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Aww I am so sorry. I am sure she means well but people who haven't been through what you're going through just do not understand. Adoption is a beautiful thing but it is not easy and it is a very hard thing to have to think about when you still have hopes of getting pregnant on your own. I am praying you will realize your dream soon. Good luck with your IUI. Perhaps avoid the topic with momma if you can r see if you can find some good literature to send her. Hugs

@FaithFertility: this is why I stopped talking to my MIL about our issues. She told me that my DH's cousin had it worse than us. Really? Just be there and listen. We struggled too just due to different reasons.

Your mom means well but probably doesn't realize what to say. My mom had no trouble conceiving me but struggled with my middle sister so she was able to sympathize. Maybe you should sit down with her and talk about how you're feeling. She's right - adoption is a great option for many people - but that's not what you need to hear right now.

ETA - and good luck!

I'm not sure of your moms humor but maybe sending her something like this or cutting and pasting what's relevant to you and sending it would help her understand how you feel? I'm sure some people have better links than I do http://m.xojane.com/issues/how-not-to-be-a-dick-to-your-infertile-friend

I'm sorry. My mom hasn't said anything really hurtful, but we definitely see things differently. She tried for many years to conceive my sister and just had a whatever happens happens philosophy. She doesn't understand my overanalyzing of temps and opks, and she definitely doesn't understand why I have gotten emotional when AF showed. Even though we are really close I'm afraid to share all of my ups and downs because I'm worried she thinks I'm nuts.

If you told her that what she said hurt your feelings then hopefully she will be more aware. If not, we're always here to listen (even though I know it's not the same). Good luck!