Tomorrow I'll be having a repeat csection, and I'm having a hard time with this since my heart was set on a VBAC. I didn't know until Monday that a csection was definitely in the cards for us, and I keep swinging back and forth on how I feel about it.
On one hand, I trust my OB and his judgement (she's looking big, I'm small). I'm also past my due date and very ready to no longer be pregnant. On the other hand, I'm sad to miss out again on the birthing experience, and knowing if we have a third, that won't even be an option. I'm also worried that she'll end up measuring a normal size, and I'll be filled with regret.
I feel like we're making the best choice with the information in front of us, so I'm trying to block out all the others telling me this is the wrong choice. I'd love to take in positive csection stories and focus on those and the fact I'll have a baby girl in my arms tomorrow morning!
honeydew / 7622 posts
I don't have a story but I just wanted to say hello and offer some cheerleading/encouragement. You are so close to meeting that sweet babe. Birth is birth Mama!
pomelo / 5563 posts
I had a great c section experience! Arrived at 5am, had a baby in my arms by 7, using the bathroom the next morning (if you know what I mean), home by 6pm the following day! Easy recovery, never took any pain meds after I left the hospital, felt about 80% fine within days.
By contrast my next door neighbour, who had a baby a week earlier, had fourth degree tearing and needed two subsequent surgeries.
I'm sorry you're having a hard time with it, though. I know how you feel, I also had my heart set in a VBAC and ended up having a second c because he was breech. We're done at 2 and when I think about it I feel pretty sad that I never got to even feel a contraction. I really wanted to know what labour was like.
pear / 1823 posts
I had two great c section experiences! Babies were great and were placed on me shortly after birth. Quick recovery and, side benefit, I don't have all the pelvic floor issues I hear moms talk about!
pomegranate / 3895 posts
My c-section was wonderful, all things considered. It was planned and honestly, I didn't (and don't) know anything other than a c-section. The staff was kind, the planner in me loved it, and my son was safely delivered. I know that sounds cliche, but the end of my pregnancy was a little harrowing and in the end I realized I didn't really care how he got there - I just cared that he was there and safe. While I think a VBAC sounds interesting, I will totally have another c-section again if necessary.
- I can comfortably go running and do jumping jacks without peeing myself
- Scars are cool (and I like telling obnoxious people that try to parent my son that I'm pretty sure *I'm* his Mama and have the scar to prove it)
- Convenience is nice -- especially when having the second and planning for childcare
- It's a known scenario to you -- this isn't your first rodeo! You know the drill.... get up and walk as soon as they will let you and stay in front of the meds, etc etc
Even though it was a cut and dry case (he was breeched, I was a bleeder), I still have doubts. I wish I had requested an ultrasound right before my c-section just to confirm he was still breeched. I know it probably wouldn't have changed anything (and the doctor said he was when she pulled him out), but I think it's human nature to dwell on the what ifs.
Lastly, tell all those naysayers to shove it.
kiwi / 584 posts
my RCS was great, checked in at 5:30, in surgery at 7:30am baby at 8:06am
great staff, they even asked me what music they wanted me to play in the operating room
2 days later home, took the Percocet for a week and I was just taking Advil as needed for about another week, I got skin to skin in the recovery room right after delivery and we had a successful nursing relationship until 9 weeks when I returned to work
I'd take my RCS over my failed induction any day.
pear / 1881 posts
You guys are really making me reconsider trying for a VBAC! I'm not quite far enough along to know if it will end up being an option, but I like that you aren't having to stay in the hospital for 5 days after the csection like I assumed that I would. I'll have to ask on that part of it.
cantaloupe / 6791 posts
I've had 2 c-sections and they were very positive experiences! I'll echo pp and say that my recovery was pretty easy considering it was major surgery, the convenience was nice, and by the second time, I knew what to expect. The OR nurses and anesthesiologists are amazing at my hospital and kept me calm even though I was nervous.
