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@SweetiePie For all of my cycles (fresh and frozen) they have me on birth control for 2-3 weeks starting on CD3, and transfer is 6 weeks from start of BC. I think for my fresh I started stims a few days after BC, after the baseline bloodwork and ultrasound. I'm anxious too! If only I could tame the anxiety/impatience this year would be so much better!

@Winnie13: I started responding very slowly and then things started rising on day 7 of stims. Praying things start rising for you.

I've been feeling pretty good after the ER but have been waking up various times at night to use the bathroom. My bladder gets so swollen and it wakes me up. I told my nurse today and she says it could be the progesterone. I'm also having some lower back aches. Anyone have this happen post ER?

@LoveHope: I also don't remember those specific issues, but if they are getting worse, I'd definitely get looked at. Everything was very sensitive down there for me for at least a week to ten days. How high did your estrogen get?

@LoveHope: I had this quite a lot after my second retrieval for some reason. I don't think I was able to empty my bladder fully because of all the swelling post-retrieval. The nurse gave me a hint about leaning super forward while you're on the loo, to try and squeeze as much out as possible. I don't know if it'll help you, but hopefully worth a try! xx

@LoveHope: Good luck for the transfer tomorrow! I agree that no news is good news!

Still haven't heard back from my RE's office about getting started. Boo. Makes me think that my desired timeline is unrealistic since I've already lost a few days waiting to hear back. Oh well I'll just keep riding them!

@LoveHope: So glad to hear you had a successful transfer!! Wonderful that you ended up with 5 on this cycle.

@LoveHope: Oh yay!!! That's the best outcome you could have hoped for. Will you poas before your beta?

@Winnie13: YES!!! Finally heard back this morning and now that I have they are rockin and rolling. Meeting them on the 19th which is probably not soon enough for my timeline but if we can only be off by a month or so I'm good with that. And like I said, my desired timeline is exactly that - desired. It's not like if we miss a specific window Im screwed.
They sent me a bunch of forms to look over and they know when id like to start so that's all good.

Question for everyone - if I only want to do one retrieval/round - do I tell my doc that so that he can figure it into my protocol? Like maybe he'll be more aggressive with stims and retrieval if he knows I'm not willing to do more than that?
Last time when we were trying for LO1 I didn't have any rules or restrictions so that didn't come up.

@Mrs. Pajamas: Yeah that was my initial thought too but then I wondered. I guess it's good to let him know what my exact plans are.
I'm a little cynical and I worried that if I tell them that they won't see as many $$$ and will deprioritize me. Lol. I guess as I write it, it sounds pretty silly.

All: feeling super ragey right now and thankful for this space to vent. I just met DH at our clinic to sign the consent forms for PGD. It was seriously like pulling teeth to get him to agree on a time to do this this week (even though it took less than 20 min roundtrip for both of us) and I'm feeling so frustrated. He is a wonderful father and wants #2 just as much as I do but it makes me so angry that 99% of the responsibility for making this baby happen is on my shoulders. All the damn dr. appts, the blood draws, the ultrasounds, remembering the forms, making appts, remembering to take meds, enduring countless shots, thinking through timelines, researching options, etc. Why???? I get that only I can carry our baby but it makes me so mad that this is not in the forefront of his mind. It feels like there is so much more he can be doing and I bring it up all the time and still nothing. And I would never say this to him but it makes me especially angry that I'm doing all the work and we are in this mess due to MFI. Gah! Anyone else feel this way?

Hello ladies ,
Sorry had a bad news . My HCG raised till 26000 but I miscarried the same day on 07/06, Didn't want the frighten anyone . Thanks for checking on me . Iam kind of regrouping myself after the loss .

It's good to know everyone are doing good. Hope it works for me next time

@Janny: I'm so sorry, hun.

@Mrs. Pajamas: Rage away! I used to get frustrated at my hubby too, not that he intentionally made things difficult.. he just didn't 'get' it sometimes.

@SweetiePie: I would be telling him, yep. Throw everything at this one!

@Winnie13: Sounds good. Cheering on!

@LoveHope: What a rockstar cycle.

@Janny: I'm so so sorry to hear this. Take the time you need to heal and then rejoin us when you're ready.

@Mrs. Pajamas: RAGE AWAY! this is the place to do it. I get mad when my husband says things like "oh well our life won't change much for almost a year anyway" when I voice my fears of having a 2nd LO. And I finally snapped and said "you know what, life might not change for you until the baby is physically with us, but life changes for me the second we decide to go through IVF again. Right away I have 7am monitoring every other day and shots and transvag ultrasounds and a retrieval and then a transfer and all while caring for a toddler. And then assuming it sticks I have 9 months of pregnancy and all of the discomfort and fears that go with it. So don't tell me that life won't change until the baby is here."
He was pretty apologetic after that.

There's a book for men called "what to expect when she's not expecting" and it basically helps them understand what we are going through physically and emotionally with treatments and so forth. It's actually a humorous read. There's a chart that shows what women do and what men do for infertility. For the woman's column it's everything you could think of. All the poking and prodding and procedures. And in the men's column all it says is "jerk off in a cup". That also put things into perspective for him.

Hello Ladies!
Hope you all had a wonderful weekend!
I just had my Dr.'s appointment. Everything went well! My lead follies are all around 16mm. I'll stim tonight and tomorrow (a total of 12 days), trigger on Wed., and retrieval is set for Friday morning at 7:45! Very excited! There is a chance we will have to do a "freeze all" and do a FET in August. Hoping we don't have to, but It's all in God's timing! All I keep thinking is, I'll do whatever we have to!
How is everyone doing?

@Winnie13: How exciting! Wishing you all the best this Friday!

@Mrs. Pajamas: So glad you got to share that moment! That's wonderful news about your insurance!!
@PurplePumps: I'm sorry your feeling so down. All you need is one strong little embie! Praying they can get more than you think when ER comes!
@agold: I'm not too sure about the freezing process, but I'll definitely ask when that time comes.

Thank you all for the well wishes and the advice! It makes me feel so much better! It's so nice to have this community in times of uncertainty! Is there anything I should ask in particular if this gets switched to a FET?
Tonight is my last day of stims!!! Yay!!! So happy about that!

@Winnie13: I only have a quick minute to post, but I did an endometrial scratch prior to my FET and I truly believe that it helped! It was maybe $500 (because of my deductible to be covered first), so not great but not horrible either. I am also in the camp that FETs are so much easier on the body. Mine was a breeze!

@yellowbeach: Hi and welcome. So sorry you have to be on this board but there is so much support from all the ladies on here. Good luck and hoping you have a good fertilization report!