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Thanks so much for the support and kind words. I'd really be lost without being able to hang out on HB. As we all know, so many friends "on the outside" have helpful suggestions such as the ever popular JUST RELAX and DONT FORCE THINGS and it will happen. It's a sanity saver to have somewhere to come be the shitty, bitter version of yourself

@travelgirl. It's just so annoying as i've controlled all the other aspects of PCOS through diet - my skin is the best its been my entire life, my BMI is great, no excess facial hair, no thinning scalp hair etc. I'd much rather have a hairy face and the improvement on my ovaries

My Doc said to me yesterday that it still blows his mind that I have PCOS as I "look like I should be playing tennis at Wimbledon" haha.

@bluestripedbee and @filly : Wow, we definitely luck out in SA price wise then. $15-18k in dollars is a shitload of SA money at the current exchange rate, i dont think many of us would be able to afford it at that price!

I'll be eternally grateful to my parents for loaning us this lump of cash so we didn't have to lean on credit options. My Mom pulled funds out of her retirement policy for us to use and pay back later. She is only allowed one withdrawal prior to the policy cashing out at retirement age so we're going to take enough out to cover 3 IVFs and a bit spare for any other misc. pricey things that may pop up. Holding thumbs that 3 tries does the trick but will cross the "what if it doesnt?" bridge when we get there.

Thanks again so much for all the support. It helps tremendously to log on and have so many words of encouragement and support to read through Especially now that we have 3 fertility opponents to knock down - my 2 probs plus DH morphology issues following a teenage motorbike accident.

@trailmix : It still feels so hypothetical that we may be parents, like having a baby is still this destination that we may not make it to Once we get through the lap and onto our first IVF appts I think it may feel like we are more on the road to a baby. Everything we've done so far is trying and testing and hoping things work.

@fliegepilzhut : It seems to be as normal as everywhere else now But after some googling to be sure, it appears we only got going with frozen embryos from 2007ish.

@mrs.pinata : Gosh, with all the figures you ladies have given me I see why tourists pour into SA for IVF holidays!

@mrs.pinecone316: You're so right. I keep having to change my channel when I start thinking about the fricken unfairness of this situation. It makes me want to scream and rant like a crazy woman! I'm going to join you in redirecting to positive and grateful , we're so lucky science is on our side. And that we can afford the science. When we finally get to the point of telling people when we're preggers, I've decided I'm gonna be pretty outspoken about the medical marvel that our IVF baby will be!

@birdsofafeather : Thanks for the wishes I really hope our bad news streak is finishing up - following the lap op, we've officially tested and attacked everything possible!

@winter_wonder: It's the only way to get through all the waiting periods for sure! 3 weeks to our next step, argh!

Reading the topic "what are some positives of IVF" really helped me get some perspective.

@Jenn23 : Thanks I feel like once I have the op out the way I'll be able to get a dash excited about the solid steps we'll be taking with IVF.

First appt with the IVF Dr is booked for 29th July. DH is super keen to go! Now that it's a bit less about vaginas and more about science it's perhaps more interesting haha? He's been a total champ throughout our efforts this year, but neither of us felt the need for him to come to any scans and appts I've had thus far. I think it will only really hit home for both of us when we see a heartbeat