I feel like we (ok I) have been obsessing over when to start TTC. I want to try and time it with what is going on in the rest of our lives and it is driving me nuts.
I know there will never be a perfect time (and that it may take a long time to get a BFP) but I'm such a planner I cannot help it. Are you trying to plan the timing too?
bananas / 9357 posts
No we're not planning it. I'll take my BFP any month I can get it. Although there are months that I would prefer over others, but it's just so out of my control so I try not to worry about it.
hostess / eggplant / 11068 posts
I tried my best to plan it and was sort of successful - one month off but it was fine. Some people disagree with planning it but I think whatever floats your boat, right?
hostess / wonderful persimmon / 25556 posts
I just wanted her due date to be before the school year cut-off. Her due date is in June. No problem. 
GOLD / cantaloupe / 6703 posts
We wanted to be pregnant and able to announce it at Christmas, no luck. Every time we try to plan it so that we have a special time to announce it or special time for LO to be born, we fail, so no more planning for that for us. Good luck if it works for you though!
persimmon / 1465 posts
Some things you can't plan, no matter how much you might want to. We would prefer if #2 was not born too close to Christmas, which a March BFP would mean, but I will take a BFP whenever I can get it. Life isn't always neat and tidy.
GOLD / wonderful apricot / 22646 posts
The only thing were maybe going to time is taking a break next month (cycle 4) because I don't want to have a Christmastime baby. My coworker is a Christmastime baby and she said it's the worst having her bday overshadowed by the holidays...
pea / 19 posts
Yes, I am a planner and we have been trying to determine the best time to start ttc even though I know it can take ages. We want to time it so that we have a LO in the first half of next year.
I am finding it hard enough determining when I should stop BC because it's also so hard to know how long it will take for my cycles to regulate and when to start folate.
I think I am overthinking it way too much.
pomegranate / 3388 posts
We tried to time our BFP b/c of job-related stuff. I really needed to have a baby between March and June or wait another year. Luckily we got pregnant on try #3, and we're due in April. In general though, you shouldn't expect it to be that easy to time things. I think we got really lucky!
wonderful pear / 26210 posts
We didn't time it per se, the one thing I would have liked to avoid was a December birthday, my son was born the 16th of December. Would I do it again? Yes.
apricot / 348 posts
We're trying to time ours due to job-related schedules - we really need to not have a baby due during the months that are busy time for both my husband and me. We'll see what happens.
GOLD / wonderful olive / 19030 posts
We were just hoping for a non-Christmas time baby, however we wouldn't have stopped TTC in March if it didn't happen. We have an early October due date, so that's perfect. timing for me. I can just start work again after the first of the year and will get a couple paid holiday's for Thanksgiving/Christmas/New Year Day.
honeydew / 7230 posts
When we first started NTNT/TTC, we hoped for a fall baby and if we had gotten pregnant right away we would have had a baby in October. But now it's been a year and we will gladly take a baby anytime
There's nothing wrong with trying to time it just so, but just know that sometimes your body has other plans!
pear / 1614 posts
I tried to plan it, wanted a fall baby, but 17 mos. later when I finally got my BFP the plans had all gone out the window I know a lot of people avoid March/April so they don't have a Christmas baby, and after actually having a Christmas baby (due 12/22, born 12/16) I can understand why. It made maternity leave so much more hectic. But I wouldn't trade it for anything. My SIL tried for several years, had 2 miscarriages, and always avoided march/april. The year they finally decided to stop avoiding that month, they got pregnant!! For the next one, we are just trying to let it happen. (Hard because I am so obsessive, but now I have a baby to distract me.)
pear / 1986 posts
DH and I were just talking about skipping Thanksgiving-New Years due dates, but with no BFP after the first 6 months of trying, I think we will take what we get;).
coconut / 8861 posts
We wanted a summer baby. After four months of trying, I didn't think that we'd get it and I was fine with it. Well, we got an August due date. Only problem for me is that the big conference for my professional organization takes place in September, so I'll likely miss it as well as actively participating in the organization for part of that year.
