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I know how you feel. My MIL doesn't like the way I parent and always makes me feel like whatever I'm doing is wrong. She used to watch LO a couple of hours every Tuesdays but I've stopped because I didn't like the way she made me feel. She comes over now when my husband is home or if I'm feeling SUPER nice, I'll invite her over for lunch.

Aww. I think it's sweet. It might be hormones. When my LO was a newborn my mom stayed with us for a few weeks. It was SO great having her help, but I did get annoyed easily.
Now that my LO's older, those feelings are gone and I love having my mom/MIL take care of her. I need a break!

I went through those emotions as well, with both my MIL and my mother. They are both VERY hands on grandmoms. For me, I think I just felt a sense of inadequacy because my MIL raised 3 sons close in age, while working and with no help. To this day, she wakes up at 4 in the morning every day. She used to clean the house, top to bottom, get the kids ready for school and then go to work. I just can't compete with that kind of dedication. So part of me feels like I need to prove that I can do everything on my own as well. The reality is, she would've loved to have the help back then. But she didn't have any family close by, which is why she is so eager to offer a helping hand with our kids.
Once my baby reached 6 months or so, when I had a better handle of how to care for him. I was more relaxed about leaving him with others.

Baby isn't here yet but MIL has already voiced her "help"/opinion/suggestion/whatever you want to call it to hubs and I. The "suggestion" that rubbed me the wrong way so far was that she take the baby during the day so DH and I can rest and then give baby back at night. My initial thoughts were "so you're going to whip out your boob and breastfeed my baby?" Crazy! After venting to husband, I took a breath, and we discussed that at the root of it all, his mom was just trying to help. It is our first baby, we're not experienced, and she's just looking out for our best interest. Also, her personality is one who likes to micromanage so it'd be difficult for her to step down and not offer any help at all. I just constantly remind myself that MILs (especially mine) are just there to offer help....hopefully not think that we're inadequate.

I love my MIL, but I have noticed her doing this with my niece. She even asks if my bro in law/sis in law want her to have her stay in her room so they can sleep in. I understand she doesn't get to see her that often, but I'm nervous for when our baby comes. She can be a little overbearing, but I can't complain too much because she's a great person and super nice to me/loves me like her own.