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Reality check! Does toddler sleep really look like this for anyone?

  • poll: Does your toddler's sleep look like my ideal?
    Yes, consistently. : (81 votes)
    49 %
    Yes, mostly. : (35 votes)
    21 %
    Very occasionally. : (13 votes)
    8 %
    Bahahaha NOPE! : (38 votes)
    23 %
  1. winniebee

    hostess / wonderful grape / 20803 posts

    Yeah but we have a 30 min plus routine and lately protests when we leave the room. He's in bed at 8, asleep by 830 (cries a little and plays a little) and is up at 630 or 7. He has always slept 10/10.5 hrs straight with random blips (sick or molars)since 9 months. He's 28 months.

  2. mediagirl

    hostess / wonderful persimmon / 25556 posts

    This happened for us at 18 months. She goes down happy at 7, chatters or plays for a while and wakes up sometime after 7.

  3. californiadreams

    pomegranate / 3411 posts

    we mostly have that, except the putting him to bed part. i spend up to an hour in his room putting him to bed. It is quite exhausting and i dream of shortening it to 30 minutes. and this is not counting the time we have with the lights on and read books. i start counting from when i turn the lights off. an average night is 45 minutes of me just holding him, talking/singing to him, nursing, trying to put him in the crib, then he has a fit when i try to leave so we do it all over again. and then he finally gets so sleepy he lets me leave the room or i have to let him cry for a minute or two (which i hate, but i know if i stay in his room, he will go to sleep too late and be overtired the next day). THEN he will sleep through the night and wake up pretty happy around 630am.

    He is almost 23 months.

    eta. he does have MOTN wake ups sometimes, but not often. either due to what we think was a nightmare, or he is sick etc. and we have to put him back to bed which can take up to 30 minutes again or longer. luckily that doesn't happen too often.

  4. Mrs Green Grass

    pomelo / 5628 posts

    I voted yes consistently, but going down isn't quite as easy as your ideal. But once he's asleep he is 99% down until between 7 and 8.

  5. JoJoGirl

    cantaloupe / 6206 posts

    This is consistently us EXCEPT the wakeup time. LO only needs around 10 hrs of sleep so generally goes 7pm-5am and then is up for the day It's horrible.

  6. Anagram

    eggplant / 11716 posts

    This scenario happens maybe 1 day a week in our house. But it's still an improvement over how badly she slept before 1.

    First, our daughter never, ever, ever chats to herself or happily waits for us--not while falling asleep and not when she wakes up. There is crying involved on both ends. So that's fun.

    SOMETIMES, she will sleep through the night after the initial crying to fall asleep and then she wil scream cry (immediately upon waking) at around 5:30 every day when she's up for the day. Other times, she still wakes up a couple times a night.

    It is what it is! I really just try not to fixate on it any more. We've done everything "right" and our babe is just a crap sleeper and life goes on.

  7. MrsStar

    nectarine / 2994 posts

    We have the ideal here (thankfully!) Put her to bed at 8pm after bath, brush teeth, books. I put her in bed, say goodnight etc, she rolls over until she's comfortable and then don't hear a peep from her until 6.30am-8ish. She's 24 months and been like this since about 7 months

  8. Corduroy

    pomelo / 5258 posts

    Yes mostly. She only sleeps until 5.

  9. BeachMama

    pear / 1946 posts

    As a baby, she needed to be held, rocked, bounced, and nursed to sleep. It was driving me crazy. At about 5 months we sleep trained and she has been a great sleeper ever since. Granted, I think some kids are just naturally good sleepers and I got blessed with one.

    This is our routine now at 28 months. Bath around 7:30. PJ's, brush teeth, and say good night to everyone. Around 8:00 read stories, cuddle, and talk. Put in crib around 8:30. Most nights she'll roll around, talk, sing for a while and is usually asleep by 9:00. She sleeps through until about 7:00, when she wakes and is perfectly happy playing in her bed til we come get her (sometimes we've even slept in til 8:30 because she's so happy just being in her bed).

    When we move into our new house in 2 weeks we'll transition her to a toddler bed, so that whole routine may go to sh*t., though!

  10. daniellemybelle

    cantaloupe / 6669 posts

    Bedtime we have down. Bath & PJs by 7:30, I try to force feed her a bottle to tank her up (she used to drink 3-4 oz at bedtime but no longer), she comfort nurses for like 5-10 minutes & then I plop her in her crib awake. She cries for literally 5 seconds & is out before I close the door. It amazes me because it used to be a struggle.

    Now, we still deal with MOTN about 2/3 of the time. Sometimes she will make it to 5-6am & come in bed with me to nurse & doze. Other nights it's 2:30, 3:30... And I have just been bringing her in bed because it's easier.

    Naps are still rough too. We are still rocking her to sleep if she isn't in the car or a stroller. Attempts at nap training were a truly abysmal failure.

    She's 11 months.

