A little backround;DH and I have been together 7+ years. When we first met his mom loved me, once we told her I was expecting DD (5years ago) she did a complete 180. Was too young to be a grandma quit talking to DH, hardly ever saw DD. She became outright mean to DH calling him a bad son, she has said things to him that make me cry for him. She has always been a very selfish person to her kids growing up and DH actually never realised how most parents support their children. IL's are divorced and she pretty much made it impossible for DH to have a relationship with his father (this has changed significantly, they are much closer than they use to be).

Anywho a few months ago she got upset about something and berated DH in a string of texts (she wouldn't answer his calls-mature right). She does about once a year to DH. She said some really mean things about me that were not true and even brought my family into it- this was the first time it involved me. My family does so much for us. The day before a get together at our house she reached out to DH to say they were coming to the get together and acted like nothing happened. No one ever mentioned the things she said about me and my family.

Yesterday she came to our house for a visit since she was traveling through our town. She brought her young dog and it was pure chaos. It kept nipping our toddler and she did nothing to control it. I am sorry talking to a dog saying "Oh puppy don't do that" and repeatedly saying to us that she is just a puppy is not an appropriate way to handle the situation. There was an incident and I had to be the bad guy with DD to keep her safe. During her visit she told DD maybe they could have a sleep over at her house so she could play with said puppy. ( I doubt this would ever happen given her involvement with our kids, but why even say something to a young child then).

Here is where my vent comes: Don't come to my house after you say things about me and don't offer an apology. Don't put my child in a dangerous situation. And definitely dont think after you have done all of these things think I am about to let them come to your house without me.

I hate this whole situation so much. I just wish she would either accept the role she created when she chose not to be around or she would quit with the BS and drama.