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@snarkybiochemist: You can take me off the list - DH got cold feet so we're no longer TTC. Ugh.
Good luck to everyone!
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@bananasareyellow: I'm sorry to hear, hopefully you guys can have a good talk about everything and figure out a new time line.
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Positives
msmini shellio
3/9 freelikewater
3/14 snarkybiochemist
3/17 mrsbubbletea, oureastandwest
3/18 bizwitch
3/21 raspberry
3/26 madisonbee
3/27 ttcbee
3/29 mrskansas
3/31 bushelandapeck, peacelily
TBA lilyofthewest mrs.panda
Cheerleader coral
goodluck everyone -
@bananasareyellow: sorry to hear that. Hope you guys can agree on a timeline soon. We struggled last year on similar issues and it was so discouraging because there's not really a compromise other than timeline. Like one person is ready, One's not, you have to go by one who's not. So I send you
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@snarkybiochemist: @mrsbubbletea: Thanks, ladies.
We had a good talk last night and I have a feeling he'll come around in a couple months.
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@bananasareyellow: sorry about having to put TTC on hold, but I'm glad you guys had a good talk about it. Best of luck to you
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@jhd: Thank you!
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I'm starting to get really uncomfortable with moments of actual pain. If it continues through tonight, I'm going to call my doctor in the morning.
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@snarkybiochemist: No rush and I honestly don't mind if you don't even change it, but I somehow got my dates confused and will be POAS on the 15th.
Not sure how I got it wrong when I am constantly obsessing about it, going on the countdown to pregnancy "pregnancy test timing calculator" at least once per day!
Now just gotta get through this work weekend, hopefully being so busy keeps me distracted! And looking forward to some wine tonight and tomorrow night -
@mrskansas: crap I think thats a good idea. Keep us updated. I was actually thinking when I read one of your recent threads, maybe you should see the doc. Hope you feel better.
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@mrsbubbletea: Maybe it's just gas pain?? Lol. I usually never experience that though so I doubt it.
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@Marfi: That's great! Positive OPKs are such a relief.
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@Freelikewater: Sorry sister.
for next cycle.
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@bananasareyellow: Oh man, what a bummer! Sorry lady.
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@snarkybiochemist: Is your "trigger shot" HCG? They used that word, "trigger," when they were talking about my HCG shot, but only at the way way end with an NP, not with the doctor himself. So I'm not totally sure what that even means, given my med regimen for the next cycle: Clomid, HCG & progesterone.
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@mrskansas: I would call the doctor now... worse case you can cancel or reschedule in the morning
@snarkybiochemist: I think I fell off the list my date is 3/22
@bananasareyellow: I'm sorry, hopefully he will come around
@freelikewater: I'm sorry
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Positives
msmini shellio
3/9 freelikewater
3/14 snarkybiochemist
3/17 mrsbubbletea, oureastandwest
3/18 bizwitch
3/21 raspberry
3/22 bizwitch
3/26 madisonbee
3/27 ttcbee
3/29 mrskansas
3/31 bushelandapeck, peacelily
TBA lilyofthewest mrs.panda
Cheerleader coral
goodluck everyone -
@bizwitch: back on the list and yes when I say trigger I am talking about HCG, mine was the ovidrel brand, but I think their are a few other brands. I have given all 3 myself, and it was easy, but some doctors will have their nurse do it for you. It goes into the skin right around the belly button with a fairly small needle.
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@mrskansas: Any chance it could be constipation?
I'm not sure if it's a side effect of femara or clomid, but not long after I finished my femara the last couple of months I thought I had really bad ovarian pain, but it ended up not being that at all. It was pretty painful.
I've had cysts in the past, and that pain was more of a shooting sensation when I moved in certain ways. The post-femara pain was more constant...and like general heaviness.
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@MaryM: it definitely could be. I'm going to drink tons of water tonight and eat fiber rich food and see what happens.
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@mrskansas: good luck if it is constipation, I never got that side effect from clomid/femera but I do get it from progesterone. If you need help long term I recommend benefiber to help increase your fiber
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@mrskansas: good luck! If it's not one thing, it's another, right?!
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@bananasareyellow: aww boo.
hopefully you guys can get on the same page soon.
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I can't remember if this was brought up before. Have any of you ladies used PreSeed?
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@madisonbee: I bought some and I don't like it. I think it's sticky but maybe all lube is that way? I don't need it so I feel like it was a waste of $20
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@mrskansas: Yeah, sticky is not my style.
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@madisonbee: I have used it and ConceivePlus. I like the ConceivePlus a little better. Neither are great, but regular lube is not so good for sperm. And I definitely need some if I'm going to be having sex several days in a row or for an extended run of EOD.
