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I think you'll be fine. You will cry in those two weeks, but the course will not be happening after baby. You can do this!

I agree with PP. and you are definitely right that it's better to do now than with a toddler (I think toddlers are 1000x more work!). Could DH do the class and then help out with that next morning's feedings etc so maybe you could sleep in a tiny bit.? If he's home at 10p there will be plenty of opportunities to help out middle of the night etc in the early weeks!

Definitely have him take the course. My DH takes classes at night 3 days a week as well as working full time. I work full time too and we have a 2.5 year old and another on the way. When all is said and done it is annoying but better for the family in the long run and not that big of a deal. 2-4 weeks really is nothing in the grand scheme of things.

@Reese: When it happens, I will give you a virtual hug and all the love and support that you need!

I think it's worth letting him do it now while you're plates are relatively free. You'll be at home and if you have your mom to help you, all the better.

I find that first month is doable, whereas as they get older, it's nice to have dad at home around dinner time. When I initially read this, I was understanding that you both worked ft, you had one kid and were pregnant with another. I would have shouted NO from the rooftops.

You'll be fine. Let him take the course. Better now than later.
Will he be taking any paternity leave?

DH is gone 2-3 nights a week and for at least six hours on the weekends. I have a two year old and a newborn. The newborn is the easy one.

@Reese: Yea I would. My mom was with me on/off for the first month. And DH was too on/off and we both appreciated having her around

@Reese: my dh was in med school when our first was born and lo was due a week or two before classes ended. He was able to take the final a few days late but he still attended classes and did his work and studied because my mom had come to stay with us. I think you will be able to make it work! I also agree it is really helpful to talk with DH about what this might be like as he could be looking at no sleep and finishing up the class, and household expectations.

@Reese: It's always a possibility! DH's class is in a basement so he doesn't get any reception, ha! I know there's always a slim chance I end up having to take E to my neighbor's house and ask a friend to take me to the hospital but i figure the chances are slim that I go into active labor the evening he's gone to the point that I'm basically up shit creek.

You will be fine, though I voted to take the class later. My husband was finishing up his masters at night (in addition to his full time job) and he took a quarter off when LO was born. He went and finished it up after she was a few months old. I think it would have been really hard for us if he was gone the first weeks, though we would have managed.

It will only be harder for him to take it if he waits. It will be tough the first couple of weeks but with you being home on mat leave it's totally doable!

He should do the class. If you can plan for family or friends to come visit and bring you dinner on the nights he is away, that will make it easier. There were lots of people who wanted to visit when DS was pretty new and I scheduled them for nights when DH had late work. It gave me a little break, a good meal, and some adult company.

Yeah, I'd try and make it work if it's something beneficial to his career or whatever. You might need to get creative at the end, but it'll still be far easier than doing it with a kid in the house. Hands down.

My husband was in business school when our first came. Because she was late his finals put her at about a week old. He ended up getting a hotel room for that week because he needed to rest. It was hard, but totally doable. It was just the beginning of "hard." And, in hindsight it was not a big deal!

My husband will be in classes 2-3 nights a week up until the week before my due date (he's going to see if he can take his exams early, so he'll be done 2 weeks before). He goes back to class 2 weeks after my due date, 2-3 nights a week again. We both work full time- he'll have 2 weeks of paternity leave and I'll have 4-6 weeks of maternity leave. It's not ideal, but we'll make it work.

It sounds like your husband really won't be missing that much time away from home by taking his class- possibly a few days after the baby is born, but that's it. He might miss just as much staying late at work or going out with friends a few times.