So I feel really guilty about this but I looked at a text message my MIL sent DH on his phone. She is ridiculous and crazy about stuff and I was curious when I saw a text. I know, it wasn't the right thing to do.

But I saw a text from her that made me so angry. For some reason DH told her about one of his coworkers wanting to give us their old formula since their child is too old for formula now and she was saying she wanted to go to Rite Aid and buy formula for our daughter and he could pick it up this weekend but to not tell me. He told her no we don't need help buying formula. She then went on to say if we ever need help she will give us money and he can just not tell me about it. Wtf. I don't know why she's obsessed with giving us formula/money, we aren't rich but we aren't struggling. But what really bothers me is that she wants to be sneaky about it and have DH lie and not tell me about accepting things from her. I think it completely undermines our marriage and is so disrespectful to our marriage to suggest her son lie to his wife. She doesn't seem to respect our relationship and it outranks her relationship with DH.

I don't want someone who would willingly lie about stuff caring for my daughter. Due to previous experiences with her I've already said I didn't want her watching my daughter for awhile but this just adds to my concerns (she has given us wacky advice about taking care of our daughter and told our 10 year old nephew he has a candle allergy because he threw up at their house while they were babysitting and she had a candle burning so he now believes he has a candle allergy-I don't even think that's a thing. And she didn't even tell his parents he threw up, he told them later that night). And since I'm a terrible person and discovered this by snooping I can't exactly talk to DH about this but I am so ticked off. Ugh. Thanks for letting me vent.