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Amazing. I love this.

It was so hard to move her when she was a baby. I was constantly worried she was dead and didn't want to walk in and wake her up (light sleeper). We moved her at 3 months to get her on a schedule for me going back to work. I sometimes wish we had kept her in our room longer. If we did it again, with these new recommendations, we probably would keep a baby in our room for a year. It would probably ease my fears a bit, I'm sure.

Both DS and DD were in our rooms in the Rock and Play/crib until 5.5/6 months, mostly out of convenience. Once DD moved into her own room, I slept in the adjoining room for another 6 or so months. If we have another, I think we will likely room share for 6 months again. I am a very light sleeper though, and don't think I could room share for the full year.

Apparently, we've been doing this! Both of my boys slept in a rock n play for the first 4-5 months and then we moved them to their crib in our room. LO1 moved to his own room at 12 months and we're about to move LO2's crib now at 14.5 months (they will be sharing a room and we wanted to wait until LO2 was consistently sleeping through the night).

I'm an anxious person and keeping them in our room for the first year eased my anxiety (plus, it was easier to deal with LO2's millions of wake ups when I only had to move a few feet!).

I find it pretty interesting. I have thought it was strange that there wasn't some official recommendation to promote room-sharing since there is such drastic data supporting how many lives could be saved, meanwhile I feel like parents are totally unaware of that when they decide to move babies into their own rooms.

And, it's interesting because I doubt there is like anybody in the country currently following these new guidelines. I think people who have the baby with them for the entire first year are almost entirely all bed-sharing. I think it's rare for people to have a one-year-old baby in the room with them in a separate sleeper.

For us - I don't think this will change our approach for future kids. We moved DD to her own room at 4.5 months, which is when we sleep trained (she had been in a co-sleeper next to our bed before that). I think once you get to that age it gets much easier for everyone to sleep in a separate room.

It doesn't change our plans - it's always to cosleep or at least be in the same room. I never felt right that my newborn/infant is in a totally different room!

We moved LO #2 into his crib at 6 weeks, and he sleeps like a champ. There is no way I'm changing it up 4 months old, but something new to make me second guess my decisions...

@runnerd: we moved both DD1 and DD2 into their crib in their rooms at 7ish weeks because they were so noisy it was keeping me up (and making me more likely to feed them even if they would've just gone back to sleep). i'll plan to do the same for LO3 -- there doesn't seem to be anything other than a correlation in their data -- and they even admit that it may be due to ease of bf, which i've done for a year+ with the kids anyways.

We did this already with DS. He slept in our room in his RNP for the first 5-6 months and then his PNP until he was a year old. It was easier for me as he still woke up in the middle of the night for a bottle until he was almost a yr old. We'll do this again when we have a second one.

I do believe having baby next to you those first few months is wonderful but I have to say logistically, having a crib in your room for a year is hard. You wake the baby up because you're an adult and go to bed late and oh, I don't know, converse with your husband for 5 minutes. And you sleep like crap because whenever baby stirs, you wake.
Do people just tiptoe around the babies for a year? No sex? I don't get it. We moved my son to his crib at 6 months and he freakin loves it. It was life changing. He's also only about 12 feet away. Sleeps 100% better than when he was close to me (EBF so I'm convinced he smells my milk...).

So we had the arms reach cosleeper as a bassinet right next to me for the first 3.5 months, but he quickly outgrew it and moved to the crib at that point. So we more or less did the right thing, but now I'm irrationally annoyed at how retroactively guilty this new recommendation makes me feel for moving him at all. I'm also kind of exhasperated that they have no real evidence for why it reduces the risk! I feel like so much is connected to breast feeding and just using common sense with safe baby sleep. And I'm sick of feeling guilty.

ETA: My pediatrician told me I could move him as soon as I wanted. She did not seem concerned.

DS1 was in our room for the first 4 months but he slept like a rock. DS2 was the loudest sleeper and was only in our room for the first week maybe? Hardly any time at all. It really depends on how DS3 sleeps. If he's noisy or a light sleeper, he's probably going into our large walk-in closet for the first few months so he's nearby but we can still close the door. If he's quiet and a solid sleeper, he can sleep near the bed. As soon as he starts sleeping a solid chunk of the night, though, he's off to his own room. So probably (hopefully) between 4-6 months.

I guess the short answer is no, these recommendations never really sway the choices I make.

I slept in the family room with both of my kids for the first few months until we did the crib transition.

Our nursery is attached to our master so close enough.
They're in a co-sleeper until they start crawling. They've all moved into the crib by five months.

If this came out before we had LO1, I'd be stressed to find the space for a crib in our master bedroom. We tried the pack n play for a night but it blocked the way for one of us to get out of bed and LO1 kept us awake. I think we all slept better with LO1 right across the hall in his own room. LO2 is 6 months and has been sleeping in his own room since his first day home from the hospital.
I'd like to know more about the study(ies) that they got these results from.

In our townhouse, our two bedrooms were so close together I didn't feel the need to room share. He was sleeping in the crib in his own room from the day we brought him home. I was more concerned with no blankets, no bumpers, flat surface, etc. I'm pregnant now with twins and there's no way we can even fit one pack n play in our room in our new house. You have to do what works best for your situation.

I thought this was already the recommendation. Our pediatrician asked us at our first apt if DD was sleeping in our room, and that she should sleep in her crib or bassinet in our room the first six months. She slept in the crib in our room the first 8 months, and has been co-sleeping from 8 months-17 months.

For the sake of not starting a bad habit with DS thinking he can join in a bed time slumber party, I plan to perfect what I did with him if we have another baby. He slept in his crib in his own room around 2.5 months. I am okay with camping out in my LO's room, but I wanted him to get to know his space rightaway.

I thought that babies were already supposed to sleep in your room for the first year. My daughter slept in her crib pushed up against our bed for the first 8 months, and we have been bedsharing ever since (she is 18 months old now).

@pachamama: There are plenty of other rooms to have sex in other than in the bedroom! There is no need for lack of sex just because there is a sleeping baby in your room at night

So with my first we lived in a townhouse with an unnecessarily big master bedroom and just set up her nursery in there bc our only other bedroom was my office and I didn't want to give it up. She slept in the big crib since day one bc I didn't know there were other options. The room was big enough that we weren't tiptoeing across or anything like that. It also helped she was a great sleeper. My pediatrician at the time did not mention anything. (4 years ago)

With my 8 month old, we had a separate nursery set up and planned to put him in the crib. After couple of nights, walking back and forth and back and forth, I had my husband set up the pack n play in our masters. He slept there until about six months and I started putting him in the crib. My pediatrician also kept asking where he was sleeping at every check up and reminded us to keep him in our room.

Well, our 14 months old still sleeps in a crib in our room, so yay, I guess? JK I'm sure all the on-and-off cosleeping we did, with our pillow and everything cancelled out the benefits, risk wise. =) =)