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@matador84: Yes, because I knew what I was in for. I don't like pain and discomfort, lol. But I had hopes that it would be faster and easier the second time around. It was and it wasn't.
I was even more nervous about my third since my hopes for a less painful second birth hadn't really panned out. To the point where I even dreaded it and had to do some mental work to feel even halfway prepared. I didn't feel ready to go through it again until I was several days past my EDD, lol. Thankfully, my head was in a better place than I thought and I was able to power through by staying in the moment and focusing on one thing at a time and it was most definitely my easiest, most comfortable birth. Not painless by any means, but I don't feel traumatized by the memory of the pain. Now, obviously, part of this was due to it being my third birth, but staying in the moment and not frealing out about how much worse it was going to get and voicing how I was feeling to my support team made a huge difference for my mentality through labor.

You'll be fine. You're strong and you did once, you can certainly do it again. If you feel like you might need a little extra help preparing mentally for this birth, I highly recommend the book 'Birthing From Within' by Pam England. Very, very good.

I am not pregnant yet, but I already know that I will be that situation. With DD, I was confident and excited about birth. I had a very long, intense labor - I don't remember much pain (even though I went med free), but I was EXHAUSTED and pushed for more than 4 hours. Because I know what to expect next time (although everyone tells me it will be easier the second time), I think I will be much more scared!

@sorrycharlie: Just so you know, I am super jealous of people who have labors like that! I'd take the furious part of fast and furious if it meant I got to pushing faster. But then, the longest I've ever pushed (after 24+ hours of labor all 3 times), was 8 minutes, soooo, yeah... Easiest, most "fun" part for me. But having drawn-out labors probably makes me a better doula in the long run, so I guess it's ok.

@Dandelion: will you still get a c section if/when you go into labor if it happens before the scheduled one? You are still in my thoughts and prayers.

I am not pregnant but I am dreading morning sickness much more than L&D for the next time around! Ask me again when in past m/s next time!

@googly-eyes: When I was in the midst of the worst part of my morning sickness (which was pretty darn bad) my well-meaning neighbor told me, "Sweetie, you won't remember anything bad about the delivery, but you'll never forgot how horrible morning sickness is." So far, she's been right.

@googly-eyes: yep. S' s shoulders got stuck. We're not risking that.

This is one of my fears about a 2nd baby. I have to give birth

Im already terrified of giving birth again and we haven't even started thinking about number 2 yet!!

Yes! I do remember the pain and when I am feeling uncomfortable now, I just think of how much worse the pain gets. I went in the first time thinking 'oh how bad could it be?'. Now this time I know how bad it could be! Maybe that's a good thing? I don't know.

I'm undecided.

On one hand, I know what to expect. On the other hand, *i know what to expect*. I really shouldn't have asked my sister (a nurse) how they perform a c-section.

@HLK208: I was induced and completely agree about the Pitocin. It was intense pain. I fear next time I will need to be induced again except I know what is coming pain-wise. Yikes.

I'm really nervous for how hard pushing was for me. The pressure was much more than I imagined it could be. I was puking and crying and shaking and screaming. I mean, I know it's "labor" but trying to get her out was the worst part. I'm also nervous for tearing again.

@Dandelion: I wouldn't want to either.

Yes and no-

I am more CONFIDENT this time around that I can do it. The baby can only get so big before my water breaks and he has to come out. I wasn't convinced that C would be able to fit coming out, they had me scared of a 10 pound baby from the ultrasounds- he was just tall.

I'm scared of how fast it can be- last time was a run away train, I couldn't wrap my mind around it until it was over. But it can only last for so long.

I'm scared of getting someone to watch our son until my parents or IL's can arrive, thankfully our neighbors have already offered to help out however we need. I love them!

I'm scared of recovery- that was NOT fun, especially now with a toddler to chase. We are setting up for family to stay with us during that time.

I'm nervous about having to do the NICU again, especially with a kid at home that I hate to leave. I can't imagine being torn between my two boys and having to choose where to be. Last time turned out to be a very positive experience, but I would love to not have to go "visit" my baby.

Really, the pain is the least of my worries this time around, and while I'm not looking forward to labor, I am excited to meet our boy!

I'm definitely more nervous with this 2nd pregnancy. I remember thinking I never wanted to feel the deep chill again, like I was dying or something, after my csec. I had yucky morning sickness so I'm not looking forward to that.