I am at my wit's end with removing my leg hair!!!!!!

I've never had good luck with it... when I started shaving I would always get ingrows and I would tell curious friends it was bug bites. My hair is not super dark so I've often just "got away with it" but I think it's more coarse/thick so that's probably why.

Recently we moved to FL and now we have a place with a pool, and I'm out and about more with LO. My legs are MISERY. Especially my upper legs and bikini line. After shaving they almost never feel 100% smooth, and I always get red bumps/irritation/ingrowns. And they always feel itchy and almost "vulnerable" (?) after I shave- like if I sweat, they sting. I bought Tend Skin recently to help. I have tried using shaving cream, soap, conditioner- everything I can afford and no change. I also changed to men's razors which helps a bit (using a "sensitive" Schick Hydro now) but I would probably have to use a new one each time which probably would cost as much as child care

I'm thinking about waxing but 1) how do you find a place? I can't post to FB "HEY WHO KNOWS A GOOD BIKINI WAX PLACE IN ORLANDO? 2) It's pricey from what I remember 3) I don't know that it would even help 4) What's the point if you have to let it grown out again before waxing again?

Oh and dermatologist isn't going to happen... $50 copay for a visit alone? Nope. I did that for my skin (bad acne) and after $120 of visit, RX, and products I saw ZERO results. Not doing that crap again.

Anyone have any go-to shaving or waxing tips/products etc?