO but I don't know that I would've enjoyed being at a wedding for several hours having to nurse so often.
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