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Well good news! I think the Clomid was causing some constipation or just gas pain because I feel normal now. I'm still having quite a few "twinges" but I know that's common.
We did BD last night & that did hurt. I could feel my ovaries aching so that was fun
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@mrskansas: Gas/constipation are super painful. I hope it doesn't come back and that this is your month.
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@mrskansas: Glad to hear you are feeling better. I have all my fingers crossed for you.
@madisonbee: I haven't tried it...I found that once I started using a menstrual cup instead of tampons, lube wasn't really necessary for me anymore.
I noticed a lot of CM a couple of days ago, and was hoping that this was a sign that things were returning to normal and I was gearing up to ovulate. The doctor said we wouldn't be able to conceive this cycle due to the lining being scraped down by the D&E, but still, I'd love for things to normalize. However, I took a HPT this morning - 3 weeks post D&E - and it still showed up immediately with a test line as dark as the control. My HCG was around 180 a week ago at my post-op appt, so it must be inching down at less than a snail's pace. My last period was 3.5 months ago, it feels like ages. I think I've basically given up on having any expectations about TTC, and have been working on accepting the fact that it's going to be a longer road than I'd initially hoped and that's ok.
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@periwinklebee: I'm sorry you still have HCG and I hope things normalize soon. TTC crushes my expectations along with my hopes and dreams.
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@periwinklebee: With my natural MC in December, my hCG topped out at 1,800 and still took almost two weeks to return to 0. It sucks that it takes so long.
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@madisonbee: DH and I use it occasionally, usually when we're trying to squeeze in a quickie and don't have time to lube things up naturally. We did the syringe thing twice but stopped because it felt so clinical. Now when we use it he just puts it on himself before he... uh...enters.
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@periwinklebee: Ugh, this must be so difficult. I'm so sorry.
for a period and a new cycle of TTC soon. you sister.
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@snarkybiochemist: @mrskansas: @bizwitch: Thanks guys
TTC really does have a way of disappointing expectations. I feel like between the possibility of a really long post-D&E cycle, which is not uncommon, and the fact that I have to travel a few times for work in April/May (with my TTC luck, of course it will end up being during o), it could very realistically be summer before we have a serious shot at trying again. And it took us awhile to conceive last time around. I try really hard to have reasonable (or better yet *no*) expectations, but it's hard not to fantasize from time to time, to indulge a dream that something lucky will happen soon, and then just feel discouraged...
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@periwinklebee: We all fantasize when this will work and when we will finally get what we want. It does make the disappointment worse each time.
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@periwinklebee: I've been in your shoes numerous times. For me, when the tests were finally negative, all the bleeding had stopped and the "fog" lifted, I finally start feeling hopeful again.
After 4 losses, I don't really have a reason to be hopeful, but it is easier than being full of anxiety and fear over trying/getting pregnant again.
I keep telling my husband (and myself) that in a few months or a year these difficult days/weeks will seem so much easier. The day I miscarried was an awful, horrible day and I don't know if I've ever felt that low. But now, looking back on it, a lot of the emotions and feelings have been numbed quite a bit and it's not as hard.We are all here for you
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@snarkybiochemist: @mrskansas: Thank you guys
You are the best. I am so sorry for all the heartache that many of us have gone through with TTC.I feel like this has just sort of become my new normal. We knew for three weeks before the D&E that it wasn't viable, and so now its been a month and a half of just waiting for it to be over. Realistically, I know that a month and a half is *nothing*, but I still hope the reset comes soon. I still feel so emotional about everything.
My husband has told me a few times that I need to work on not having expectations, that no one is entitled to a child and maybe we'll have one, maybe we won't, and I shouldn't have expectations that we will since it's not up to us. He also seemed to take my sadness over not having a baby personally, and asked why he wasn't enough for me to be happy, why I needed something else and couldn't be happy with just the great life I already have. I am so, so happy with what I have, but no matter how much I do take the time to appreciate it, it hasn't really taken away the emotions from TTC.
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@periwinklebee: It took 6 weeks for me to get my period back after my D&C. I found it most helpful for my mental health to avoid anything TTC related until I got my first period, then I went back to the boards and tracking. I conceived DD two cycles later. Don't lose hope, but try and look for joy elsewhere in your life for a little while.
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@periwinklebee: While those words are true, they are so hard to hear. I think the emotions of TTC are really hard for men to comprehend, they don't deal with the hormones and the physical aspects of this and they don't get wrapped up in what day it is or whats supposed to happen on that day. I hope that things get back to normal for you.
msmini shellio 
We had a good talk last night and I have a feeling he'll come around in a couple months.
Now just gotta get through this work weekend, hopefully being so busy keeps me distracted! And looking forward to some wine tonight and tomorrow night 
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