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I think it is super important to establish bedtime with both of you so that it can either one of you.

Mr. Bee wrote a great post about it, it's geared specifically toward toddlers but most of his strategies would work for babies too.
http://www.hellobee.com/2011/12/27/three-ways-to-counter-a-toddlers-mommy-preference/

We experienced this when DD was a few months old. DH kept at it and after a week or so ... DD was fine being put down by him. I also gave him step-by-step instructions on how I put her to sleep. Literally. For example - I said do this at 6:04 pm and it should only take until 6:07 pm and then at you do this until 6:12 pm etc.

We had that problem at that age too. I get severe migraines so I needed DH to be able to put her to sleep. Literally, they're so bad that I have to go to the ER sometimes so I don't know what we would do if I wasn't there. And really, everyone should be prepared for these types of emergencies.

We did a family bed time for awhile, and LO got used to having DH in the room with us. First he was just there and helped get her ready for bed by doing the bath, getting her in pj's, etc. and then I would give her the bottle and put her down while he sat there with us. After about a week of that we tried him giving her the bottle while I stayed. Sometimes she was fine with it, sometimes she wasn't and I would just take her back. We didn't want her to fuss during bed time, we wanted it to be a nice, calm experience. We just kept at it until eventually she was fine with not only him taking her for the full bedtime, but I could leave the room and not be there at all. Now we do it every other night so she'll stay used to both of us.

@Rubies: Glad you are finally getting a break!! We laugh about how detailed my instructions were now but I did know exactly how long everything took, minute by minute. I think it is helpful for someone who has never done it before, though. When my mom came to babysit, she could put DD down with no issues either. Kids like their routines more than anything.

Both kids have had a preference for me putting them down when they were little. With DD, it got a lot better when she got older (like 8/9 months) and I'm sure that will happen with DS, too.

If you can, try both of you doing the routine for a while, and then start trying to switch off. That way, you can make sure both of you do it the exact same way and that she gets used to your husband being around/participating in the nighttime routine.

As we speak, DH is doing bedtime routine. Lord help him, as I want to be able to go to yoga once a week in the evenings again. The last 2 times I came home to a traumatized DH and traumatized LO, both out of their minds, one crying, and none sleeping. It is not exactly relaxing to go to yoga and think that this is happening while I'm gone.

Hmmm,I will have to get DH more involved in bedtime to avoid this. He does bathtime and then I do the nursing and rocking.

DH can't put DD to bed at all. We try, but she starts screaming the moment he walks into her bedroom with her. She wont even let him try to put her down. We are working on its because putting her down for every single nap during the day and for bed every single night is exhausting. She doesn't take a bottle either. Yikes.