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If you think you can handle it emotionally I personally would probably go. Medically I don't think there is a need for you to stay close to home. But you just have to consider he possibility that if you start bleeding while at the game or on the road will you be able to handle that or will you wish you just stayed home?
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@MrsTiz: I'm so sorry for what you're going through. I wish I could shake your OB and get them to give you some better info.
As far as your out of town trip, will you be able to enjoy it knowing what's going on with you, or will it be a welcome distraction?
For me, I would prefer to be distracted if I was going through something like that, and if on the off chance the worst happened I would leave and return home.
Sitting around at home waiting for something to happen would drive me crazy, and I wouldn't be able to stop thinking about the possibilites.For some people quiet time with their partner is what's needed, and it would be better to stay home. Only you can decide what's best for you.
If there's anything us bee's can do, let us know. Thinking about you and hoping for the best.
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Mentally/emotionally I want to go, i'm only worried about if it happens there that we'll have to leave but I would hate to give away my ticket and lay home and nothing happen.
I guess what I was most worried about was HOW it happens..will I spot first or will it be a sudden heavy flow? Will it hurt, etc. I guess it is diffrent for everyone.
I'm going to go, I was just worried if there was a medical reason to not go. I need this emotionally lol
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@MrsTiz: I am so sorry you are going through this. Going to the game would be a good distraction for you! Maybe wear a pad that day just in case.. that way you won't have to deal with embarrassment on top of everything else.
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@MrsTiz: I'm guessing since it's an NFL game it's near a major city.
Maybe to ease your mind, you might want to look up the nearest hospital.
I was told that I had a 40% chance of miscarriage in the first trimester and always made sure if I was traveling I knew where the nearest hospital was - just in case.Hope that you have a good time if you decide to go!
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@travelingbrit: Yeah we're going to Charlotte, so i'll have to find one close by, since it is a Sunday i'd have to go to a hospital if it happens then regardless.
Last night I had unbelievable stomach cramps/stomach ache. *TMI but it felt like when you have the flu and that feeling you get before you get diarrhea?
Still no bleeding though
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@MrsTiz: I would go out of town. Anything to get your heart in a different place. If baby is viable, you don't want to share the stress with if, and it is not you want to be somewhere nice.
No reason to stay at home--it will just make you sad!
I am so sorry you are going through this.
Big hugs!ETA my miscarriage I hardly bled but I had horrendous cramps--like contractions from labor painful.
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I have two different experiences I'll share with you and maybe they will help you. My first one was at about 12 weeks and I just started gushing blood at a restaurant. It was sudden and there was this puddle under me. So I ended up in the ER because there's not a lot you can do when someone calls an ambulance for you. But...that could happen anywhere, you know? You could be at home and that could happen. And that's the sort of instance where you'd want to go to a hospital. I had really, really bad cramping the night before and morning it happened.
BUT...I had another one at 7 weeks and it was very, very different. I started to spot before I even knew. Sure enough, that weekend, it was like my period started. I even went to work that day because I thought, "well, i bet tomorrow is heavier. I'll stay home on the heaviest day" but it really was just like a very heavy period with some bad cramping. Lots of clots this time. I took some Rx painkillers and just used heavier duty pads and after 3 days I was like..."wow, i thought that would be worse".
The second time, I didn't need to go to a hospital at all. The only thing the hospital did for me the first time was 1) clean me up 2) confirm it 3) give me some pills to speed it up 4) put me on morphine for the pain. But the second time I really didn't need any of that. There really isn't a lot they can do for you, honestly. Just bring some pads and medicine with you and be prepared that if something happens and it's worse than you expected, that you can always go to a hospital. But otherwise, you might as well get out of the house and distract yourself from the waiting game.
I'm sorry the prognosis wasn't better, but sitting around and waiting for what feels like the inevitable/likely situation is just going to torture yourself more than you already are. Hang in there.
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@blackbird: Thank you! That was very helpful, I guess it's true that everyone is different and it will be different for everyone, it's crazy yours were so different, and i'm sorry you had to do that twice, I can't even imagine.
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i'm so sorry you are going through this, it is such a difficult thing to go through. my m/c happened at about 8 weeks. I started spotting and called the ob, they did a very detailed u/s, and a blood draw, and about 2 hrs later, they told me that there was no heart beat, and asked if i wanted to come in and discuss or wait. i went in, and they told me my 3 options which were 1) to wait it out and let the m/c pass on it's own or 2) to start taking some medicine to induce the pass through and pain medication if i needed it or 3) to do a d&c. i opted to wait it out, but also took the prescription just in case to induce if nothing happened in the next few days. i didn't need the medicine, as nature took it's course after about 2 days, i had severe cramping/contraction off and on for 2 hours or so, lots of bleeding, and then it passed through. i had bleeding like a heavy period for the next days but then reduced day by day like a regular period. i had some cramps but nothing too bad, so I didn't take any pain medication. it was just more emotionally hard getting through it all, but like others said, it brought my husband and i very close, and we mourned the loss together, and i was so glad that he was there to lean on.
on a happier ending, a few months later, we were able to conceive again and now we have a little 2 YO running around now.
many hugs to you, and i'm glad that your husband is there with you, and that you will be able to take some time away to relax a little.
