I am planning to start potty training DD - she is 2yr 2.5 mo. I don't want to nap or night train at this point. I bought pull ups for nap & night. Her twin brother will still be in diapers. Is it weird to put one kid in a night diaper & the other in a pull up? Am I over estimating how absobant pull ups are (she wakes up will a full night diaper still)?
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We did pull-ups at naptime and overnight for more than a year after potty training. We found pull-ups to be plenty absorbent, but keep in mind that while potty training you will be hopefully getting your kiddo to empty her bladder before sleeping. I don't know that I would trust a pull-up overnight for your son who won't be doing the same. If you think he'll notice, what about the Huggies slip on diapers?
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@daniellemybelle: thanks for the tip for DS!
Yes I do hope she empties her bladder......but usually she is drinking with dinner still at 30 min before bedtime, so I dont have high hope that she will be dry at night yet
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You might be surprised. My kids went from full aka wet pull-ups/diapers at night to dry when potty trained. I think they were mainly dry during the night before that but just wet their diapers when waking. So both DS1 and DD1 were dry nights and days by 2.5 years.
Good luck! And it'll be interesting to see whether your TS will pick up on it once he sees his twin do it. I can totally see that it will be similar here one day with our twins.
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We day trained at about that age and it's over a year later and we still have wet pull-ups at night from time to time. They can hold a lot! Dry at night is a developmental thing, something they aren't ready for until they can do it on their own. The other option is getting up in the night to wake them to pee... which i didn't do.
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Do the kids sleep in beds or cribs? Unless you are expecting her to get up to use the toilet in the middle of the night, why not keep DD in diapers for sleep? Our LO (2 years, 8 months) is in underwear all day, and just wears a regular diaper for naps and nighttime, but she is still in a crib, so we saw no reason to switch.
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Why not just keep her in diapers at night rather than buy a new product? DS is completely trained during the day and still wears a diaper at night. We never switched to pull ups because I didn't really see what the difference was and I had a bunch of diapers left over that still fit him. I still help him get on the potty most of the time, so pull up vs diaper didn't make much of a difference after he woke up in the morning. He wakes up dry 90% of the time, so I re-use the diaper for awhile.
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When we potty trained both my girls, we kept them in diapers during naps and bedtime until they were consistently waking up dry. I could have used pull-ups for my older daughter, but my younger is a super heavy night wetter (even with peeing right before bed) so she needs the overnights.
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We never did pull ups. My son has been day trained for a year and a half but wears a diaper to bed still.
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Ok....lots of votes for sticking to diapers.
Is it confusing to a toddler to put her in a normal diaper at nap but say no rest of waking hours (I don't think an overnight bedtime diaper will be confusing bc it looks different.
@Pumuckl: I do think DS will train sooner than if he were a singleton version of himself.....but I think he isn't there quite yet.
Kids are cribs at the moment & I have no intention of waking them at night to pee. I'm ok with night/nap training happening later.
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@meadow: I found for my kids nap time training happened really quickly. So maybe you won't have that issue for long. FX your daughter takes to it quickly.
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@Pumuckl: awesome!!! FX
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@meadow: It hasn’t been confusing for either of mine - we just told them that their body didn’t know how to hold pee in while they were sleeping and they seemed to accept that
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I was in no rush to potty train because I did not want to loose the ability to go anywhere w/o having to use a public restroom. We trained at 2 years 9 months and still use pull ups for sleeping and long car trips. I just tell my daughter she can go in a pull up and she will! I call pull ups "night time underwear" and that's that!
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When we were potty training, for naps, we didn't use a diaper or pull up. My son was 3 at the time, and wasn't having a ton of accidents and I just put a pad under the sheet above the mattress and made sure he went to the bathroom before the nap.
As for nights, my son was in a pull up for a long time, because technically, you're waiting for them to be ready by producing an enzyme that produces less urine over night. The action you want is them waking up to go to the bathroom and I had no intention of disrupting the natural process.
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Pull up are less absorbent, but you’d probably only have an issue with a kid who is a heavy wetter. Also, a diaper and a pull up are pretty much exactly the same thing and I assume they feel the same to a kid’s bum so I wouldn’t bother putting them on the kid unless you’re wanting them to be able to use them to potty train and pull them up and down by themselves. My nearly 3 year old is day trained, but wears a regular diaper at night. Nothing at nap time, but she also hasn’t napped much since March and if she does most times she’s dry upon waking. I tried a few pull ups from a friend at night, but she couldn’t pull them down herself in the morning so I found them to be useless for me and we just did naked to start potty training, and then pants, and then underwear and pants like OCPT suggests.
