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If I had known when I first got married that it would take so long to ttc I would have started ttc earlier, everytime I get a bfn i regret not starting earlier but cant do anything about it now just have to be patient i guess

The only thing on that list that I would change is that I would have changed my bridesmaids. My maid of honor ended our friendship right after the wedding. (I was mostly in the wrong, but I don't understand why she couldn't forgive me after a 10 year long friendship). I think I would have no bridesmaids at all, quite honestly.

ETA: I would have also started TTC earlier, had I known we would still be trying after 7 months.

Pick the same major in college? Yes - led me to my current career
Pick the same career path? Yes - love the flexibility and the work is pretty interesting
Have the same wedding? No - way differnet bridal party, different theme and venue, would invite different people
Have the same amount of kids? Yes
Make another life decision differently? Probably would've tried to save more before having kids! It never seems like we're making enough, but when I look back to the pre-kids era, i think, wow where did i spend all that money??

My college and major would have stayed the same. I would have probably pursued the same career path after college.

I met DH when I was 25, but I was totally not attracted to him. During the course of our friendship, we both decided to go to law school but on opposite sides of the country and he spent 2 years in a dead-end relationship. If we had started dating sooner, back when we lived in the same city, I don't think I would have gone to law school and perhaps we would have gotten married sooner. That would have saved us a lot of money in law school loans and perhaps we wouldn't have had so many TTC issues.

But I feel like hindsight is 20/20 and looking back, everything happened the way it was supposed to. At the point when we DID start dating, we were totally different people and ready to settle down. Because we were such good friends to begin with, we got engaged in 4 months and got married 6 months after that, just before I turned 30. And I wouldn't change our wedding, except for the rain!

The only two decisions I wonder about were 1) The private college I chose to attend 2) where I studied abroad. I sometimes wish I had chosen to attend a public school with the same major as I know my debts would be much lower but I met some of my favorite people in the world at college so I'm still not sure about that. I also wish I had studied abroad somewhere that required a different language. I think I'd be better off in my job/life if I was fluent in another language besides English. Otherwise, I'm very happy with my choices in life.

Pick the same major in college? Yes
Pick the same career path? Yes
Have the same wedding? Yes
Have the same amount of kids? Well....
Make another life decision differently? Maybe I wouldn't have lied to my parents as much and wouldn't have been such an asshole to them when I was a teen.

I believe that if I hadn't gone to my first college and then hadn't transferred to my second college, I never would have met my husband, never would have gotten my first job in TV and never would have had this child. I wouldn't do anything differently there.

While I try to practice gratitude for the wonderful people/things/experiences in my life now, I would do a lot of things differently. Have I learned a lot a long the way? Sure. Have I carefully considered the decisions I made in my life? No.

Major-no- and I would have skipped grad school since I don't need it to teach here. Lots of debt and no benefit.
Career path- probably even though it pays shit. I really love teaching.
Same wedding? Totally except Id have gotten a planner. That was so much stress but it turned out perfect!
Same kids- definitely

Major- my major was fine, but I would skip law school.
Career path- I think I should have just been a paralegal instead of a lawyer. Half of them make more than I do as a lawyer and have way less stress.
Same wedding - yes 100%
Same kids - still on the 1st one, but time will tell!
Other life decisions - I wish I had traveled more and saved more money, but that's just general life grumblings

Pick the same major in college? - maybe. Or Maybe a double major.

Pick the same career path? - maybe? I like what I do, but there are so many other options out there, I wish I had dug around more.

Have the same wedding? - absolutely.

Have the same amount of kids? - yes.

Make another life decision differently? - maybe. But even bad decisions eventually led to really good things, so it would be too bad if some of those things were altered. Changes with major things probably would have led to a totally different life.

Pick the same major in college?
Yes.. I don't know what else I would've really majored in.. But maybe I wouldn't have double majored to save myself some sanity and get a higher GPA, haha!

Pick the same career path?
Yes, more or less. It's not the most exciting career and I don't make a ton, but I like the flexibility and work-life balance it gives me esp now that I have DD

Have the same wedding?
Nooo way. We had 500+ at our church ceremony and 400+ at reception. It was crazy! If I could do it again I'd just have a small intimate wedding in Mexico or something!

Have the same amount of kids?
We only have one, plan to have another, so so far so good

Make another life decision differently?
I wish I studied abroad!

If I could do it all over again, and know that I'd have the husband and child I have, sure, I'd make some changes. As it is, I wouldn't have met my husband if I hadn't made the choices I did. I don't have any regrets.

I would have been more practical with my schooling choices. State school instead of private university. More practical degree instead of English literature. More lucrative summer jobs.

I would make more of an effort to build a career for myself before having kids, if for no other reason to have more money in savings. I would travel more before having kids as well.

I would have the same wedding, absolutely.

Still planning on more kids, so on track with that.

I wouldn't really change anything. If I hadn't gone where I went to college and studied what I did, I probably wouldn't have ended up where I am (physically) and wouldn't be married to DH. And we wouldn't have gotten married any earlier in lives because we simply weren't ready.

The only thing I might change if I knew what I know now when I was a younger adult is to appreciate certain things more. Like our fathers and families, and the dynamics that are never totally clear until it's too late.

Pick the same major in college? I probably wouldn't have done my diploma (but I went from a high school drop out to college and then used that as a basis to get into university, soooo) and i DEFINITELY shouldn't have taken a 5 year break from university.
Pick the same career path? Not applicable.
Have the same wedding? Probably wouldn't have gotten married actually. Not sure why I felt it was important to get married first in order to have kids
Have the same amount of kids? Not done yet.
Make another life decision differently: getting married is a big one; but without being married I wouldn't have lo1, so I can't really say that.

I think I might have picked a different career, BUT my internship which lead to my career led to meeting DH so yea...

Pick the same major in college? - yes and no. I would have gone more of a public policy/nonprofit management route, given what I ended up doing, but being a politics major did get me here so I guess it wouldn't be a huge change.

Pick the same career path? - I wouldn't have wasted 7 years in research and policy to find out how much I hated it and gone straight into operations, program and project management.

Have the same wedding? - absolutely not. I didn't want the wedding I had to start with, but cultural traditions (husband's) made me lose that fight.

Have the same amount of kids? - I'm in the one and done camp for now and think that's not likely to change.

Make another life decision differently? - I wouldn't have gone to the college I did. It was too expensive and didn't give me the bang for the buck I wanted. Otherwise I don't really have any regrets.

Lots of No's for me. lol. Except the kids thing. But, I am happy with how life has turned out.

I think one thing I regret is that I wish I strategized better financially with college. I could've saved myself a lot of money if I pushed harder for scholarships and took my reqs at the community college. But, I think it was because I was younger and didn't know vs. making bad choices.

I love where my life is now and I wouldn't change anything that would jeopardize that. Sure I can say maybe I should've majored in something closer to my grad degree or that I wasn't really suited to the college I went to, but all those steps brought me to this career and meeting my husband when I did.

Every choice I made brought me here, and every mistake made me appreciate all the good things I have.

Pick the same major in college?
Yes!

Pick the same career path?
Yes sort of but I would have accepted a different job offer, or maybe got another job after a while. It might not be better but I wouldn't want to go through what I have gone through here again.

Have the same wedding?
Sure! Our wedding was great.

Have the same amount of kids?
Not sure yet, but at this point in life I'm happy with what I have.

Make another life decision differently?
Bought a bigger house when we had the chance! Though I don't totally regret what we did, we bought an affordable house not knowing what the future was going to be. So I guess I'm glad we made the right choice at the time but I guess right now I wished we stretched back then.