There's no "pre-loss" board, so I figured this was the best tag. I wanted to create a thread to spare the Feb. board if they didn't want to read it.

Monday we had our NT scan. It was like a movie or out of body experience. I immediately knew something was wrong.

Our baby (who was waving Nd kicking and moving all around just over a week before) wasn't moving. The tech was silent and the heartbeat didn't sound right.

I got that awful "just a minute, I'll right back" response after just a minute or two that no one wants to hear.

A geneticist came back and gave me no details. He asked about our history of loss first and family history. When he finally went to finish the sonogram he said our baby looked very abnormal.

The NT fold wasn't just behind the neck, it extended down the body. And the intestines were completely herniated (they should be in the belly by that point). She was still alive, but barely. Her heart rate was 60 so she wasn't expected to live much longer.

They called and were able to get the NIPT results from my OB that were positive for trisomy 18. They wanted to do a CVS to see if it was complete (a full third chromosome, which is completely random), or translocated (one extra long chromosome, meaning DH or I carry extra matter silently and it could explain our history of loss).

We should get the "quick" results today or tomorrow. I'm not sure if they'll have the detail we're looking for or will just confirm the diagnosis.

Tomorrow we follow up with an OB to see if our baby's heart is still beating and make plans for next steps.

My biggest fear is needing another d&c. But I also don't want to deliver at home. I'm not sure what that leaves me with.

Please pray for us. We want answers, but I also don't want to know if it's something with DH or I (specifically) because I don't want either of us feeling guilty.

And if it was totally random, I'm still not sure if DH can deal with trying again. And I don't blame him. It's just SO much...

We've named her Frances Ruth.