This may change the way you feel about fertility in your 30s . . .
http://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2013/07/how-long-can-you-wait-to-have-a-baby/309374/
This may change the way you feel about fertility in your 30s . . .
http://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2013/07/how-long-can-you-wait-to-have-a-baby/309374/
papaya / 10343 posts
Interesting! I actually asked my doc last year (when I was 27) how realistic the baby panic was and if I really needed to have kids before I was 30 or if I could wait. She told me that for an otherwise healthy person there was absolutely no reason I should feel pressure to get pregnant before 30 and that even 35 was a pretty arbitrary guideline that she was not particularly concerned about.
watermelon / 14206 posts
I used to have this panic, but life had other plans for me. I had DS when I was 25 and thought I needed to have another soon after. instead, I got divorced, just like this author.
But, my fertility in my 20's was bad. I had the worst, long cycles. Once I turned 30, my cycles became more normal-like, and now I'm almost 32, going through my third pregnancy. (Not 35, but I'm not sure there's an exact switch that goes off on your 35th birthday). My fertility is the best it's ever been.
hostess / wonderful persimmon / 25556 posts
I'm glad to hear this. We had our daughter when I was 34 and had absolutely no problem conceiving her. If we changed our minds about being one and done, it would be in a few years when I would be pushing 40. I don't have any worry about conceiving again, if we were to try again. Heck, I worry about accidentally having another more than worrying about not being able to.
GOLD / wonderful coconut / 33402 posts
Great article!! I will be 35 or 36 before we even start TTC for #2, so I can't help but worry. Worrying is what I do best. I asked my doctor at my PP checkup if I needed to think about my age, she told me no, not at all. She did say that she wouldn't recommend waiting till I was 40 to start but that my age shouldn't push up our timeline before we are ready.
Still scares me that it is going to take longer with #2 because of my age. But I know in reality, if it takes us longer, it will be because of timing and DH's traveling.
GOLD / pineapple / 12662 posts
@Smurfette: FWIW, I got pregnant at 36 . . . it took 6 months, but it happened. And honestly, if I had used the CBE fertility monitor starting that first month, I doubt it would have taken that long.
GOLD / wonderful coconut / 33402 posts
@MsLipGloss: I know I shouldn't worry, it only took 3 months at 33 but I have issues with worrying and over analyzing things that are out of my control and years away.
wonderful pea / 17279 posts
Still reading it, but so far this is really encouraging.
GOLD / pineapple / 12662 posts
@Smurfette: Even though we are 95% in the one and done camp, I *still* worry daily (at least a few minutes every day!) about giving BabyGloss a sibling, how old I would be with LO number two (ETA: my personal ceiling, as of today, is 40), and how in the world I would manage it all.
honeydew / 7303 posts
@MsLipGloss: awesome. I'm still in my 20s, but this makes me feel better about our timeline. We want another when LO is 3-4 and i'll be into my 30s by then!
wonderful pear / 26210 posts
As an older FTM myself, I will admit I was worried about being able to get pregnant at age 34 or later. I conceived on the first try and I have a 2.5 year old boy now.
I charted, though, so I was confident I was ovulating. Had I not been I might have sought out the advice of an RE before.
persimmon / 1205 posts
Life had other plans for me and I did not get married until I was 37. I was worried that we would struggle getting pregnant but it took us only 3 cycles. We have a perfectly happy and healthy baby. I feel incredibly blessed!
grapefruit / 4923 posts
interesting! i passed that along to my friends. we are all women in our mid-30's and just started having children.
bananas / 9227 posts
Encouraging news, especially if we change our mind and want to try for another in a few years.
grapefruit / 4800 posts
I thought it was an OK article, goes over some data but not others. I think some of what bothered me was comparing numbers though. I agree that a 90% and more decrease in how many eggs we have as we get older is not a big deal for most women, there were a ton of eggs to begin with and we only need one every month. But going from a 1/100 chance of genetic problems to a 1/9 chance (though that's not till 45 according to the article) seems like a much bigger deal, the majority of kids are still fine but I donno that stat seems pretty significant to me.
That being said we're in our early 30s having kids and so are our friends, the average age of our friends to have a first kid is def over 30 as many have plans but haven't started and so far (though I know I don't know everyone's plans) I haven't noticed any increased trend towards infertility or problems than people I knew trying to get pregnant in their 20s.
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