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I don't think it's at all rude to continue to try and get pregnant. Surely no one expects you to put your own life on hold for someone else's wedding.

I never stopped trying for any reason. I think you should continue to try.

Nope, don't put your life on hold for someone else.

For baby #1 we didn't postpone for anything and we ended up having to miss a few of Dh's friends' weddings which I felt bad about. This might sound terrible, but because we conceived easily last time, I would postpone a month for #2 because I'd anticipate it also wouldn't take too long to TTC.

I think right now I'd skip a month, if it were a sibling's wedding. At the peak of my emotional TTC frenzy, a month would have felt like forever. I don't think you're awful for prioritizing your own family unit, and missing the wedding's only a possibility at this point.

Are you a bridesmaid?

I'm postponing ttc until a friend's wedding in August because I will be in it. And considering the issues I had trying to get pregnant with E, i just didn't want that to be a possibility. And the longer I thought about it, the more waiting a few more months overall appealed to me.

@Mrs. Sketchbook: You are more up front than me-- if it happened I'd probably act like it was a surprise-- oops, I'll be 9 months pregnant at your wedding but I swear I didn't mean it!

We're in that phase of our family planning where we're not actively ttc. But we also aren't using any protection either. We're kind of NFPing at this point. So if I were in your shoes, I probably wouldn't mind pushing TTC a few months back. But at the same time, if we were actively TTC. I don't know that I would reschedule our timeline for anyone else but us!

Heck no you're not awful people! I did three IUIs this summer knowing full well that if any of them were successful I most likely wouldn't be able to go to my brother's destination wedding. But we had already been trying for over a year, and we didn't want to stop the progress of our treatments just because it could potentially be inconvenient.

I have a friend who was a bridesmaid in her brother's wedding and had to leave the reception to go to the hospital and deliver her baby! It just made for a fun story and didn't take away from the wedding.

I don't think you're being awful. Everyone lives their own life on their own timeline, not based on the timelines of those around them.

That being said, if it was important to your DH to be in the wedding, I'd probably wait a month. It sounds like he doesn't want to wait, though.

We originally planned to start TTC in late spring/summer, but now we are pushing it off until the fall because I'm in weddings in June and September, and he's in one in August that requires traveling to the opposite coast. Mainly I don't want to be too fatigued/sick to participate. But that's MY choice, and not due to any feeling of pressure from any of the brides/groom.

There is nothing that would stop me trying now and I would be annoyed if I had wasted an opportunity earlier in my TTC journey.

She can't be expected to move her wedding because of what you have going on in your life, so you shouldn't be expected to change your family plans because of what she has going on. So, I'd keep on BDing.

Also, it was super easy to get pregnant with LO1. I thought LO2 would be easy also, but it took a while longer than I thought. It made me regret not trying sooner. So, think about if it took you longer to get pregnant, would you be sad you took a break? You'd be looking at more of a winter baby, would that be okay with you?

I'm due the same day as a relative's wedding. We didn't know the date until after we were pregnant and even if I had known before I still wouldn't have skipped a month.