  11. Trailmix

    nectarine / 2152 posts

    It's 50/50 whether there's a motn waking. Otherwise, they go down fine with maybe a single cry or two when we walk out but are asleep within 5 mins. Wake-up time in the morning varies but within 5 mins of being awake, they let us know, ha. As for sttn, sometimes yes (7:15 pm to anywhere from 5:00-6:30am), sometimes up between 3-4 am for a bottle of milk. It's not ideal but it's SO much better than what it was a few months ago, so I'm rolling with it. Mine are 16 months.

  12. BandDmommy

    pomelo / 5660 posts

    Things were awesome before we switched to big bed. He slept from 8 pm to 8 am. He now sleeps from 8 pm to 6 am. At 6 am he joins us in our bed for another hour or so.

  13. lawbee11

    GOLD / watermelon / 14076 posts

    Yes, consistently. LO is 14 months and has been STTN since 12.5 months when I night-weaned. In bed and asleep by 7pm and sleeps through until around 7:30.

  14. singingbee

    pomelo / 5073 posts

    LO will be one on Wednesday and she has been sleeping through the night since she was about 6 months old. We've had bad nights when teeth were coming in. When we moved her to her own room, I still rocked and nursed to sleep. When we started to night wean, we switched up our routine and I nursed earlier in the routine. Now, unless she is really tired or teeth are bothering her, she will get hugs and kisses, we prayer, and I put her in bed. She has her loveys that she sleeps with and she usually rolls over to her tummy when I leave the room.

  15. meredithNYC

    pomegranate / 3314 posts

    @BandDmommy: See, this is why I fear the toddler bed! LO's sleep is glorious, but we are expecting #2 in April, so realistically we need to work towards a move probably by Feb/March at the latest.

    To answer the question, sleep has been pretty great since sleep training at 3 months, aside from setbacks with teething/illness.

  16. matador84

    papaya / 10560 posts

    Yes. He didn't sttn until over one year old, but when I transitioned him to cows milk he started sttn. Has slept 630-700p until 7am for the last year at least...he's 25 months.

  17. PrincessBaby

    cantaloupe / 6610 posts

    My lo STTN after we sleep trained at 7 mos. She is 22 months and sleeps 8p-7:30a.

  18. loveisstrange

    pineapple / 12526 posts

    @meredithNYC: there's hope. My DD started sleeping better once we switched her. The first couple months were a little rough, so if do it sooner rather than later.

  19. Mrs. Oatmeal

    blogger / honeydew / 7081 posts

    Nope! Not yet, anyways.

  20. meredithNYC

    pomegranate / 3314 posts

    @loveisstrange: good to know! I hope we are as lucky

  21. pinkb

    pear / 1599 posts

    It was like this until the last few months DD is 22 months and now she has 8 teeth coming in and they have been taking their very sweet time. It has completely screwed her sleep up. It was 7pm-7am consistently with no wake ups. Now she goes down between 7:30-9 and wakes between 6:45-8am but there might be 1-4 wake ups at night. And at least one of those wakeups require picking her up and rocking her for a bit.

  22. Adira

    wonderful pomelo / 30692 posts

    Yes, always, but Xander has always been an easy baby when it comes to sleep.

    19 months. Bedtime is between 6:00 and 7:00, depending on his nap. We just tell him it's time for bed, brush his teeth, give him his inhaler (that one's new), diaper change, pjs, and put him in bed with his blankets, turn on his white noise, and say "Good night, Xander! See you in the morning!" and then turn off the lights and leave. He sleeps until 6:30/7:00 a.m.

  23. BandDmommy

    pomelo / 5660 posts

    @meredithNYC: he was climbing out of crib so it was inevitable. He loves his bed though. It hasn't been nearly as bad as I thought. Naps have been fabulous though. He naps for 3 hours consistently.

  24. skibobrown

    pomegranate / 3388 posts

    Yes. It was entirely consistently until a few weeks ago when we got rid of DD's binkies. Now she often wakes once between 5 and 6 AM crying. We go in, shush her, turn on her white noise, and then step out of her room again. She'll typically fall back asleep until 7-8 AM after that. I'm hoping to go all the way back to our former ideal sleep pattern soon, once she learns how to put herself back to sleep without her binky.

    Now ask me about naps... those are most certainly not the ideal. Not even close.

  25. MrsLilybugg

    pear / 1650 posts

    Lo is 14 months. She must be teething or possessed because bedtime makes me want to die.

  26. xmaskidjr

    coffee bean / 28 posts

    LO is 17month. at 8:00pm, she happily marches down to her dark bedroom with DH and snuggles with him 2-3 min. DH drops her in her crib and she just sleeps until 6:30-7:00am. She has been doing this since she was 13 month. There were 2-3 night wakes but mostly she sleeps through the night.

  27. 2PeasinaPod

    pomelo / 5524 posts

    LO just turned 2, and he has consistent sleep. We'll take him up around 8pm to start his bedtime routine of bath and reading. He's in his crib by 9pm and will either fall right to sleep or will arrange his animals and fall asleep shortly afterwards. He sleeps consistently until 8am.

    There are times when he's teething that he will wake up in the middle of the night and I'll have to get up to sooth him a bit, but for the most part, it's 9pm-8am.

