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@magnolia: Thank you, hun! I truly appreciate it! How have you been?!?! Any news on scans or U/S? So exciting!

@creativemomma15: We have a few theories on testing:
- for OPKs:
(1) Test 1x daily until darker then 2 or 3x.
(2) CBEAD in the morning and 1 or 2 internet cheapies during the day during the cycle.
(3) Testing 1 or 2x from the end of AF until a thermal shift is indicated while temping (BBT).

- For HPTs:
(1) How indifferent are you to seeing stark white BFNs day after day until a possible BFP? If you are okay with that, pee on those sticks every morning. 🤣 We LOVE seeing BFPs and are here to support after BFNs.
(2) If you are like me, you set the POAS date for 2 days before AF is due and "go with how you feel" according to that cycle. (I'm on cycle 35.) I've had some where I've begun testing at 8 dpo and others when I didn't test at all (and ended up going through "the thing that shan't be named.") I call it my "POAS SLIDING SCALE OF SHRODINGER'S CAT." 🤣🤣
(3) Finally, there are the ladies that set their dates after AF is due and test then ONLY if AF is late.

Testing is personal, preferential, and in your court.

My DH just sent me this [from the other side of the living room] ... I was wondering why he was chuckling to himself. 🙄 (*eyeroll*) I figured I would share since we ALL know what THIS is like! 🤪🤣🤣

So I still have watery and even a little egg white cm, but I took my trigger last Wednesday. What is going on?

@yellowbeach: he's going to make me an award for the being a "side effect magnet"

Unfortunately I'm just SOL 🤷‍♀️ I'll take them if I get a baby.

@Kaohinani: 1st that is amazing. 2nd my friend that has been dealing with primary infertility for 2.5 years and sees the same doctor as me had him remove scar tissue from her previous GI surgeries (from preemie complications? If I remember right). Well she got pregnant the very next cycle but miscarried at 8 weeks, so I definitely believe that scar tissue can inhibit pregnancy.

Today was just a crap day, I cried like 3 times because I don't think I'll ever have another baby and it seems like everyone is dragging their feet on its getting J when I know us taking her would be a very positive effect on her life. And I'm terrified that if I have an only child like my husband and like his mom that I will fall into the vortex that is your kid cutting you out of their life (my in laws deserve it, but my husband's grandparents didn't). I've just been dramatic and emotional and ughhhh. I know it's irrational because my husband is nothing like his horrid dad, but I don't know. It just sucks

@Sams Mom: Awe, hun, I can most certainly empathize and sympathize with you. *hugs* Right now, I'm "shopping" for a new OBGYN. While I may like my doctor, liking someone does not equate to him being effective for me or my goal. In the year I was with him, he only checked me "under the hood" once. He ran a full spectrum of blood and urine tests and sent me out for a plethora of scans, ultrasounds, and a HSG, BUT beyond discussing better timing for intercourse (which I KNOW when to BD), shelling out Clomid (without really monitoring me), and telling me if I get pregnant he WILL NOT attempt a VBAC; he has already stated that he is at the end of what he is "able" to do for me. I asked about a RE. He supposedly put in a referral (which has a 3 day turnaround) over 10 days ago. I have heard NOTHING from his office nor the RE to schedule. I've got to take it upon myself because "I want this." Nearly 3 years spent on this ... I'm getting older and everyone drags their feet. What was fine as a "wait and see" 3 years back, potentially, could have caused me to have complications NOW. I'm nearing 39. I don't have time for this. Sam's Mom, I absolutely understand how you (and many others on this board) feel. I have felt down, helpless, lost, and as though both my body and medical professionals are failing me. I have yet to hit the "upset" phase when people around me become pregnant (especially 1st try), rather I am "happy-jealous" and freely admit it ... I'm certain it makes them feel awkward; however, it makes me feel honest about where I'm at. I needed the 2-week hiatus to reassess my fertility hopes, goals, and how much I was willing to invest. I had to relax as my anxiety was becoming too much. Don't worry about being dramatic (* little drama mama ), you are going through something very stressful. It is only fair. You've got this ... You will be fine.

Incidentally, I was kinda hoping the comic I posted would (atleast) garner a laugh. 🤪

Glad I’m not paying attention to temping this cycle in terms of predicting anything... they have been all over the map! 🤔 Even checked with two thermometers some days (DD discovered one I thought I had lost).

Tomorrow morning I’ll get a progesterone level drawn. I *think* they want it between 10-20 but not positive.

Also on the list of challenges this week: 2/3 of us in this house have been hit with a GI bug. DD projectile vomited 🤮 2 days ago, and poor DH was up all night dry heaving 🤢. I’m doing everything I can not to get sick right before our transfer. 🤞

@yellowbeach: Nooooooo! Seriously hoping you can avoid it!

@Kaohinani: I second being your own advocate. I'll always regret that I didn't push harder about why we weren't getting pregnant sooner. I went through the "happy-jealous" phase into the "upset" phase over this year. It was impossible to find any belief that this would work for us. Even now, DH is guarding himself about our positive HPT. He's holding out for the beta, which is smart, but it makes me sad that I can see how much the emotional toll of this has taken on him over the years.

@Sams Mom: I know it's little consolation, but I'm so sorry. It just sucks. There isn't another way around it.

@starlitsky: @qbbride: @mamabear87: @petitduck: Thank you so much! POAS again today (making up for lost time ) and it was darker!

@Sams Mom: I’m so sorry. You have to trust that you’re not going to repeat the mistakes your husband’s parents made. Everyone wants a relationship with their family, you’re trying you best and aren’t going to break that bond with your little. ️️️

@yellowbeach: Ick, I’m sorry. 🤞 You stay healthy.

Ok, so, AF is officially 4 days late today, so I tested, and, we’re back on the rollercoaster. DH apparently was convinced I was pregnant because I’d been burping, but not saying anything because I was so sure I wasn’t. I’m a little concerned about how light the line is for 16dpo, but my OB wanted to start betas today because of my history, so I’ll know by lunch time where I’m starting. I’m shocked, but knew it was a possibility. Hopefully this time it’s in the right place and sticky.

@karenbme: Yay congrats! Totally understand being hesitant to celebrate but I'll stay positive for you!

Also, I think that's a pretty good line!

@karenbme: Yayyyy!!!! So excited for you!

@karenbme: OMG, I go to bathe my son and prep for today's clients only to come back to this!!! Aaaahh! What AMAZING news! Congratulations!

@karenbme: I'm sure you've already though of this but is your due date close to the one from your first pregnancy? If I get pregnant this cycle it would be really close to mine.

I hope we can be on a June mom board together again!

@karenbme: that’s a great line! CONGRATS!

@karenbme: That is fantastic! Congratulations!!! This one will be in the right place and sticky!

@karenbme: congrats!!!!

@karenbme: I will keep my fingers crossed for an exponential increase. 🤞
I have a feeling you may have had a later implant and your HCG is on the slower end (72 hour incremental increase vs a 48 hour increase) and that is why your initial beta isn't as "high" as anticipated. Thursday and the next sequential beta will denote your doubling pattern. I will be thinking of you!

@karenbme: I'm sorry to hear the beta didn't put your mind at ease, and I totally get it. Fingers crossed for Thursday. I have my first beta on Friday. Is there a chart you referenced somewhere to tell you the normal beta levels based on week?