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I’m so sorry. It just sucks, a lot. Every month waiting sucks. Not being able to decide your own timing sucks. Watching it be easier for others is so hard.

Sending you all the hugs

No advice just sending you some love

@Umbreon: I'm so sorry. Is it possible to just partially wean so that your period come back? You can still totally nurse and have regular cycles. Just introduce a bottle during the day. Or, for me, night weaning did it. As soon as my girl started sleeping through the night, my period came back. If your period comes back, then no need to disclose that you still nurse your other baby from time to time.

@Umbreon: I totally hear you, and feel your pain. I’m so sorry the clinic messed you around like that. Every month feels like an eternity!

I also was told to wean but this was before we even started fertility treatment a must acupuncturiat said my body couldn’t do both. I was ok to wean but my little one was sad and I am sad for that fact.

We are secondary unexplained IF and mid Iui and dealing with our clinic over Covid has been less than fun. I don’t know what to compare it to but it feels very impersonal and uncaring.

It’s been well over a year trying and it hurts so badly when I hear of others falling pregnant quickly, or those I’ve been trying with get pregnant then act like it’s NBD. Have had four in the last two weeks and I too am grateful I can WFH so I can cry

@Chuckles: I had this too, although we are still trying. Just when I think I’m over the jealousy and I can be zen about others getting knocked up, I hear a story and it knocks me out again.

I don’t even know if I’ll have any friends after this, such a lonely path to walk down. Everyone just assumes we are done with two, and part of me is terrified that we will give up trying and I will never get over it.

So sorry again and just know you’re not alone.

I'm so sorry. Infertility sucks. There's so much waiting and hoping that things will work out, it's just exhausting. We were diagnosed as unexplained too. This was after we had conceived naturally without any issue, but werent able to get pregnant again. We knew it was possible so it was super frustrating that it just wasnt working out.

I'm sorry for the delays, that really sucks! Sometimes it feels like almost everyone can just look at their spouse and get pregnant. And then there are those of us who have to struggle for some reason.

@Umbreon: I'm so sorry, that sounds incredibly frustrating. Why aren't you able to talk to the doctor directly, are they just really busy? I would feel the same way.

@Umbreon: That sounds really annoying -- you'd think that with the pandemic going on, they'd want to be more accessible (i.e. via the phone), not less! Sorry if you said this already, but have you been getting a period yet, even while BFing? Just wondering because I'm still nursing, but my periods have been pretty normal for awhile. Is it that they just don't want to have to worry about any "interference" from BFing stuff, even if you're getting regular periods?

Depending on the medications your clinic puts you on, it is completely possible to undergo fertility treatments while continuing to breastfeed. I did for three rounds of IUI to get pregnant with my second. I joined the FB group “Breastfeeding Mums undergoing Fertility Treatment/IVF” and used the resources there to decide what was best for me. You may not be comfortable with it, which is totally okay, but I wanted you to know there were other options.