Not actively TTC but not preventing either?
In a perfect world, when would you like to get pregnant?
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We are not actively TTC but don't use any kind of protection! I'm aware of my fertile days thanks to my iperiod app on my phone, those are the days when we pull out, other times we don't at all! In a perfect world I would like to be pregnant middle of next year.
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We're NTNP (as much as you can when you have perfectly regular cycles and obvious ovulation cramps) this month as a break after actively ttc for almost 10 months. I needed to relax a little bit and de-stress. Our sex life has definitely been better (less routine and rushed) than it was for the past several months, which is nice.
In an ideal world I would get pregnant this cycle (or you know, 6 months ago...) but I'm not holding out any hope. Realistically I know there is no real reason why this month should be any different than those that came before. (Even though there are a lot of stories out there of couples who get pregnant the first month they stop "trying")
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Hmm...kind of? We got married a month ago and I went off the pill then. I've started charting and had a surprisingly "normal" cycle. I knew when I ovulated (yay!) but due to having a colposcopy, there was no "trying" going on. The plan is to wait until January (when my short-term disability goes into effect) to really "try." I'm assuming come December, things will hopefully be easy to read again, and we'll probably just avoid doing anything around then. At the same time though, it realy wouldn't be the end of the world if I did get pregnant before.
So...kind of.
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We kind of are. Like I am not as crazy as I have been in the past months. I am not trying all the pre seed and clomid and extra vitamins this cycle. We're just having sex every other day if we remember or feel in the mood.
In a perfect world I would be pregnant by now. But then I have some moments of panic thinking I would be a horrible mom with my anxiety. And then other times I think I should try and lose some weight before I get pregnant. So I am all over the place. Obviously I would be head over heels if I got pregnant now, but I just comfort myself thinking it is probably good for me to wait so I can work on myself, then I get all caught up and get obsessed with trying to get pregnant.
Sorry that was all jumbled lol.
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@alayaya: That's the number one thing I hear, "You will get pregnant when you stop trying". Then I have to tell them that actually no I will not, not trying or not thinking about it isn't going to make my body magically start ovulating when I haven't ovulated on my own for almost 2 years lol.
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Well.... I still haven't had my period yet, and we're just using the pull out method so I guess that means we're NTNP, since I could start my period any day now.
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We're TTC, but have taken the NTNP approach this month in hopes that it'll help lessen the stress associated with it since the dr said stressing about it causes the brain to release cortisol (sp?) that tells your body it isn't a good environment for a baby.
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I tried to NTNP after 3 cycles of TTC and it's not going too well. I think it's hard to go from actively TTC and then pretending not to care or know exactly what's going on with your cycle! Perfect world, this would be the cycle I get pregnant.
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I wish I was! hopefully in a year I will be
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We stopped using condoms a few months ago and aren't actively TTC. DH wanted kids close together, I wanted them further apart, and we were very flexible time-wise, in the sense that it would have been fine (work-wise, childcare-wise) if I'd gotten pregnant in August, but it will also be fine if I get pregnant in March. I think that once we've been NTNT for about six months, I'll get more serious about things and start charting, etc. We typically have sex 2-4 times a week anyhow, so we should catch a fertile window at some point without doing anything different! (hopefully!)
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Okay, don't laugh but what is the difference between NTNP and TTC? I don't chart, temp, or take any drugs or chlomid but we are not using protection in hopes of conceiving. Soo, I usually say I'm TTC but now I feel like I'm NTNP?
I would like to get KO in January or February in hopes of an October baby
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in a perfect world..if finances and husband allowed, I would like my children to be about 3 years apart.
id love to start ntnp when she is 2!
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@MrsTiz: NTNP just means you're not actively TTC. If it happens, it happens, but you're not charting or anything to really make it happen.
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Technically, we are NTNP. I'm taking Fertilaid and not charting. I can tell it's doing something though, which is exciting!
In a perfect world I would be pregnant with our rainbow baby by January or February.
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@MrsTiz: lol I'm in same boat. it's TTC for me though cause we BD'ing at what I "think" is the right time, instead of avoiding it like the plague. Checking CM and cycle length is my only trying
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I have a 12 week old and we are ntnp...woo hoo.
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@matador84: right on!
we were NTNP as soon as we got the clear from doc to start doing the deed again after DD was born. Didnt think it would happen so soon but we gor pregnant 5 months after NTNP.
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in an ideal world I would get pregnant in June or July.
But at this point we are just playing it by ear. -
Sort of. It's been almost a year of TTC and I'm tired of "trying". Like other's have said, it's hard to unknow what you've learned about your body. For me it's more about havin sex when we want to, not because it's time, it's sleeping in on the weekend rather than waking up to temp. It's no preseed or OPK. It's being ok with missing ovulation. On the one hand, I'm enjoying the break, but I don't think my body is. After 30 day cycles all year, I'm on track for a 40-day cycle. Lol!
