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@knittylady: isn't it amazing how feeling shitty can be so re-assuring! I (violently) gagged on my toothbrush last night and instantly felt more "pregnant" ... even my DH smiled and said "now here is the pregnant Jen I know"
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@dc yoga bee: sorry
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And I'm spotting...definitely out. So disappointing! Even more disappointing has been the stress this has placed on my marriage. In our follow up appointment DH was asking questions about reproductive immunology and the fact that I get hives sometimes ( I do have concerns that my immune system just won't let me get pregnant, but I've managed to quash them), in a condescending way in an attempt to get the doctor to back him up in evidence that I'm crazy. I was so embarrassed and put on the spot because I didn't know how to respond. He's trying to shove his optimistic laid back attitude down my throat and invalidate all of my concerns and feelings. It makes me so freaking mad.
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@Tionn3: I'm so sorry you're feeling that way. Maybe it would be a good idea to sit down with your husband and explain this? I feel like most guys don't realize when they're being insensitive assholes until you point it out.
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My left ovary is aching today and I'm getting occasional sharp pains. There better be some amazing follicles growing in there.
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@mrskansas: I pointed it out to him last night and we just ended up getting into a fight. This isn't something new to TTC either. He does this all the time, mostly around his family or friends and it always starts off with " Wife LOOOOOVES to talk about autoimmune, it's her favorite thing". I hate it, it's like publicly shaming me. I get random bouts of hives multiple times a year for the last 4 years and I've been trying to figure out what it is and he just makes fun of me for it, and everyone I've talked to says it's reasonable to try to get it figured, but no, not him.
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@Tionn3: That really sucks! Sometimes it's so hard to get your partner to really listen to you. I often feel like my husband doesn't really get what I'm saying until I freak out. I'll say something calmly like 10 times and then the 11th time I lose it, we get into a fight, and then hours later he's like "I'm so sorry." WTF dude? Like just listen to me the first damn time!
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@Tionn3: Oh and he also does this thing where he's like "how come I'm always the one in trouble?" And I'm like... "Uhhh, because when I say or do something that upsets you, you tell me, and then I apologize and we move on. When you say or do something that upsets me, I tell you, and then you spend an hour trying to rationalize your behavior! And you don't listen to me until I'm in tears!"
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@Tionn3: That's so frustrating. Is it possible that he's stressed out about TTC and just uses that as a "front"?
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@bizwitch: yeah that is pretty much the escalation that happens with us to. I say it in a neutral tone, he doesn't understand, I say it again, still doesn't understand, until I start getting pissed and usually throw the " you're not listening to what I'm saying" to which he gets frustrated and says " I don't know what you want from me". Men.
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@bizwitch: LOL right?! This happens too! He tells me I've done something to upset him I acknowledge it apologize and move on. I swear it's a y chromosome specific thing, not being able to admit you hurt the other person. It's not necessarily about being right or wrong, but when someone says " hey, you've hurt my feelings" you don't get to stand there and argue " no I didn't".
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@Tionn3: LOL! Or like "I didn't meant to." Ha no shit you're my husband I assume you don't purposely do things to hurt me, right? Or "I'm sorry, but"... I'M sorry but THAT is NOT an apology!
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@Tionn3: I basically have started pointing it out to him when I do something shitty and then apologize to him. So he can... see how it's done. And realize it's not just a matter of me always putting him on the hot seat. It's more a matter of how we respond differently to criticism. Like it can literally be a tiny thing - like a rude tone of voice - and I'm like "Whoa hey, don't be rude okay?" and half an hour later we're screaming because he won't apologize!
That said, I should note my husband has been pretty amazing when it comes to TTC. I can't imagine how hard it must be for you to have your DH being a shit on top of all the stress and emotions involved in this process.
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Cycle Day: 12
TTC Cycle: infinity plus 1 (I've lost count)
Ovulation Date: 2/10
POAS Date: 3/25
Baby #: 1
What's up this month: Just got a blinky smiley face on my OPK today! Hoping for a solid one tomorrow or Friday!!
