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No, we had talked about it ahead of time, and decided it would be best if I just initiated things instead of announcing what our timing was.

I figured he's easy, its a treat to have the girl get things going, and my husband never gave a single thing to timing unless it was something we really did NOT want to happen.

PS- good luck and have fun with your smiley, I loved getting those!

I tell my husband. When I don't he asks.

I always assumed that people who were actively TTC would just tell their husband when they ovulated, thats what I hear from others and see in movies. Especially considered all the work involved in figuring out when you ovulate. But I havent been in this position myself so I dont know from experience.

I let him know the likely fertile window whenever AF shows. We have an active sex life, so the likelihood of missing the window is super-slim even if he didn't know - and knowing I'm fertile doubles his sex drive.

I tried to keep it to myself but never did (because he would always ask!) We ended up DTD every other day from day 8 until after my smiley - with my husband's work schedule sometimes it didn't work out that we could be intimate on the smiley day. Also remember that it's good to try to get the swimmers up there before you get the smiley, too!

He knows I want to start temping after my next AF (we're TTC, but I'm not expecting anything right away since I stopped BC in December), but I don't plan on telling him when omg it's time it's time. Earlier this go-around, he mentioned it was funny that I wanted to do it all the time all of a sudden (usually it was once a week, before the wedding it was bad, nearly once a month) and I said, "Hey, I don't know when I'm going to drop an egg yet!" and he said later it felt like he was in a petri dish. I don't see a need to tell him - I'm not hiding anything from him or sneaking around with TTC efforts, but we'll see. If he wants to be more "in the know," he'll tell me.

We talked about it last month when I had a positive OPK and DH got really excited at first. But then the pressure kicked in, I think, and it was very much downhill from there. There was no way last month was going to work! This time around I didn't tell him and things have been much more successful. We've talked through a lot of the details of this process so I didn't think the pressure would get to him. I'll selectively share from now on.