nectarine / 2813 posts
@MsMini: my boss had 3 kids, decided to try for a 4th and ended up with twins!! 5 kids is way too many
nectarine / 2180 posts
@MsMini: my aunt and uncle had 4, went away for their anniversary and their oops turned into 5 and 6
grapefruit / 4466 posts
In a fitting end to our conversation from earlier today... I was explaining to my husband that I was sobbing during this movie we were watching because hcg makes me super emotional and it's still in my system. He promptly insisted, repeatedly, that I must be newly pregnant. I explained that hcg aside, the timing of that was impossible given I only recently got off pelvic bed rest (me thinking "I can't believe I'm explaining this again.", him: "But last night..." Men, eternally optimistic about TTC and absolutely zero comprehension of the two week wait.
grapefruit / 4466 posts
@snarkybiochemist: that's insane...
I think the main appeal of twins for me is being guaranteed that I would have two kids, whereas otherwise given my age and our current TTC trajectory, it feels very uncertain. But anyways, not something I spend too much energy fantasizing about giving the low odds - I would be soooo happy with one!
nectarine / 2180 posts
@periwinklebee: There's optimism and then there's optimism. Husbands can be a bit clueless
While I like the idea of 2 kids and being done, considering I am feeling like I might only have 1 at this point, I don't like how much more taxing multiples are on the body and how much costs go up for both gear and daycare.
pear / 1677 posts
Thanks, ladies, for the input on PreSeed! I brought it up to DH and he said "nah!" Hahaha, so we'll see!
grapefruit / 4056 posts
@mrskansas: @snarkybiochemist: these are the kinds of stories that almost made us stop at 2 kids
pomelo / 5720 posts
@mrskansas: this is exactly how my sister ended up with 5! The youngest two are twins.
ETA: just hanging out over here at CD7. Trying to enjoy our vacation and not think too much about our timing this month.
pear / 1614 posts
@mrskansas: I love the twin surprise videos on youtube!
For my first 3, I fantasized about twins all the time and especially for my 3rd I wished it was twins. For #4, I think it would be too much...
grapefruit / 4466 posts
@MaryM: That was my response.
@snarkybiochemist: I think that I was lonely as a kid. I have a brother but he is much, much younger, my main relationship with him was as babysitter and not playmate. We didn't have cousins nearby and my parents were strict about letting us run around the neighborhood with other kids. I was always so envious of kids with siblings close in age. I would love, love to give my (imaginary) LO a built in playmate or two, though I know it's no guarantee they'll be close. However, TTC #1 has made me realize that this is less in my control than I would have liked, and of course like everything in life, somehow I'm getting around to it late. I know several women who had kids in their early 40s - I'd say in my profession most women are already AMA when they have their first - but I'm so glad I didn't wait longer...
My husband is an only child and he just tells stories about how his cousins with close in age siblings fought all the time
nectarine / 2180 posts
@periwinklebee: I was an only until my mom remarried and I gained 3 much older stepsisters. They didn't remain in the house through much of my growing up so I continued to be almost an only. My husband is an only as well. I think it made both of us more introverted and we developed solitary habits but I'm ok with this and I'd be ok if my kid were like this too. I never really envied my cousins who had so many siblings or even friends who had siblings closer in age at home. So I would be happy with 1 if that's all I can have, 2 would be the max I would want.
pear / 1553 posts
@periwinklebee: OMG my DH will say stuff like that esp if I have a drink on like 3DPO. I'm like, dude, I can't even technically be pregnant yet, not enough time has passed.
pear / 1553 posts
Last night I dreamt that I had a pet snake named Coral who was pregnant and I saw her give birth to her little slithery litter. It was weirdly cute though I'm not a huge fan of snakes. They don't gross me out but I just can't quite see the appeal of having one as a pet.
Also in my dream last night a fortune teller told me I was pregnant. She said it in a way that suggested she thought I knew already, and when I pointed out that I was too early in my cycle for implantation she was just like "I don't know about your cycle lady, but I know you are definitely pregnant." All super matter of fact like, as if it was as obvious as the sky being blue.