For Fun: What do you look forward to when spring begins? RAIN! I love rain. -
@chypmunk: My OPKs were darker in the afternoon/evening, compared to my morning ones.
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@Tionn3: Ew, I'm sorry, that's not cool--especially in front of other people.
@bizwitch: I started pointing things out to DH too. He used to make comments in front of friends about me before (not related to TTC, but about household habits) in an attempt to be funny. He's now learned that when I give him a certain look, it means he needs to reel it back or he's in deep shit when we get home.
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@madisonbee: LOL! Nice approach.
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@bizwitch: It took a while! He had no idea what the look meant and would say in front of everyone, "what are you looking at me like that for?!" My girl friends would laugh and KNOW he was in trouble. I had to have a serious talk with him about signals to know in public.
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Positives
msmini shellio
3/9 freelikewater
3/14 snarkybiochemist
3/17 mrsbubbletea, oureastandwest
3/18 bizwitch, bananasareyellow
3/21 raspberry
3/25 marfi
3/26 madisonbee
3/27 ttcbee
3/29 mrskansas
3/31 bushelandapeck, peacelily
TBA lilyofthewest mrs.panda
Cheerleader coral
goodluck everyone -
How's everyone doing today?
I took my last Clomid pill last night and I feel so... bloated- like I ate a 20 oz steak but it's sitting in my uterus. Fun stuff.
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@mrskansas: Sorry to hear about the bloat, I only felt bloated right around ovulation since Clomid made me produce 3 follicles and my first round of femera I produced 4. Thankfully we lowered the femera dose this time and I produced 1 and felt so much less bloated.
I'm doing ok, trying not to obsess over everything my body does and working on not freaking out about my plan to just wait for the blood test on Tuesday, a negative HPT plus a call from the nurse saying negative is just too much. I'm 9 DPIUI so symptom spotting is high.
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@snarkybiochemist: Oh yeah you're right on the edge! 9 DPO sucks.
Do you know if you actually ovulated more than 1 egg or you just had more follicles? I can definitely feel something going on in there so it makes me wonder.
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@mrskansas: I had multiple follicles and used a trigger shot, so if they had eggs they ovulated.
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@snarkybiochemist: Interesting. I was doing some research on trigger shots yesterday and it's pretty crazy how it actually works.
I don't think I'll have an ultrasound so I won't know what's going on
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@mrskansas: I'm sorry you won't get to see whats going on, it was the only good part for me
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@snarkybiochemist: yeah I'm just trying to trust the process and see what happens. I do have an appointment with the RE on the 14th (CD 13) so I may ask for an ultrasound while I'm there. I guess it depends on when I actually end up ovulating though.
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@mrskansas: Are they drawing blood to monitor hormones or just hoping that since you typically ovulate the Clomid will just make that ovulation stronger
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@snarkybiochemist: They just want it to be stronger. The only direction I was given was to take a test and if I'm not pregnant they will up the dose to 100 mg.
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@mrskansas: Ah ok, since I don't normally ovulate on my own they wanted to monitor to make sure that follicles develop and are released.
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Got another blinky smiley face today! I'm super excited about it since I never got any smiley faces last month!!!
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@mrskansas: the bloating sounds uncomfortable. i hope you feel better.
@snarkybiochemist: FX for you!
I'm just feeling blah. CD 6 so AF is gone but too early to start opks or anything.
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@Marfi:
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@Marfi: woohoo
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@Marfi: That's exciting! I love getting smiley faces on ovulation tests.
The blinking smiley faces give me PTSD though. Last time I used the advanced digital OPKs I had 11 days of blinking smiley faces. I finally gave up testing after the 11th day and ended up ovulating over a week later, which makes me think I would have had close to 20 days of blinking smileys that month...
That's not the norm though so I'm sure you will get a solid smiley any day now - good luck!
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I'm out
huge temp drop this morning and spotting now.
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@Freelikewater: Sorry.
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@Freelikewater: I'm sorry
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@Freelikewater: I'm sorry
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@Freelikewater: sorry
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@jhd: @snarkybiochemist: @mrskansas: @knittylady: Thanks, ladies
msmini shellio 
Good luck next cycle! 
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