DD2 whines all day. Like all day. It's rarely about anything specific and she mainly only does it with me, so I know it's just because she wants my attention. I do my best but the whining is going to make crazy! Any tips on how I can minimize this behavior?
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I straight up just tell LO that I can't understand whining so I can't understand what she is saying and then ignore if it continues. She got the message pretty quickly once it got zero reaction from me, and zero reward (i.e., any attention).
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I tell B "I don't like it when you talk to me that way, when you're ready to speak nicely then I can talk to you."
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@yoursilverlining: @erinbaderin: I guess it would help to specify that she's only 17 months. I've no problem saying those things to her but I just don't think it's quite on her level yet, if that makes sense. She only does it when I'm trying to get us ready for the day/I'm cooking dinner, so I know it's because she wants me to focus on her when I can't.
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@Mrs. Sunshine: Give her credit...she's smart enough to realize that whining gets your attention, so you have to combat that. It's tough to ignore while it's happening, but as long as you keep reacting to the behavior, she knows it's a way to get your attention.
While she's doing it, ignore her. If she stops, even for a second or two, look her direction and give some positive reinforcement so she knows that when she doesn't whine, mommy gives her attention.
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@2PeasinaPod: thanks. It's hard when their little. You know they're smart but it's hard to not see them as a baby!
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@Mrs. Sunshine: I know it! My littlest just turned 1, and he knows exactly what to do to get mama's attention. They're smarter than we realize!
My oldest was a big whiner when he wanted attention. My DH and I were on different pages at first, and I made him realize that when he was giving him attention after a whine, it was then that he would whine more. The phase lasted from 18 months to about 24 months when he finally had a huge language burst and could articulate what he was looking for. So know that we all go through this!
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