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DS is 2 yrs 9 mo and is daytrained as of 6 weeks ago (started 8 weeks ago). We used pull ups for nap time and goodnights for bedtime bc he was a heavy wetter. He was dry through nap within a month. He had no problem putting a pull up on for nap and never questioned it. We made sure to take it off the second he woke up and would tell him “you don’t need this when you’re awake since you are a big boy and know how to go in the potty!” We still use goodnights for bed and we tell him they are his big boy pull up for bed. We specifically don’t call them “night underwear” bc I don’t want it to be confusing when we actually do transition away from them. He wakes up dry maybe 70% of the time in the morning as well even though we weren’t actively “night training”. I reuse the goodnights a few times if they are dry bc they are expensiveee.
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Awesome. Thank you everyone for your support. We are on day 3....both kids wanted pull ups for nap - so that's no big deal. AND they didn't blink an eye at the bedtime diaper. I absolutely was over thinking things!
DS was a little bit frustrated that I wouldn't let him go bottomless, but after day 1 he is pretty much ok I think. It is interesting - he knows when he pees now, and seems a little upset that its in his diaper instead of the potty (he has gone a handful of times on the potty which is awesome (he actually even pooped on day 1 & 2))
DD accepted the bottomless situation.....but we are on day 3 and I don't really feel like we have improved any. Sometimes she goes on the potty. All but once was my prompting or me picking her up halfway through a pee.
My thoughts are personally spiraling out of control. I feel like we have lost ALL freedom which really stinks because over this last year I have really enjoyed not feeling trapped. We were able to go to the park after daycare or do a target run on the way home. Right now - I can't even imagine being able to play in our yard again. Let alone going on errands with them (or to the grocery store on weekends which they ABSOLUTELY love and ask to do daily), visiting friends/having playdates, going to the zoo....
I knew going into this that life would change and that this is a phase and won't last forever. But freakin-A, we can't even sit on the couch. I feel like I hit a brick wall with parenting. I have legit cried several times this morning --- and not over pee/poo accidents. I clean those fine; whatever. I'm crying that I feel like I can't even have fun with my kids - do the things they like (playing outside, climb-on-mommy, read books snuggled up on the couch, have pretend naptime with blankets that turn into forts, paint...) And I think what is hitting me and upsetting me today is that I can't see the light at the end of the tunnel. I can't see when I will even be able to put freakin pants on my DD.
I am doing the no pants/commando/undies transition strategy.... and I don't know if we'll be out of stage one by the weekend.
I don't know what I hope to accomplish by posting other than getting this off my chest. I know there is no secret bullet and every child is different. I really thought I saw signs of readiness. Now I'm second guessing everything. Wishing I could stop, but knowing at the same time that I need to push forward to get through the phase.
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We started potty training DS 2 last week (so now starting week 2). Even with it being kid 2 it's still been hard. I miss snuggling on the couch (which was totally our thing for ds2 and I). He's peed on his rocking chair, pooped on the couch, and peed on me. Week 1 we didn't make much progress but over the weekend with DH help he finally learned to pee when we ask him to and it has been a game changer. He won't initiate 99% of the time but will gladly come pee when asked because he knows that is the only way he's allowed to play in the living room. We can also have him pee right before we go somewhere which makes it easier to get out. The poop is killing me though.
So all that to say... I'm right there with you. Getting to that pee-on-command point is a game changer though. If you can get there, everything will be easier.
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@brownepiano: thank you!!! That's great to hear since our kids are the same age (we were on the month boards together.) Fingers crossed!!!!
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@meadow: yep, hi fellow board bee!
We potty trained ds1 when he was really little too- it's possible. It's just sloooow. Don't give up and don't move on to underwear too soon. I did last week before he could pee when I asked him too and he loved wearing underwear but there was no way he could keep it dry. Dh hardlined him and made him drink a ton and sit every 10 minutes. I didn't have the patience do it by myself, but DH did and it worked!
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@meadow: I did not enjoy the first week of potty training and I’m an introvert who likes being at home. I did bottomless and I was pretty miserable by day 3, but we did get to pants, commando by Saturday and we started on a Monday. I look back on it now, it was only in April, and am so happy we did it, but it was hard in the moment.
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@brownepiano: @Mrs. Goose: hearing there is hope at 1 week is really helpful!!! Thanks!!!
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Question......if I'm not interested in PT for naps/nights how important is it to catch that first morning pee? When my kids wake up 1/2 hour plus early I always have let them play in their cribs until at most 15 min before awake time....which had worked well.
Also nap wake up goes far better if I let them play for a couple minutes before racing out of the crib into the potty before they are fully awake.
Can I just not worry about those 2 times or is this going to mega screw me up? (They are wearing a pull up of bedtime diaper when asleep. I remove it right away when we leave the crib and go to the bathroom.
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No way am I getting my kid out of his room early just so he can go pee. He seems to be holding it for the potty anyway and his diapers are getting drier. I think you're fine!
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I wouldn’t worry about it right now. Especially because your kids need a little time to wake up and be happy. You’ll just stress yourself out trying to catch it.
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@brownepiano: @Mrs. Goose: you guys just made my day!! Woohoo!!!
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@meadow: I agree with the others - don't worry about that initial wake-up pee. It won't derail you.
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