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I'm so sorry

I had a very similar experience. I should have been about 9 weeks but had a missed miscarriage at 7 weeks. My OB gave me the option of waiting it out, misoprostol, or a D&C. I chose to have a D&C because I wanted it to be over and wanted to be detached from physically passing the pregnancy. FWIW, I was happy with my decision - the D&C was quick and painless.

I don't know what your plans are for TTC again but my OB advised that I not try again for 3 cycles. That wasn't a factor in my decision because we needed to wait for other reasons.

I’m so sorry

I found out baby had no more hb at 11w probably stopped developing about 2 weeks before. I’d had one day of red spotting so went in with a bad feeling - my ob advised the d&c since my body wasn’t doing much yet, also I really wanted the closure. I had 3 days to wait and no more spotting so who knows when it would have happened naturally. It was physically easy and was a good choice for me. My ob said we didn’t have to wait to try again- it took us a while to get another bfp but that was likely my age/history. Hugs

I'm so sorry for your lost. I was a little further along than you and given the option of waiting, taking misiprosotol or a D&C.. I waited and then had a D&C. If I were to do it again, I wouldn't do s D&C. My recovery was rough and it's now something I have to disclose at every new doctor's office. Plus, it put me at having an increased risk of placenta previa, which sucked. Lastly, it was more expensive than childbirth.

I wasn't told to wait 3 months. I conceived my 3 year old 2 cycles after my mmc and the cycle after a chemical pregnancy

@SweetCaroline: Hey there, firstly sorry you’re going through this and it will take time to get over. Hope my experience can help in some way. I had a miscarriage last July, growth stopped at around 6 weeks and it took until over 11 weeks for my body to deal with it, it can be because your body wants to keep it. I started feeling unwell a few days before and I think this maybe because your body is fighting to keep it but then it knows it also needs to let go. Take care.

@SweetCaroline: Again, I’m so sorry you’re going through this. My first pregnancy also stopped developing around 6 1/2 weeks and we discovered it at 9+. I had no spotting or other mc symptoms. I was offered misoprostol, D&C, or EUE, which is an office procedure similar to D&C done without anesthesia. On a side note, I was required to have an EUE with my second ectopic because they couldn’t see a sac anywhere and it was excruciating, if you have other options I would avoid EUE. I picked misoprostol for my miscarriage because I felt more comfortable doing it at home. The cramping was bad, but a heating pad helped a lot. The heavy bleeding lasted about an hour or two, and I just spent that time in the bathroom passing lots of blood and large clots. After that I bled for about a week, but lighter than a normal period. My doctor said we could try again after one normal period, but it took a couple months for my cycle to regulate.

I hope that helps. This is such an awful situation to be in. ️

@SweetCaroline: I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I have had three miscarriages and have done both options. Neither the meds nor the d&c were particularly difficult or painful for me physically. The d&c I didn’t bleed quite as much, but if I were in your shoes, I’d probably just try the meds first to see if you can skip a surgical procedure (and bill for that matter).

I was in a similar situation two years ago and I ended up miscarrying naturally due to the wait to get in to see the Obstetrician at our local hospital. The pregnancy had stopped progressing at around seven weeks and it took about three weeks for my body to finally start passing the sac etc (no heartbeat on 1 February, sac starting to collapse on 6 February and the miscarriage completed on 22 February).

In some ways I was kind of glad that I didn’t opt for any intervention but mainly because I was nursing a toddler and I didn’t want to have an already awful situation made more traumatic by having to suddenly wean my wee guy.

The miscarriage itself took three days (two awful episodes of cramping, bleeding and passing clots on Monday and Tuesday then a final episode on the Wednesday) and the pain was comparable to being in labour and I wasn’t able to leave the bathroom while it was happening.

Waiting to miscarry was pretty sucky and I had to very awkwardly leave work in the middle of running the payroll and to be perfectly honest that was probably the worst part of the whole thing!

Hang in there and I hope you’re on the mend soon ️

@SweetCaroline: thinking of you and sending

@SweetCaroline: I'm so sorry you had to go through this, but I'm glad the worst of it is over. I hope you're able to take some time to heal. Hugs.