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I would be annoyed too! Maybe if you hadn't had multiple prior conversations about this, it could pass as a no biggie, but the fact that she has been aggressively pushing this and you have been saying no is not OK to me!

I agree. I'd be super firm with your nanny and tell her NOT to feed your LO anymore food. Shiz. Fire her! jk. How old is LO now?

Hold the phone: could the nanny's actions have anything to do with Liv not happy with the boobie lately?? Oh dear. Big hugs your way!

there are so many views on when its best to start solids.. my mom said she started giving me cereal at 2 weeks and she wonders why I don't want to start till 6 months... ultimately you can start when ever you want .. but its your choice as the parent and no one elses. I would be very annoyed and upset especially since it was something other than cereal... and she could of had a reaction.

that would be unacceptable to me. i think it's tougher when it's a family friend -- she might think she has more leeway than a normal nanny might. i would lay down the law!

I would not be ok with that. I would sit her down and tell her how you feel and that you are not ok with it. Tell her that you love having her as your nanny and that you completely trust her with your LO, but you need her to respect your parenting decisions since you are the parent, and if she can't, then you will have issues. Man I would be pissed!

Some nannies just ignore you if they disagree. To me, this would be a dealbreaker.

I agree with everyone else. huge no & I would be super upset. I'd sit down & talk to her about it & then follow up with a written record of your verbal conversation outlining what you'd talked about & what was going to be happening in the future. maybe having it in writing like that will cause her to take it more seriously

I'd be ready to fire her. So many people are trying to get me to feed Baby Bear cereal, she's 3 months, and it's annoying because she sleeps just fine and I'm the mom, not them.

Being a mom is one thing I don't have to take others consideration on (besides my SO since he's the papa.LOL)

Oh HELLS no. I'd be off my rocker pissed.
If you'll still like her to be Liv's caregiver, maybe just make a super big deal of this- sitting her down, and explaining that if she is goign to be Liv's caregiver, it is essential and mandatory that she cares for Liv in a way that you (as the parent) are comfortable with, and aware of. And that if you are going to trust her with Liv's health and well-being, you have to be able to trust that when you give her specific guidance, she needs to follow it, regardless of how she feels about it. And that if she thinks she is unable to do this, then this situation may not be the right fit for any of you.
It might also be helpful for you to sit down with your husband and figure out what kind of consequences there would be if this happened again.. and maybe share those with her? Like, explain that you've discussed it together and that you're really upset and disappointed, but you want to use this as a chance to make expectations crystal clear... and now that they are clear, if this happens again, she can expect X outcomes.
I'm sorry. That sucks.
In fairness, I have to admit that while my first reaction is "I'd fire her! That's unacceptable!", it's totally true that this happens to us in a daycare setting. Like, we were trying to wean DS off his binky, and so we stopped leaving one for him at daycare and told a couple of teachers that we were trying this... and then we kept picking him up and finding a binky in his mouth!
It's never been anything awful, but I think we just accept that with a bigger group of kids, individual instructions may just end up getting confused or lost. And we try not to stress about it because it's still the best situation for us.

Your nanny crossed the line. its one thing to offer her opinion but to act on it and disregard your requests is just going too far. How does she know what solids you wanted to start with. I'd be furious if someone fedmy baby a banana at 3.5 months. We personally want to start solids at around 4 months and even then we will start veggies first and start one veggie at a time and do a whole week of one veggie before introducing another.

@LivsMama: Oh I get it now.. she still crossed the line though because it should be your decision when you want to start solids.

This is really disturbing. I would definitely not be afraid to tell her this is NOT COOL and CANNOT HAPPEN AGAIN.

That's unacceptable. She MUST be made to understand that you do no want LO to be eating solids just yet and she needs to respect that.

Breathe. Know it's not the end of the world.
I tell myself everyday: Anger will never disappear so long as thoughts of resentment are cherished in the mind.
I'm Buddhist, so I might just be more chill than others though.
Anyway, I wouldn't do anything drastic like fire her or hold a grudge. Sometimes when it's a close friend, they think there is more leeway and don't have to act very strict. I would sit down with her and have a heart to heart. Tell her that you feel strongly about this and if it happens again, you will have to find other help.
Good luck.