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My period of adjustment happened twice, first when we were engaged and basically compromised on having one. It wasn't what I had envisioned, but I was willing to make the compromise. Then I planned on revisiting it after having LO, but DH was still pretty firm which is ok. I work on the positives of having only one.

We plan to try for another, but will still be fine if it doesn't work out and we just have one. However, if you has asked either of us at 10 weeks if we wanted another the answer would have been a definitive NO. So I guess I'm just saying it's still early and either of your views could still change just with some more time.

10 weeks! Oh my goodness - *nothing* is set in stone. We weren't ready to start thinking about another until LO was 2. Staying with one is okay, changing your mind is okay too - but now is definitely not the time to be making any decisions.

LO is an only and it’s always been an easy decision for both of us. I have never felt my bio clock ticking, I’ve never felt the need to have a child. DH and I didn’t get married to have children and we felt happy and fulfilled without children. Having LO has been the best ever, but it doesn’t make us want to have more. We are a family with just her. A few months ago, DH was starting to give subtle hints that his position might have been changing, which was hard for me because mine wasn’t/isn’t. We talked through things, but tried to do so without a lot of pressure – which was easier since he didn’t really want another.

One thing I will say is that I don’t think you should worry about this now. Your LO is still brand new, your hormones are still fluctuating, which can impact “wanting” another baby. (A true want vs. a chemical response want). Although we were firm about being one and done before we had LO, we also agreed not to make any decisions before she was at least 1 years old, because so much can happen and change in that first year. I would just try not to stress now, but discuss reevaluating maybe at 1 year.

My husband has always wanted 2-3 kids. I wasn't even sure I wanted any kids. We compromised on 1. Now that my son is 4 months, I've gone from 95% sure I'm one and done to 80% sure. So my son will probably be an only but we're not setting anything in stone just yet. I love babies and have enjoyed pregnancy and the newborn phase far more than I anticipated. But it's always been the exhausting toddler stage that scares me, so I tell myself that if I really want another after I've lived through having a toddler, then I'll cross that bridge when I come to it. But I'm not getting any younger, so I don't think I'll want to get pregnant again too much later.

So, all that to say, I get the reevaluating after you have a baby. And who knows what will happen. But I know I'll be happy if my son is an only. I was an only and it was great. But if we decide to try for another, that's okay too.

@RLCeigh: Our LO calls our cat her sister, just like your son does with the dog