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We are but I stilllllllll haven't gotten my period back yet. LO is just not giving up boobie snacks without a fight and AF doesn't want to come back when she's nursing. I've been trying to beef up but thats' not working either.
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I really want to be ntnp but my type-a personality fights me every month!! Everyone says that you get pregnant when you finally let go, but I don't know how to do that! Any advice?!?
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We will throw caution to the wind after Christmas as DD will be 6 months old by then and getting pregnant any time after that would be just fine with us. I'm still EBF though and haven't had a return of my cycle; maybe once we start solids at 6 months, it will come back but who knows?
I must say, once we decided to NTNP, we need to be 100% ok with possibly getting pregnant right away - we've been pregnant twice (one m/c) and both times it was from the very first time of pulling the goalie - as in one sexual encounter without protection and we were pregnant. I don't know if that will happen in the future, but given our track record, we want to be 100% sure that we're ready for baby #2 once we pull that goalie!
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Kind of? LO is almost 7 months old, and I still haven't gotten my period back. So, we're just not being cautious. We would be thrilled to have another LO on the way.
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@anonysquire, you can laugh all you want but I was on clomid for probably 8 months, decided to stop trying, and i somehow magically ovulated on my own and got knocked up when we were supposedly taking a month off =P
Seriously, no idea how the hell it happened!
PS i totally think ya'all are "ttc' since you all do want to be pregnant
and some of you are technically preventing! cheaters -
@blackbird: We are not preventing at all. We don't pull out or condomize or anything.
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I don't think I ever could--I would either TTC or actively prevent. I can't handle the questions my sleeping brain wakes me up with otherwise!
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@Ree723: this is us as well. LO is 15 months and in an ideal world we would have #2 until she was almost 3. But there is a good chance it will happen before then.
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hubs thinks we're NTNP, but i'm keeping track and charting just for my own records/future dr visits. I'm trying hard not to sway BDing one way or another. I've been off my psoriasis meds for 3 months now and i'm hoping to not have a flare up that would cause me to have to go back on them.
I'd be fine getting pregnant at anytime at this point but ideally we'd conceive in January EDD- October. It would be perfect for work and Mat leave and we wouldnt have to miss 2 weddings planned for late summer.
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@Rainbow Sprinkles: then you would have a February baby like me
only 2 years later lol.I've decided if I can control it, I'd like to have a May/June baby. Or September/October.
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@jocole: I don't have any advice because I am the opposite of you. I am so not type A. I am super go with the flow with everything in my life. But I think i m super laid back about getting pregnant again since I already have a baby.
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C is 4 1/2 months old and I guess we've been NTNP this whole time? Well, we pull out, so I guess that's kind of like preventing. But we don't use condoms, I'm not on the pill, but I am BFing.
Ideally, I'd like to get pregnant in April or May for a Jan/Feb baby, but I would be totally stoked if it happened before then.
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@HabesBabe: haha... well pull out is the only "birth control" i have ever been on in my life and i definitely wasn't NTNP before the past few months
(everyone gives me a funny look when i used to say i wasn't on birth control, like everyone should be if they weren't TTC)
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Or as a friend calls it 'living dangerously'. We've been doing this since 9 months post partum. I got my period back early, but I don't think I'm fertile because my cycles are crazy wack. I'm really loving not using protection and being low stress about it, but we're already getting to the point where we'd like to get pregnant in the near future. For now we're just going to try and have more sex, and see how that works. If not, it might be time to make some hard choices about clomid and or weaning earlier than I'd like.
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We've started talking about it and I'm going to get my IUD out in Jan or Feb, and start trying in April I think. I still haven't had a period yet (8 months PP) so we have to wait for that too I guess.
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i guess we are? but i haven't gotten my period back yet & we have sex so infrequently i'm really not that concerned.
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I couldn't NTNP, at least for the first one. I just wanted to know what was happening when. I hope for our second I'll be able to take a laid back approach like that.
Since people were talking about it, my definitions are:
I see TTC as BDing with the hopes of getting pregnant. Some people are TTC more formally-- OPKs, charting temps and CM, etc; Some people TTC a little more casually, like let's not use protection and have a bunch of sex and hopefully I'll get knocked up.
NTNP, to me, is sure that would be nice, but we aren't BDing with any goal. Like you don't make a point of BDing near the middle of your cycle, but you also don't pull out.
Preventing would include everything from avoiding your fertile window, pulling out, condoms, and actual birth control like the pill, IUD, etc. You just know that some methods of prevention are more effective than others.Are my definitions way different than others?
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@Foodnerd81: i say ntnp is having sex without protection, and ttc is the more formal aspects of it - charting, temp, etc.
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@Foodnerd81: I agree with your definitions. A lot of people that are TTC don't even know about temping/charting...not on the boards but just people in general.
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@lawbee11: Yeah, I have a friend who started TTC at the same time as me. She didn't go nuts with the temping like me, but she purposely stopped using condoms and the pill so she would hopefully get pregnant. I guess it's the intention more than the act (to me at least).
and some of you are technically preventing! cheaters 
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