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Skippity skip skip skip.
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I wouldn't go to the play date!
I'm immunocompromised so I have to be very vigilant about who I hang out with and who my kid(s) hang out with. Scary stuff, for sure.
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I agree with others that it was very kind & thoughtful for her to let you know.
I think I would probably skip but I would have a play date once LO had her first round of shots. I personally would not totally shun kids that are not vaccinated but I also think it's a good idea to take extra precautions with newborns.
We had some very close family members visit before LO had her first round of shots and they don't vaccinate their kids. They were very diligent about hand washing though which I appreciated. It was a concern but it was important to share LO with them, and in some ways it was an easier visit than with other family members whose kids are vaccinated but were all over LO and I had to keep reminding to wash their hands.
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@oliviaoblivia: Well hearing the subway remark definitely gives me concerns because that is anything but a controlled environment!! I would skip the play date but not necessarily because of measles and lack of vaccination but because of colds and flus and everything else that one can pickup on a subway. I also hate airplanes for that reason.
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All I know is that I'm having a pbj for lunch.
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I voted skip, and feel slightly hypocritical. I'm not in CA or anywhere with confirmed measles cases. But my LO is currently in daycare unvaxxed. She started daycare at 8 weeks and is presently 11 weeks. She's getting her vaccinations today. They were delayed due to RSV. But she's out in the world without her vaccinations.
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Nope, and I'd let her know exactly why.
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No way, skip!
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There is a very large anti-vax community in my area, many family members included. Avoiding all unvaccinated would mean never seeing my family. I choose to trust that my sons immunizations will safeguard him in the unlikely chance they contract something. I have heard their arguments for non-vax and even if I don't agree with them, I respect their decisions.
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Your 5 weeker is just too young to be in this situation! I'd let the mom know you'd be willing to hang out after LO#2 is a little older and able to be vaccinated.
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It was really nice of her to tell you! I never even asked people if their kids had vaccinations after B had all his shots, but with a newborn it's a totally different story.
Plus according to WebMD, measles has a pretty long incubation period - anywhere from one to three weeks - and one can become contagious a few days before the rash shows up. So a kid who seems healthy could still have it.
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It's really great that she was up front with you about that! However, with a newborn, I would probably skip the play date. It's the dead of winter and there are tons of germs, it would just make me feel better about it in that situation if we were out of cold/flu season.
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The issue is that you are contagious for 4 days before a rash, so it's impossible for her to truly say everyone is healthy (although I agree, very upstanding for her to let you know). I would ABSOLUTELY skip it. Not worth the risk.
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@Mama Bird: this. The kid in question could have come into contact with someone who had no symptoms yet and contracted it and not yet
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@oliviaoblivia: I would skip for sure. But, I would also skip even if the kid was vaccinated. Before 8 weeks, we majorly hibernated. It was during flu season, and I wanted to keep baby in a cocoon.
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I would skip (especially with cases in your area). Not worth the risk to your newborn, IMO.
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Nope. I'm pretty liberal about this stuff and even I wouldn't risk exposing my unvaccinated newborn!
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My LO2 isn't here yet but when she arrives she'll be in daycare and likely places where she may be in the same vicinity as unvaccinated people - like Costco and Target. I would go to the playdate and hope for the best.
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Skip!
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I didn't take J to play dates until she got her first major set of vaccines at 8 weeks. So, I would probably skip play dates until then.
After that point, I'm not sure what I would do. I don't think most kids get their MMR vaccine until 1 year, correct?
I sort of feel like if I would skip a play date because of this unvaccinated kid, I might as well skip all play dates with other babies under 1 year (since they would also be unvaccinated). Or is my reasoning faulty?
It's really scary and unfortunate that we are having this issue with measles. I plan to take DD#2 to play dates after her 2 month vaccines, but if we have confirmed cases of measles in our city at that time, I'm not sure what I'll do!
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I just took DD2 (9 months) to her doctor today because she had a fever, slight cough, and has been really miserable. My neighborhood is kind of crunchy and I was terrified shed picked up measles (I know, I know, that's why I said paranoid!) or something she is too young to be vaccinated for yet from an unvaccinated friend of my 2.5 year old. Fortunately DD is fine, just a cold/cough, but I had some doubts so felt we needed to go in.
After my 2.5 year old also picked up some gross ailments from activities, I'm skipping public playgroups (like library storytime) where I'm not sure rooms/toys are cleaned properly, and will be more cautious about who they're playing with until my youngest can be fully vaccinated. Maybe it's a bit in the crazy side, but I don't care.
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I would not willingly allow my child to be around unvaccinated children, except those who couldn't be for medical reasons.
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@loveisstrange: Ha ha too funny! And I totally agree.
I agree that it was very considerate that she let you know.
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I would go. Considering your child could get some of the same diseases from a vaccinated child....
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@78h2o: I think the difference is that an older child would likely be in school or classes where they would be exposed to other kids and those illnesses, whereas if it were another unvaccinated infant, presumably they are not as exposed. I could be wrong though!
I would definitely skip the playdate.
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Absolutely not.
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@hilsy85: Yeah, I was kind of thinking that too. An older child would probably be exposed to more, but even a 6-12 month old baby could be going to daycare, playgroups, church/nursery, etc. and be exposed to quite a bit. In all honesty, J was out and about a lot before her 1st birthday... I hope measles doesn't become such a problem that DD#2 can't do the same.
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I would thank her for letting you know but skip - C is still so teeny tiny!
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Skip. It's definitely not worth it.
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I would thank her for letting you know and then skip it. I wouldn't risk it with a newborn.
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@spaniellove: ditto!
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I wouldn't, until my child was fully vaccinated.
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As an adult I don't know which of my friends as adults or if I myself am fully vaccinated against all these diseases (just because we got the vaccines at some point doesn't mean we have full immunity from my understanding). I would appreciate the heads up but with my newborn, I kept her close and understood that even that first round of vaccines don't cover the multitude of things kids pass around. If I kept my kid away from everyone til she was "fully vaccinated" no one would have ever met her. But I also know that everyone's comfort level is different no matter your vaccination schedule.
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@loveisstrange: I couldn't have said that any better:)
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I would politely decline but let her know it is only because your newborn isn't vaccinated yet, and that you would be happy to do the playdate once they are able to have their vaccines, and thank her for letting you know. Your child's safety should definitely come first, but you can and should certainly be as courteous as she was when she let you know her child was unvaccinated.
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Update:
The other mom we were supposed to meet also bailed. She's pregnant. -
If it were just my vaccinated almost-2yo, I'd have no qualms about it, but with a newborn, I'd be nervous, particularly with the proximity to the measles outbreak
I think it's great she told you!
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F No! I would appreciate the info from the mom but there is no way I would go!
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Skip it.
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Skip. Not solely on the non-vax kid, but because there really is a measles outbreak. It's not far fetched at this point.
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