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@MrsTiz: how did I miss this? I'm so sorry!!!!
I can't offer any advice because I was far enough along in my pregnancy I had to induce labor. I was 20 wks.
As far as dealing with it, lots of us will be here when you need support and hugs. Let us know if you need anything. Prayers and hugs to you and your husband.
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@MrsTiz: Hope all is going well with you. Did you end up going to the football game?
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@travelingbrit: We did go! It was so much fun, I also went to a baby shower on Saturday which was a lot harder than I anticipated
I have my appointment at 11 tomorrow, and for the first time am thinking that it might work out? The last few nights my boobs have been so sore, but I don't know if i'm tricking myself. It's very unlikely that it will work out, i'm just shocked it hasn't happened on it's own yet.
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I'm so glad you went and had a nice time! Baby showers are a serious bummer. I skipped one, myself. Just couldn't bring myself to go for someone that I wasn't super duper close to.
Unfortunately, it's pretty common for it to take awhile for it to happen on its own
You'll get some answers soon, though. Good or bad, we're here for you.
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@MrsTiz: You may have ovulated late, which would explain why the baby was measuring small. I charted so I could prove it to my doctor when I went in, but I didn't ovulate until cd28. So, I was a full 2 weeks behind where I "should" have been based on lmp. I now have a 2.5 month little girl. If you were indeed only 6 weeks along, it could have been too early to hear the heartbeat. I had an ultrasound at 6w1d and we could see the heartbeat but could not hear it. Anyway, fingers crossed for you that all is well and you see growth and a heartbeat at your next appointment.
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@MrsTiz: Based on @Chastenet: and your pregnancy making an appearance again, it sounds hopeful!! Hoping to hear fantastic news tomorrow after your appointment.
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@MrsTiz: Oh I'm so glad you didn't have to change your plans and you had a good time. Well, at the football game at least.
Crossing my fingers for your appointment tomorrow. I hope you get positive news, and if you do, I hope you let us know ASAP.
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@MrsTiz: Glad that you had fun this weekend. I can't imagine going to a baby shower, so you have more strength then I do. Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers. I hope everything is ok tomorrow.
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im so sorry you are going thorough this. i went through a silmilar expierence. i lost our first baby through a missed miscarriage at 9 weeks, baby was only measuring 6 weeks, 3 days on the ultrasound. it was a complete surprise as we went in the ultrasound expecting to see our baby and then we were told the news. i had no bleeding and had alot of morning sickness the whole time bc my body was trying to hold on to the pregancy. we waited over the weekend and then had a nother ultrasound nad there was still no growth/no heartbeat. i had a d&c becuase my body was showing no signs of naturally miscarrying on its own. on the plus side i am now mom to a 4 month old little boy who we concieved 3 months after our miscarriage. so please dont think you cant have a healthy pregnancy or that it will take forever to get pregnant agian. i know these were some of my biggest fears after our miscarriage along with grieving for our lo.
i really sorry you hae to wait around to see what happens, i really sincerly hope that you get good news at your appt. , please fel free to message me or if you need any support! you are in my thoughs and prayers. -
@MrsTiz: Any update?
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@MrsTiz: I've been thinking about you all day today. xx
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@MrsTiz: Me too! I've been stalking this thread looking for an update. Hope you got some good news today!
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@MrsTiz: Thinking about you!
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Hi everyone, had the appointment this morning. Still measuring 6 wk 2 days, and still no heartbeat. They've scheduled my d&c for next Wednesday..which is exactly what i don't want, (not the d&c, but the waiting again). Thats 8 DAYS! Im more in shock than anything, i knew it was coming but just that its happening is heartbreaking. You guys have been wonderful, thamk you all for the advice
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@MrsTiz: I'm so sorry. At least you know that in 8 days, this whole ordeal will be over. Make sure you take some time to mourn your loss. If you need anything or have any questions, we're here for you.
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@MrsTiz: I'm so, so, so, so sorry honey. *hugs* The whole HB community along with myself are here for you. **hugs**
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@MrsTiz: I'm so sorry, and sorry that you have to wait again
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@mrstiz I am so sorry to hear that
I hope that you can call back and get it bumped up, that seems way too long to wait. Sending you strength and positive thoughts!
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@MrsTiz: I'm so sorry you have to go through this. I can't imagine how you must feel.
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@MrsTiz: I am so sorry for your loss. Even more that you have to wait again. Hugs!!
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@MrsTiz: I'm late to this thread, but I just wanted to say how sorry I am. We lost our first pregnancy at just over 8 weeks in March. It's important to take some time for yourself and acknowledge the loss. Lean on your husband and your family. If you need to chat I'm here for you!!
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@MrsTiz: So sad that this is happening. I was really hoping for good news for you
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@MrsTiz:
I'm sorry for your loss, and also for the waiting game.
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I'm sorry for your loss. I was so hoping this wouldn't be the outcome for you. Hugs.
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i'm so sorry for your loss. you're in my prayers!
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I'm so sorry for your loss
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I'm so sorry. Sending hugs your way during this difficult time.
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I'm so sorry.
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@MrsTiz: I'm so sorry. ::hugs::
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@MrsTiz: i am so sorry!!!
i had a D&C a little over 2 months ago...so if you need to talk/ vent i am here...
Big hugs!
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