My almost 3 year old has been in underwear for a bit over a week. She asked herself, after months of going in pull-ups and not much interest otherwise. Overall she's done ok but I have a sense it's more because daycare takes her regularly rather than her telling them she needs to go. She will tell me/DH but it's inconsistent. Daycare has urged us to continue with it when we ask how she's doing but we don't get a lot of feedback from them on what happens. She had an accident today and we have no idea why- both teachers were gone by pickup time and no notes and she's had 2 poop accidents last week, even though we told them to give her a diaper if she's looking like she needs to poop (she's not a fan of the potty for poop and they told us they can tell when she needs to poop).

I don't expect daycare to train her but since they're with her every day for 9 hours, I'd love more feedback and whether we're on the right track or if we need to do something different. Any ideas on what to ask for or how to approach this? I know accidents will happen but how many is too many to say she's not there yet and go back to pull-ups (and she is asking for underwear herself, which is why we're trying to capitalize on this).