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I'm so sorry to hear. I had a miscarriage a few years ago and it was a very sad and lonely time for me. My situation was different so I dont know what to expect in terms of physical recovery.

I was also surprised by how upset I got, very similar to you. It just really sucks. Let yourself be sad and grieve the pregnancy and take care of yourself and start trying again when it feels right for you.

Good luck

I’m so sorry. I found all my losses hard but the earlier ones my hormone levels dropped more quickly which helped me move on. We never waited a cycle and my first was the month after an early loss. After my d&c my hormone levels took a while to drop (didn’t get a negative test until 6w later when I got AF) and I was so, so deeply sad until then. I felt so alone in real life but did find great support here. But it will get better even if it takes time. Hugs

@Shybee23: i am so very sorry for your loss. I had a miscarriage in April and it is still fresh in my mind though we are blessed to be 16 weeks pregnant with our rainbow baby.

I had a D&C and the hormone changes were SO brutal and impossible for me to discern my true, rational feelings from hormone driven emotions. They were all real feelings though. I bought myself a beautiful journal and wrote a lot, until I didn't feel like writing. I looked to Instagram and Pinterest for quotes about grief. Sounds so petty, but those outlets were able to put into words what I was feeling better than I could, and certainly better than anyone around me.

I'm still so sad that I won't get to hold that sweet angel in this life. I bought a beautiful Willow Tree figurine that helped me move on while still allowing me to have that baby as a physical presence in my life. My husband told me in a very eloquent way that someday, we would be pregnant with a rainbow baby that, without losing this baby, we never would have met this beautiful rainbow baby. Some days that made me want to throw things (I wanted THAT baby!), but most days it brought me peace.

We waited 2 cycles ONLY because we had a D&C because of a fetus that stopped developing at 6 weeks but the loss wasn't detected until 9+ weeks. Because I was absolutely certain of my dates, I came to terms with the need to have a D&C quicker than I, myself, would have if I was unsure of my dates.

Thinking of you during this awful time. Please keep reaching out as you walk this road.

I am so sorry. Miscarriage is one of those things that you just don't understand until it happens to you - I was also surprised by the level of my grief.

Give yourself time to heal. If trying again immediately helps, then definitely do it. Getting pregnant and having my rainbow baby are the only things that totally healed my pain.

I'm so so sorry for your loss!
I miscarried in August at what would have been 10 weeks, but the baby probably stopped developing around 5 weeks as we didn't see what we expected at the 8 week ultrasound. I did not need D&C; it happened on its own. I started spotting, then heavy period bleeding, some even heavier "bleeding" for a day, then back to period bleeding. It all lasted about a week. We ended up DTD a couple of weeks later not to "try" but for ourselves. We ended up pregnant! I'm 13 weeks along.
I'm a scientist, so the science behind miscarriage in humans (common compared to other mammals) helped me cope, but there is no wrong way to grieve and no timeline. I hope you can share with some supportive people, but you don't have to if you don't want to. I'm finding the miscarriage easier to talk about now that I'm past my first trimester.

I'm so sorry for your loss. Even knowing how common it is, it's still surprising when happens to you I had two losses this year, one at 14 weeks and then an early CP. I did wait a whole cycle after the later loss. It took a long time for my HCG to go down (I was testing regularly with cheapies) but I was temping the whole time. I saw that I ovulated 6 weeks later and had a period 2 weeks after that so everything was normal from ovulation on. I doubt ovulation tests would have been reliable for me since I still had some HCG in my system when I ovulated. Since my 2nd loss was so early I didn't bother testing out HCG and just used ovulation tests. I ovulated right on time and did end up pregnant that cycle. It's a little bit weird to basically give my miscarriage date as the date of my LMP this whole pregnancy but I'm still glad I went ahead and tried. I personally like to have all the information about my body so in your case I'd probably test out HCG and go ahead and do ovulation tests and maybe temping just to be confident on what's happening this cycle. But I know not everyone likes to go all in like that. Best of luck

@Shybee23: My only mc was very early - 6 weeks. I think it took about 3-4 weeks to test out the hcg. They recommended I wait one cycle to try again but with IVF so probably a different scenario. Hugs - it sucks for sure.