blogger / wonderful cherry / 21628 posts
When we first started trying we hoped that I wouldn't have a due date from Dec to Feb. But now that we know we have fertility issues we don't care anymore. I'll take a BFP anytime!
pea / 20 posts
After 7 months of TTC, I'd take a BFP any time! I *might* take it easy in March though to avoid a xmas baby -- but who knows, maybe the laid back non OPKing/tempting/CM charting is what it takes to get pregnant 
GOLD / wonderful coffee bean / 18478 posts
Like so many others, we just wanted to avoid having a December baby so it's only skipping one month...no biggie really (no known fertility problems)...
hostess / wonderful persimmon / 25556 posts
I just wanted to add...after reading the title so many times...you really can't plan your BFP. My brother and sister-in-law decided they were going to get married in June so they could have a Spring baby. Her due date ended up being mid-December! Took a little longer than they hoped for, I guess.
blogger / pomelo / 5361 posts
Because of starting a new job in August, I'm completed obsessed with timing, even though I know it's not really in our control. We're planning on starting to TTC right before my new job so that I'll have at least 8 months in the job before I leave. That said, if it ends ip taking a year to get PG, I'll be really upset that we didn't stet earlier...
pineapple / 12053 posts
since january starts my off season, we're not starting until may to avoid being due in december. but the other side of that is that my busy season starts in may! so ideally, i'll get KU within four months. i may be eating my words later, but i don't think i'd stop TTC once we started.
nectarine / 2797 posts
We will try and time the next one I think so that as much of the pregnancy medical expenses as possible fall in one calendar year. We got lucky with this one and got KU the first month we tried, so maybe it will happen again.
Oh, and a December birthday isn't really that bad! I've survived 29 years of it!
persimmon / 1202 posts
Sort of, but not really? I was, on one hand, SO hoping it'd be last cycle (would've tested on Feb. 1 and reclaimed that day from a rather terrible anniversary.) But it also would've been timed so that my husband would've deployed when the baby was under a month old. We're past that time frame now. But this cycle's baby would be due around my birthday, and the next two would be December babies (which would suck financially.)
cantaloupe / 6791 posts
As a teacher, I'd love to have a Spring baby. I'd have maternity leave and then summer, so the baby would be 5-6 months old before I'd return to work. But, I don't really care that much, I just want a BFP at some point, so we're starting TTC this month!
wonderful pear / 26210 posts
@mamabolt: word on the December birthdays, from my son! It's extra work for me that I wish I could spread out to another month, but whatever, I can get all of the mess out of my house at once!
pear / 1787 posts
I will try to plan it so that I give birth over the summer, in hopes that my teaching schedule will not be interrupted...but who knows! I'm thinking that I'll plan as much as I can but realize that that's probably futile and try to be okay with it.
kiwi / 686 posts
I'm a December baby. It sucks. When I was a kid, people forgot my birthday all the time.They'd also give me one present "for Christmas and your birthday".
Nobody comes to your party because they are too busy with Christmas stuff.
Therefore, I'll REALLY, REALLY, REALLY try to not have a Dec or early Jan baby.
I know, a little crazy. But it just don't want them to go through that as a little kid.
kiwi / 537 posts
@mediagirl: that was the only thing I was sort of planning around too!
coffee bean / 33 posts
If it doesn't happen this upcoming cycle #3 ... We will be taking it easy the ext two March/April to avoid the Christmas birthday....
pomegranate / 3225 posts
I thought I had things perfectly planned for with a May due date. Have the summer off work, not pregnant and huge in the summer, etc etc. Then I had a miscarriage. Once that happened, my perspective changed and now I will be thrilled to welcome my LO anytime including Christmas...
honeydew / 7968 posts
we didn't care about timing. we cared about getting pregnant! lol. took us forever. but now that it did, it was perfect timing!
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