  28. abmamma

    kiwi / 641 posts

    We were somewhere in the consistently/mostly range from about 6 months-22 months (with teething and vacations messing things up for a week or so here and there). For the last 3 months, we've been in the ocassionally/never range (see previous posts with pleas for help). I am really hoping that we will out grow this phase soon and/or it will get better once the last 2 molars are in. Part of me thinks we should just do the switch to a big bed now since we aren't sleeping much anyway but am sure it would result in even less sleep so we'll stick with the crib for a bit longer.

  29. Anagram

    eggplant / 11716 posts

    @Cherrybee: How is your girl's sleep lately? Is she fighting bed time?

  30. photojane

    cantaloupe / 6164 posts

    Yep, basically always, but I'm not under any false impression that its because of my parenting at all. I just got super lucky. The current routine is bath, teeth, book, bed. If we're out late it's just teeth and bed. She's normally asleep within the first 5-10 minutes. She goes to bed at 7:30-8 and is up around 9:30.

    My second kid is going to give me a seriously painful wake up call about parenting.

  31. BKCaribBaby

    pear / 1672 posts

    Yes, this is us except that she is an early riser in the morning. The past few days she has woken up after 6am (around 6:20), and it's been downright heavenly. If you have a kid who sleeps 12 horus per night, you are lucky.

  32. bunnylovesbear

    kiwi / 600 posts

    Yes! We are blessed with an excellent sleeper. My nearly 26 month old consistently sleeps from 8pm - 7:30/8am every day. Our bedtime routine isn't too long, either. Sit on the potty, have a vitamin, brush teeth, diaper/pj change, bed. It takes about 10 mins.

  33. cyndistar3

    pomegranate / 3980 posts

    My lo is 28 months and goes to bed at 8/ 8:30, we just tell her to go hop in bed and unless she is really sick she goes right to bed, sometimes she sits there and talks to her sister for a bit but usually just goes to sleep. She always stays in bed until around 6/6:30 unless something/someone wakes her up.

  34. Zbug

    persimmon / 1355 posts

    HA HA HA.

  35. lady grey

    pear / 1696 posts

    I voted yes, mostly. We sleep trained at 5 months after 6 weeks of sleep hell and since then DS has been a pretty great sleeper. At 16 mo he is sleeping 7pm - 7am. Usually doesn't wake up at all but if he does its usually due to teething. So we give motrin, rock him and put him back to bed without much resistance.

  36. LemonLong

    pear / 1698 posts

    Lydz is 2. Her bedtime is 6:30 pm. She gets Pajamas on, then three stories and lights out! She is an awesome sleeper and never cries or puts up a fight.

  37. ValentineMommy

    pomelo / 5791 posts

    Yes, consistently. DS has always been a good sleeper. His bedtime is 7:30 (at 20 months), and he sleeps until anywhere between 7-8am. He almost always wakes up happy/talking/playing.

  38. MrsTiz

    cantaloupe / 6800 posts

    Consistently - 7 nights a week.
    12 months old this weekend. Same routine every day..
    In bed between 7:00-7:30 and sleeps until 6:30-7:00.

    No fighting going down, if he cries I just grab him and then try again in 10 minutes. It's worked amazingly for us. If he's sick or having a really hard time with teeth he might wake up once in the night.

  39. plantains

    grapefruit / 4671 posts

    Yes , DD is 27 months. She has bath, lotion, pjs and books and then we put her in the crib with white noise and say goodnight. She goes down at 8.30 and wakes up anywhere between 6 and 7.30.

    She used to wake up at 5am all the time, but seems to be better now thank goodness but she has always gone right to sleep usually talking and singing to herself and she has always STTN.

    Naps on the other hand have become a total nightmare lately.

  40. Cherrybee

    papaya / 10570 posts

    Thank you for all your replies. I have read each and every one several times. I'm sorry it has taken me so long to reply, things here have just been really hectic.

    The point of this thread was to give myself a reality check - that actually nobody's kid sleeps like my ideal and I need to stop wanting the impossible. But actually the replies indicate that its not unrealistic at all! But how do we get there?!

    To answer @Anagram: , E usually goes down pretty easy at night. We did CIO to achieve that one. There are often some tears but the crying is short lived most nights and she falls asleep around 6.30-7pm. Then the wake ups start around 10pm and number anywhere from one to umm several times during the night. She has always woken in the night and popping her dummy (paci) back in used to do the trick.... but since she was about 11 months she has had one wake up per night (sometimes its the only wake up, sometimes one of several) where she throws the dummy across the room and continues to cry until we get her up - and lately only a bottle of warm milk can get her relaxed enough to go back to sleep. Then she is up for the day any time between 5.30-6.30am.

    We decided last night after reading these that we would do CIO for night wakings. Last night, she screamed for an hour between 4am and 5am then went back to sleep. Then tonight she screamed and screamed until I picked her up.... and discovered her nappy had leaked, soaking her PJs, sleep sack and sheet. Once she was dry, she went back to sleep easily and I just felt awful.....

    So, yeah, we've got a long way to go but it could be much worse I know. Your replies have been great to read - and give me hope for the near future too!

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