At first I didn't think so, but over time I think that you just get busier with family... and the things that came naturally at first, become things that you have to schedule and make time for. Although technically, maybe that's more me comparing life with a family versus life pre-family.
How about for you: is married life much different from non-married life?
bananas / 9899 posts
Day to day, so far, not really. I'd say the biggest difference is the way people perceive us and our relationship. People just don't take your relationship as seriously when you introduce a girl/boyfriend rather than your wife/husband.
pomegranate / 3105 posts
I would say yes - no more trying to get out of family events I don't want to go to LOL but besides that and the habits of living together it's the same.
squash / 13208 posts
Married life I think is pretty much the same as non married although I think Married life pre kids and married life after kids is a lot different!
wonderful pear / 26210 posts
When it was my husband and I, no, it wasn't different. We did the same things as before, mostly going out for dinner, travel, etc. The biggest thing though, is that we were long distance and not living together, so that changed.
wonderful kiwi / 23653 posts
Day to day is very different for us since we did not live together while dating or being engaged. So married life is different in a really good way! We weren't long distance while dating, but did not live that close to each other and we have very different work schedules so I love it so much more that at least we wake up & go to bed in the same bed 
pomelo / 5678 posts
Married life is way different for me! Like night and day. Much much better... but like @mrbee: maybe I am thinking of life now with baby... was there life before?
GOLD / pomegranate / 3688 posts
I think so. MY DH and I really struggled with the decision to get married. We were together for a long time and had made some major life investments together (i.e., buying a house) before we made it legal. But, in the end, I think we both agree that being married is somehow different. There is something to be said for knowing that you are *really* in it together, for better or for worse. Divorce isn't really something we believe in, especially after having kids, so I think marriage made us simultaneously better communicators (and more honest with each other) and better fighters (it's more important now that we "fight fair").
cantaloupe / 6869 posts
Since we lived together before marriage, nothing has really changed. I suspect that it will be different when baby comes next month but I feel like we've done our best to set our expectations of how things will change.
honeydew / 7303 posts
Yes! We didn't live together before we were married and now we have a LO too, so everything is way different.
grapefruit / 4136 posts
Not really, we lived together pre-marriage so that hasn't changed. Pre-kids is a LOT different though!
honeydew / 7667 posts
It is for us because we didn't live in the same city while we were dating.
blogger / coconut / 8306 posts
Nope. Moving in together and adjusting to that was more difficult than adjusting to marriage.
But, having a family is another difficult transition!
pomelo / 5469 posts
Nothing! We lived together beforehand, so nothing changed. When people say the first year of marriage is the hardest, I take that to mean the first year of living together. Boy was that an adjustment!
nectarine / 2964 posts
I wouldn't classify it as "married life" and "unmarried life"... because it is more of a long process/transition. The day you get married it won't be a huge difference, but it will be a pretty big difference from the day you first moved in together (unmarried) to 10 years after you are married..... life insurance, health insurance, joint taxes filing as married....etc. Just a lot more chores and detail. Or at least that's the case for me
eggplant / 11716 posts
Married life isn't too different from dating life for me. And we didn't even live together first...but our first year together wasn't much of an adjustment---no fights or anything.
But life after having a baby----VERY different. We're both just so tired all the time and there's always SO MUCH to do. I'm lucky to have a husband that is 100% into parenting so I never feel like I'm doing it alone, but still. Just...Exhausting.
GOLD / cantaloupe / 6581 posts
Not really. We lived together for a year and had already combined our finances. Pre vs Post-baby though? YES.
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