My LO will be 4 months soon. I'm a SAHM, EBF and my DH gets home just in time to help with her bath--he usually sees her 1.5-2 hours total each day. Over the last month I've noticed that she has become super attached to me. No one can do anything right, she doesn't want people to hold her and if they do it's for a very short period of time before she loses it--the minute I get her, all tears stop. Tonight she wouldn't stop crying whenever my DH would try to hold her...he came home late, missed bath time and when he tried to change her diaper she lost it...the minute I gave in and got her from him, she was fine and went to sleep. It's exhausting some days. Has anyone dealt with separation anxiety so early on? I thought it was supposed to happen later on. I don't think it's related to growth spurt stuff, cause when it's a growth spurt she's clingy in other ways. Any tips/advice?
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yup, my lo was just like that, right around 4 months.
honestly, i just gave in every time he reached or cried for me. i read that reassuring them (by giving in to their cries) is actually what makes them move on from that particular separation anxiety phase.
she knows she safe with mama so i would just keep on with what you're doing. i know its exhausting (trust me!) but take comfort in that she loves you sooo much!
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Yes, my daughter is like this. I feel like she's had separation anxiety practically all her life. She has gotten better with age, but her personality is just more shy, reserved, and cautious so she really likes to stick by me.
It is nice knowing she loves you the most, but I definitely relate to the frustration and exhaustion!! I pretty much did everything that first year because it was always less of a battle if I handled it all. I encourage you to keep letting DH take on some of the responsibility (like baths) even if she is crying out for you.
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@Mrs. High Heels @jmarionsmith: How did it go if you had to be away from them for a few hours? I've only been away from her once for a couple of hours and she was ok but it was before she got super attached.
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Yep. M is just over 4 months and she's been like this about 2 weeks or so. Luckily she isn't this way with DH, just everyone else. It helps if people see her a lot, when my MIL was here for the third time in one week she warmed up a bit. My mom is here visiting now, and by day two of a ton of contact she was significantly better!!
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My lo did that too. She loved dh.... Except for bedtime. We did a whole process where we did family bedtime and would put her to bed together, with me always holding her but dh was right there. Then as time went on dh took over with things. Is stay right there and if she cried I'd take her. Eventually she was fine with dh doing it all and I could leave the room.
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