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Yes, for both babies...they were really consistent by 8 weeks. Every LO is different!

She finally started STTN at 17 months. At 12 months, she was still waking 2x/night+.

DS began STTN between 4-5 months when he started solids. Honestly I don't remember if it was every single night. But it was never 10-12 hours - I wish! It was more like 8pm to 5am. He still doesn't sleep more than 10.5 hours. And he stopped STTN around 7-8 months when separation anxiety and teething hit.

Yes! But then she stopped at 4.5 months and didn't STTN (like that) again until 11 months.

Yes, she has slept through the night consistently since 6 weeks. We are currently going through a bit of a regression at 5 months where she wakes up upset at 4:30 or 5, but we've reintroduced a paci and last night she went back to sleep just fine.

I so, so feel for you. My mom swears that my sister and I completely STTN - with no regressions - by 6 weeks. My MIL swears that both of her kids STTN - with no regressions - as soon as they hit 12 pounds.

I think they are both big, fat liars.

Because that was my expectation, I have spent the last several months feeling like I either failed as a mom or have the world's worst sleeper for a baby. But neither of those things is true. We sleep trained at 6.5 months and my DD STTN until we went on vacation... then we sleep trained again at 9.5 months because I was at the end of my rope. For the last 3 weeks (since the second sleep training), she has slept 11-12+ hours every night. That doesn't mean she doesn't ever wake up, it just means that - for those 11-12+ hours - she doesn't need to eat, she doesn't cry, and when she wakes up, she puts herself back to sleep within a few minutes (if not seconds). I am not going to lie, this has completely changed my life (and my marriage).

But when I was in the trenches, my ped told me something that made me feel better: *Most* babies STTN by 9 months, but EBF babies are on the later end of average.

No! She is 4 months and has never, ever slept through the night without any wakeups (like 7-7 for example). She has had a few nights of sleeping 9 hours straight (8-5), but I can count those times on one hand. She also used to consistently sleep 7-8 hours straight, but now we're dealing with the 4-month sleep regression so we're lucky to get 4 or 5 straight.

I felt like a failure or like I was doing something wrong, too. I think the people with babies that STTN are quick to talk about it and those that have babies like mine that are still waking up 3 times a night just keep quiet.

No. Not until 6 months was it consistent. It was one or two nights a week at 5 months.

Don't beat yourself up! I felt the same way as you when my LO was 3-4 months and I was wondering what I was doing wrong or why I came home with a faulty (albeit awesome) baby.

I also think that people tend to leave out important pieces of information...like paci replacements or that they actually feed after 10-11 hours and baby goes back to sleep...or that they did some CIO. Also, in retrospect, a lot of parents forget about the bad stuff and highlight the good!

For us, STTN (no wake ups and no intervention needed from us from nighttime to wake up) started happening consistently at 6 months. From 4.5-6 months he consistently slept 11-12 hours in a row, I'd nurse and he would sleep 1.5-2 hours more. I didn't count that as STTN yet. We had a rocky road from 9 weeks to 4.5 months though!

@sandy: I think they found their thumbs around 8 weeks.

My baby STTN more when she was younger-- maybe a dozen times of at least 8 hours straight, all before she turned 3 months. Then it went to crap, we all cried, a lot. We did some light sleep training and now she goes to sleep on her own but still wakes up 2 times during the night on average, at 4 months, sometimes just once.

@sandy: Just an aside-- you nap training your friend's baby post inspired me to nap train C when she was just shy of 4 months and it has literally changed our lives. She was just ready for it and we are all so much happier. So, thanks.

If I've learned one thing in the last two years it's this: Don't take your child's sleeping preferences personally. Just like personality, each child is born with a sleep threshold . My son is an awesome, cheerful, well adjusted guy- and he didn't start consistently sleeping through the night until 21 months!

at 4 months? yes, and did so for about 2-3 months after that.

currently, at 15 months? nope nope nope. i'm so hoping he will start sttn again SOON!

um, no. at 10.5 months, she still has 1 MOTN waking.

@lawbee11: I completely agree with you! I feel like people who have babies who STTN early are kind of in-your-face about it so you tend to think that's the norm.

It's not at all! Every baby is different. DS is 15 weeks and doesn't STTN yet. He's getting close though, but it isn't unusual for him to have 2 MOTN feedings or for him to wake up super early for the day, refusing to go back down. It makes us really appreciate the nights when he sleeps from 7-4:30 then goes back down until 7!

DS never slept through the night until 2 weeks after his 1st birthday. Prior to that, he never slept more than 2-4 hours at a time and 4 was exceedingly rare.

NO. Not until 9 months did we have nights where LO would sleep longer than 1.5 hours . . . @,@

months 2-3, he slept a good 10 hours but ever since he's been waking up multiple times a night (he's 14 months).

Yes and no? Slept 10-12 hours with no wake ups from 2.5 to 4 months. EBF and no sleep training. But then the 4 month sleep regression hit and we had 2-4 wake ups per night :(. At 5.5 months we've had a few 8 hour stretches so I'm optimistic that she might go back to her 10-12 hours.

@lawbee11: It's my opinion that sleep is, quite possibly, the thing most likely to be exaggerated by parents (unless it's bad, and then there is no exaggeration, lol!).