My DH and I should really not talk to each other during the middle of the night when we are both tired and cranky we seem to pick fights with each other.
Does this happen to you?
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Oh girl, I think this happens to everyone at some point!! We definitely kept the chit chat to a minimum...
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Totally happens on my end. I am a total B when I'm sleep deprived and half asleep. Sometimes I'm fully asleep and say horrible things and have no recollection the next day. My poor husband.
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Hahaha I'm glad we are the only ones. We agreed early on that anything said in the middle of the night doesn't count, we are both so mean and cranky!
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Yes. I often would wake up in the morning unsure if we were still married.
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Yup! Agree with @Purpledaisy: , what happens in the middle of the night stays in the middle of the night
One time I was so tired and I asked DH to go change DS1 (so I could then BF him) and he was so out of it he said "change who?" completely seriously, he had no idea what I was talking about even though our crying baby was right there. I was super pissed then but now I think it's funny
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All the time. He gets cranky when I ask him to go put the paci back in once, when I've been up multiple times feeding.
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@JoJoGirl: bahaha! Same here!
I often wake up to him on the couch and I bark "Why are you in here?!" and he's like "Umm... You told me to come in here and get away from you." -
@grizz: lol!
We don't have this problem. But I get pretty crabby after a few days with no nap.
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@grizz: LOL!!!
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Your responses made me Lol - so glad I'm not the only one.
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Oh yes!!! I'm totally sleep deprived and he's had a full night's rest so he wakes up perky while I'm cranky. Don't be acting all happy with a skip to your step around me and expect me to greet you with a smile and be all lovey dovey. No sir! lol
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We've had some cranky times in the middle of the night. Usually caused by a baby who hated getting changed and would scream every time the few weeks. But we've also had some fun ones, like Bare Naked Ladies singing and dance parties at 3am :).
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I've had a lot of cranky moments, but I usually hold my tongue. DH is hilarious when he's asleep; he will have entire conversations with me, but not have any clue whatsoever that we talked. So its tough to be mad sometimes.
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Yeah, I'm not very nice in the motn. When it's bad Dh will be like, do you want me to do something? But my boobs are pretty much the only thing that puts her back to sleep, so unless he figured out a way to breastfeed, I know it's an empty offer which just pisses me off more! Rub my back when I come back to Ed or something, don't make offers you know you won't have to do.
Our bigger fight time is when he gets home from work. I'm a sahm so by then I've been with the baby all day, she's usually quite cranky by then, especially with the fun nap refusal pattern, and he sucks and letting me know when he will be home. That's when I get really pissy even though I know he was out working, not playin with his friends. It's a work in progress on both our parts.
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Haha! Yes! I am such a grump in the middle of the night so its totally my fault. My husband never gets mad and is a saint to put up with me sometimes
The other night he woke up and asked me how I slept. I said, well, our toddler kept me up for an hour+ in the middle of the night (unusual for him), I'm 32 weeks pregnant, I can't breath because I have a cold and I had heartburn...so not so good!
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@MrsH: Our girl is only 5 weeks old, but so far, we aren't too bad at night.
He gets up to make her bottle & feed her, and I'm awake to pump. Both things are annoying (I SOOO wish I could just breastfeed her), but I think we both feel bad for each other, so we're pretty nice during that 30 minutes we're up.
I'm sure once he's back at work, we'll have to work pretty hard to be nice & not snippy at night.
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Omg yes. I am so mean in the middle of the night. I feel so bad in the morning!
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Oh man, those early weeks with the MOTN feedings when J was still in our room were ROUGHHHHH. It gets much better, and you are NOT alone
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In the beginning we were good, but the sleep deprivation wears on you! DH is a heavy sleeper so a lot of the time, he doesn't have any clue what's going on!
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The newborn days were rough on our marriage for sure. Sleep deprivation, insecurity and what feels like really high stakes combined for some not so nice outbursts on both ends. Once she started sleeping more and everyone settled into a groove, things became better than ever!
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@MrsH: When LO was a newborn I used to make Dh get up for the MOTN feeds with me...partly because I still lacked confidence with her and also to make sure I didn't fall asleep holding her! After a while I realised he wasn't actually doing anything useful so I let him go back to sleep ASAP.
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@Alivoo01: ha! I'm sleep deprived but wake up happy and he gets 8-10 hours of sleep/night and is STILL "so tired" in the morning. I'd kill to have a happy hubby in the morning!
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That rarely happens to us because DH just doesn't wake up, even if DD is yelling her head off. He hasn't done a MOTN wake up for 5 months.... (and yes, I often think I might put a pillow over his happy snoring face!)
I know what you mean about being grotty with each other though because, this morning, at 6.30am, DD was giving it stacks (she's teething) and DH (who was due to get up for work but was struggling to wake up) got up and went into her nursery. He turned on her projector and staggered back into bed. DD was still screaming. I said "ugh, she must have spat her dummy out again" to which he replied "I didn't put it in, I couldn't find it". Couldn't find it???? I was so mad! I got up, grumpily, and went in to her - the dummy was beside her on the mattress. He obviously hadn't looked, just flicked the projector on and come back to bed. I was FURIOUS and absolutely let him know about it! Huff, huff, huff.
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Night feedings felt horrible for me - dh never got up and helped no matter how much I asked/begged. Apparently having to go to work the next day was more important. I was breastfeeding so in reality he couldn't do much, so I spent many night rambling at him in my head. I've already told him when we have #2 he will be up helping me at night or there will be consequences. I was a horrible person when I was sleep deprived!
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@illumina: Hahaha me too! Now he doesn't even hear her wake up! This morning he got up and asked oh did she sleep all the way through to now, um nope, she woke up at like 2:30 (darn you 4 month sleep regression!)
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One time LO started crying & DH got up & SHUT OUR DOOR, and came back to bed! I was like, WTH are you doing? Then he tried to make it seem like he wanted to talk to me first but he couldn't form a coherent excuse. I laughed the next morning because he was obviously half asleep but that night I was pretty ticked off.
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Yes! For about 6 months, every time M would wake up in the middle of the night, my husband would ask when we were doing cio. Never mentioned it during the day. We never did.
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@Vegmama: that's our routine too!
we never argue in the motn.
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Haha yes! I swear there were a few nights that we were getting a divorce haha
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Not usually. There was one night when lo was a newborn where I said I was going to the bathroom and then I'd take her. In his head he heard "you are an awful dad and can't take care of your baby," when in reality he had been up for awhile so I figured it was my turn so he could rest.
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