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I'm dealing with this too, although I just went back to school to finish my degree this semester and OMG, it is so nice having two days a week that I get to interact with other adults. It's even harder now that I have two, because most of the playgroups and story time activities (though they are few and far between where I live) are geared towards toddlers, and the baby is getting old enough to not be content with just chilling out while I do stuff with his big brother.

No advice really, just commiserating!

I'm not sure how many weeks PP you are but this was totally me, especially in the beginning. Still do feel that way sometimes, but it's getting better.

I know it's not exactly what you want to hear, but it WILL get better ask your LO gets older and more like a person. Then it feels like you're with a little person and not a blob Which is less lonely in itself.

Another thing I like to do is just go for a walk or just go somewhere for coffee. Just being around other people reminds me that there is a world out there. It's easy to get cooped up, especially in winter.

Lastly, someone recommended to me that I take Vit D, B Complex and Fish Oil. They really helped! I found I felt extra lonely when I was still a bit PPD/bluesy. These vitamins can help boost mood and energy, which in turn makes you less susceptible to the sad/lonely thoughts. It worked for me, but of course doesn't mean it will work for everyone. But they are natural vitamins that we all need anyway so maybe can't hurt?

Sounds like you just moved, so maybe do some googling for new moms groups in your area? I'm in NYC so it's pretty easy, not sure what more suburban areas are like, if that's where you are...but having a group of moms as a soundboard was great at first. And in the 5 months since I joined they have become very close friends. It's a group of about 10 girls and I see at least one of them once a week. We've set aside Wednesday's as our penciled in get together day and usually someone is willing to do a play date or get lunch. It has made a HUge difference!

Probably not sharing anything groundbreaking, but hope it might help a little.

If you want to chat more, feel free to message me!

I wasn't as lonely when I had DD1. But this time around im losing it. I think a mix of the weather (im south of Boston) and not being able to get out of the house, DH working long hours and just generally being with an infant and a two year old around the clock. I signed her up for a music class that starts in 2 weeks so hopefully that'll help ease some of the winter blues.

I'm with you - I'm home with a 9 month old and 2.5 year old and have done really lonely days. We recently moved too and managed to make s few friends before the holidays/cold weather set in, but I'm really hoping we can meet more when it warms up and is easier to do informal meet ups outdoors.

I've struggled with finding moms groups, since the ones for older kids are well established, and I feel bad bringing a toddler to hang out with first time moms and new babies.

I try to FaceTime family each day so I get to talk to an adult. That helps a bit with feeling lonely.

Classes help, although I have t really made friends to hang out with outside of class. I think I iust need to be more assertive and "make the first move" in arranging playdates, haha. But that's hard!

Awe don't worry things will get better as the weather gets better! I've always been a person who doesn't mind a lot of alone time but even towards the end of winter with the lack of things to do and people to see eventually gets to me too. It will feel easier once you have the freedom to go sit outside or play at the park. It will also get easier when your LO gets older and more like a companion. My older DD is 2.5 and feels more and more like a little girl versus a baby every day. Also don't hold back from chatting with the grandparents and nannies when you're out! Sometimes having an adult conversation (no matter with who) makes you feel less isolated.

@littleredhairedgrl: Hugs! It will get better as the sunshine comes

We are so lucky that the weather has been beautiful but I have the issue of being a very self isolating person. I don't know what happened to me because I was such a social creature in my 20s but in my 30s I became much more reclusive and I find that I hate making plans or being hemmed in to social situations even though I'm sure I need the interaction. I'm making more of an effort these days not just for myself but for my son. I have become very socially awkward though and seem to prefer socializing on media. It's sick and sad. Seeing an old friend today which will help. It's hard but it's up to us to find ways to make new friends. Meetup.com, local indoor parks, childrens museums, library storytimes, and Facebook groups can help.

I totally understand! I'm only home alone with LO for 3 days a week, but I still feel lonely... this cold Chicago winter is making me blue as well since it's too cold to leave the house most days!

It definitely can be rough and lonely but I think sometimes you have to be the person who butts into conversation and says hi. We moved away from all our friends and family last year and I really had to make an effort to say yes to any invitations and introduce myself to people so that I could rebuild my support network.

I'm not a SAHM but I take one day off a week to be with M. We've connected with some great mamas through (indoor) swim classes and moms groups. Don't get discouraged with moms groups though, it's taken us going to a couple of different ones until I found a good group of women that I like hanging out with. And I've been to quite a few events/classes where people were not as friendly as I'd expected. Just keep trying new activities and meeting new people and you'll find your tribe of mamas I definitely feel like finding new mom friends is kind of like dating! It's hard work, emotionally draining, and time-consuming!

Interesting. I've actually found that being a Sahm gets me out of the house more. My anxiety wad so much worse pre-zuma and now I don't want to keep her shut in with my loner self all day so I make myself get out. And I've also made new friends in my neighborhood just from having kids in common.

I'm sorry you are struggling I'd try and find a local playgroup and go from there!