I know everyone is different, but because both of mine were scheduled, I've never felt a contraction or been in labor. I'm pregnant with #3 and will have my third (and final) c-section and I can honestly say I don't feel like I've missed out on anything.
apricot / 483 posts
I never had a C-section. But from another perspective, if it makes you feel any better - I barely remember anything about either of my labors. I can't really remember what a contraction feels like, I don't remember the pain (though I did have epi's for both), it was like a weird foggy memory even though I was totally with it the whole time. So, it may not be all you dreamed for it to be. And like PP said, birth is birth!
pomegranate / 3921 posts
I have no experience to share (as you know), but I'm so pumped for you. Tomorrow is baby day, mama!
apricot / 488 posts
Man, I wish my csection was like these experiences! It's making me pretty jealous. If I had a guarantee I would have a good recovery I would probably want a repeat. But I'm too scared!
pineapple / 12793 posts
I've had three.
My first was after a very prolonged labor. Labor is no fun. It's like a marathon where you cannot control your own pace. Want a break? Too bad.
I had a ton of guilt after my first. Did I acquiesce to the induction when I should have waited? Did I cave for an epidural too soon? We tried hard for a natural unmedicated birth for three days. I hardly remember L's first day because I was so out of it from sleep deprivation. The nurses had to clue me in to change her diaper and care for her.
With C I debated VBAC but as I got closer and closet to my due date without progress and another LGA baby. We went ahead with the section. I was home comfortably in my own bed 29 hours later. The second surgery was so completely different from my first. My recovery had always been easy but walking in as a well rested lady was totally different. I knew Liv was in good hands and that was huge to me.
With A I probably would be incontinent for life if I had waited to push her out. I often think that a section with C wasn't totally necessary but had a VBACed with her I would have pushed to do so with A and that would have been the worst. In thankful now that C was a section though I wouldn't have said that at the time.
She will be here soon and you both will be healthy. I'm excited to "meet" her!!
pomelo / 5228 posts
No advice, but I hope all goes well!
pomelo / 5000 posts
Thank you everyone! I reread thelse replies more than once. So helpful and encouraging.
Baby girl was safely delivered this morning weighing in over 9ish pounds with a big ole head. My uterus was also thin, so this was the best decision for sure!
nectarine / 2280 posts
@Happygal: congrats! Hope you have a speedy recovery.
cantaloupe / 6869 posts
pear / 1881 posts
@oliviaoblivia: Your first labor/delivery sounds so much like my first. I honestly don't even remember when I first held my DD or the first hours/day or two with her. Thank you for your honesty
coconut / 8079 posts
pineapple / 12793 posts
@Happygal: congratulations!! Been thinking about you all day.
pear / 1737 posts
Congratulations! Glad it turned out to be the right thing so you can feel totally great about the way things turned out.
I have a feeling I'll be in this exact same boat when we have another babe. Mine had a huge head, was huge, and got stuck. I'd love to have a vbac...but have been told it's probably not in the cards.
pear / 1632 posts
@Happygal: Hope your recovering well and enjoying your new baby.
kiwi / 636 posts
@Happygal: congrats! Once again I haven't checked in awhile and happy to hear the delivery went well!
grape / 75 posts
So happy all is well! I delivered two giant babies vaginally, and I will be dealing with the aftermath for the rest of my life. Wish I had a doctor smart enough to see a C-section would have been the better choice.
persimmon / 1345 posts
Congrats! I had one csec and one vbac and I prefer my csec recovery over the vbac! I breastfed her well (if you're worried about that), bonded perfectly fine. My vbac was tough and he was only 7 pounds.
kiwi / 584 posts
GOLD / wonderful olive / 19030 posts
I'm a RCS mom and I LOVED my second experience. Seriously, I went in for my scheduled appointment and about 60 minutes later my baby was on my chest having skin to skin contact.
I had a very rough first delivery, where it went on for a long time and by the time i went in for the emergency c-section i was so exhausted and DD was in distress/taken to NICU.
The second time there was no added stress on either of us and it was a way more relaxed and happy environment, where I felt like i finally got to experience a birth, even though it was not the traditional way.