Lately DS has been having some really frustrating behavior. First he'll say he wants to do something, then he'll say he doesn't want to do it. We agree with him and say OK either way, and it still ends up in a melt down.

Here's an example from last night - DS was hanging out on the couch and I told him it was dinner time. He said he didn't want dinner and I said ok (usually he wanders over halfway through and decides to eat). Then he started getting upset as we were eating saying, "I no want to eat. I want to eat! I no want to eat. I want to eat!"

Every time he said he wanted to eat we said ok, come on over. Every time he said he didn't want dinner we said, ok stay there. Still, a huge meltdown ensued. And it's not just over dinner, we've had fights over pottying or not, whether to throw away a banana peel, whether he wants to feed the dog, and on and on. He just gets in this state where it's like he doesn't know what he wants.

Again, we generally agree with him and don't force him to do anything. But he still does this back and forth thing and has a huge meltdown. I have no idea how to handle this. DH finally got him to stop melting down yesterday by talking to him and distracting him, but I don't know how to prevent the downward spiral.

Does anyone else's kid do this? Any advice or things to try? Oh, and we've tried making the decision for him, and a meltdown still happens. The only benefit is that it ends the "I want to, I don't want to" loop.