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@illumina: We had the exact same thing happen; it's developmental. Unfortunately he stayed at that until about 4.5 months, when his awake time lengthened and his naps went to 45, and then around 5.5 months we did pick up/ put down so he fell asleep on his own and they still stayed at 45. He outgrew it around 6m when he transitioned to two naps. Not much you can do but wait it out.

@illumina: I'm sorry! J has been taking really shitty naps lately too and will fall asleep on me but the second I try to put him down to sleep he wakes back up. It's annoying but I figure since he sleeps so well at night I can't really complain. He does sleep well in the carrier or the car too.

M didn't take proper naps until she was over 12 weeks old. I know it's hardly any consolation now, but it will get so much better soon!

@illumina: oh we were up at the same time! C went to bed late (our fault, got home late). Woke normal time or motn feeding, would fall asleep in my arms, wake up when I put her down. Dh bounced her to sleep, woke up five minutes after he put her down. Brought her into our bed and fed her, woke up half an hour later in a perfectly still warm bed with mom right there. Dh finally got her back to sleep in her crib where she slept for almost two hours. Feeding her now and acting like its motn in hopes that she goes back down. And to be clear, half hour naps weren't our problem. NO naps were I was jealous of their 30 minute naps!

Ugh I'm so sorry- I know how frustrating it is. It makes it harder when you read book or hear from other parents about how long the naps "should" be at a certain age. Honestly, my DD simply wouldn't nap well unless I held her, until she was 6 months old. No swing, bouncer, or crib would do. I got into babywearing with a woven wrap and it was a HUGE help- she'd sleep or calmly look around, and I could move around and use my hands. Wovens also don't have to be retied like the Moby does when taking baby in and out (because woven wraps don't stretch), so that was great for all the diaper changes and nursing sessions. All I can say is DD at 18 months still isn't a great napper- we're lucky to get an hour, rarely 2, and she's apparently "supposed" to be taking a 3 hour nap. Once I accepted each kid is different and has different sleep needs, just like adults do, I was able to handle it a bit better. Also talking to my mom and learning I was never much of a napper either made me feel better. Hang in there and just focus on what works best for your particular baby, and don't worry about fitting any molds- sleep is so extremely tricky with little ones!

Darn. M is 3.5 weeks old and doesn't take naps during the day unless I'm holding her in my arms or the carrier. If I wait until she's asleep and then put her down in the swing, RnP, or crib she wakes up after a few minutes. I'm bummed to read the responses because it seems like M will follow suit and just not nap. *sigh* Hard to get anything done! On the positive side, at least she sleeps soundly in 3-4 hour stretches at night.

@erinpye: I have to agree that reading what they *should* be doing makes it even worse. It's so frustrating.

@illumina: she did sleep for another hour and a half curled up with me, which was nice, then refused to nap for hours. She finally took one good nap and I'm putting her to sleep early now, with the time change and crappy sleep. It's been another rough day.