What's obvious to me is that I'm still obsessed with TTC even though I'm trying to be chill this cycle!
grapefruit / 4466 posts
@bizwitch: The cycle we conceived, my husband said like the day after ovulation "probably you're pregnant and just don't know it." And of course I was like "no, that's physically impossible." He still insists that he was right, medical definition of pregnancy aside....
We're all TTC obsessed
pear / 1697 posts
My partner loves the idea of twins. He's always wanted a big family, so that might be part of it. I hope I never end up pregnant with twins because we would feel so differently about it and I'm not sure how we would reconcile it.
I know exactly how hard a singleton pregnancy was for me/my body. I can't imagine a twin pregnancy. The actual increased risks are scary, but, mostly I think about how bad my feet and hips would hurt and how hard it would be to breathe. My inclination would be a selective reduction.
nectarine / 2821 posts
I've been really wanting to take a test and almost do so but am trying to hold off. At minimum gill Monday. I am around 10dpo at this point I think.
nectarine / 2180 posts
I have made it to 12 DPIUI with out testing, and my blood test is scheduled for 14 DPIUI on tuesday, the day a noreaster is due to dump 8-12 inches of snow on us. I called my doctor to see if I can come in Monday or if they would prefer I wait the storm out. If they won't change the test I will POAS on tuesday.
nectarine / 2180 posts
@knittylady: I am weirdly proud of myself and also trying to decide if I have hope or if I think I'm out
grapefruit / 4466 posts
Yay!
I know everyone's different, but at least for me I don't think symptom spotting is informative anyways, do something fun if you can to distract yourself in the meantime!
My spotting (like literal, not symptom) seems to be back... no idea if it's the start of a period (please...) or just more of the same, as I've spent the better part of the past couple of months spotting. Bodies are so weird I think in some sense birth control accustomed me to having my cycle completely in my control and predictable - at a time when I didn't particularly care or think about it.
pear / 1677 posts
I've entertained the idea of twins (way too much!). I think DH would have a panic attack. But it runs in both our families and they always tell us "it's our generation's turn" to have twins.
nectarine / 2180 posts
@periwinklebee: I hate that I have to pay so much attention to my body other times of the month and the totally ignore things that its saying other times. Its why I end up symptom spotting. I hope you period is on its way and you can feel like your body is your own again.
@MsMini: @madisonbee: thanks
coconut / 8079 posts
@periwinklebee: thinking of you and hope things get back to normal very soon.
grapefruit / 4466 posts
@jhd: Thanks! I know I just need to go with the punches on this - trying to be better at that! I hope you are having a good weekend!
pear / 1697 posts
I'm out. Glad I tested obscenely early and got a chance to hope and wonder. I only had an 10 day LP.
I'm disappointed even though I expected it. It took me 8 cycles of perfectly timed intercourse and/or inseminations to conceive LO. And my LP was 9-11 days then. I guess I'd just hoped I would be one of those people who was "reset" after one pregnancy and then had higher fertility.
It does seem like pregnancy might've reset the endo a bit though; so far I'm barely hurting at all instead of barely functional even after ALL the drugs.
coconut / 8079 posts
@periwinklebee: I think you're doing great. Hang in there!
@lilyofthewest: sorry, lady. It's hard not to get our hopes up! Hope your lucky cycle happens soon.
pear / 1677 posts
DH and I have been on and off rocky the past few days. I'm writing this on the couch while he's in the bedroom. I started to think about us and if it's even realistic to have kids based on our marriage, home life, financial status, etc. I made an HONEST pros and cons list...and I have way more cons than I expected and struggling to come up with pros. âšī¸
I've seriously considered giving up TTC and going back on the pill for the last 3 hours. Ugh. Sorry, just needed somewhere to vent.
coconut / 8079 posts
@madisonbee: I'm sorry. Hugs. I wish I had some perfect words of wisdom for you, but just know we are here if you need to vent. I hope tomorrow is a better day!
clementine / 874 posts
@madisonbee: I think TTC can put strain on even the most stable of relationships. It's hard...especially when things don't happen right away. I hope you have clarity in the morning.
Eta: Vent away!
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