I have researched like mad, and I temp/chart, use OPKs, take supplements, and the list goes on.....DH, on the other hand, just says, "Just let me know when and where it's BD time!"
How involved is/was your SO when it comes to TTC? Did your SO research and have ideas about the process? Or did you take the TTC reigns?
pomegranate / 3809 posts
I've read, researched, opk, temp... and he's like.. why bother, can't we just BD? I've tried to explain it to him and he doesn't get it or doesn't care to listen and it's actually kind of frustrating. He thought it was SOOO easy.. just BD and bam. He's shocked that it's been this long and Im' not preg yet... but still doesn't care to learn anything about it.
kiwi / 693 posts
My husband doesn't care how much I research or prep for TTC, but doesn't really want to know the details just yet. I'm fine with it though, since there's no need for him to stress about it, and I'm the planner and researcher in our relationship anyway. Now if we go an extended time without getting pregnant, then I might want some more involvement from him, if only to share my frustration. But for now, I figure there's not much he can do anyway.
pomelo / 5000 posts
@PurplePumps: my DH's theory is just that we need to have more sex! He's pretty relaxed about it all.
@Sprite: I've shared details about my body and fertility here and there. He's both interested and a little intimidated!
pear / 1812 posts
He didn't do any research or want to know when it was O time. It would put too much pressure on him to, erm, perform. I was fine with that because I didn't want to sound as crazy as I actually was.
pomelo / 5000 posts
@Mrs hedgehog: I made the mistake of one time saying before we got down to business, "Just think, we could be about to make a baby." The look on his face was priceless, and it took a few minutes before we could proceed!
wonderful clementine / 24134 posts
I got the positive OPK and then let him decide if we were going to try for #2 that month or not. He did and we got a BFP!
pomegranate / 3331 posts
I talk to dh about how I'm feeling, my symptoms if they are bad enough, but that's it. I dont tell him all my symptoms, or where I am in my cycle...or even if i get a + opk. he doesn't want it to be a source of stress for either of us, and at least for the first few months, this works. Obviously if we need to start looking at alternative fertility methods to just bd a lot, he will be fully invested in it, and helping me research, etc.
nectarine / 2063 posts
He has take the NFP classes with me and listens when I talk about what im learning with charting. Just this am I was freaking out because it looks like on CD7 im gearing up to O. His words were exactly this, I dont think your thermometer is working right, we better check it with my meat thermometer later (yeah thats right, he said it just like that with hey baby come here face). I contined to stress how it isn't suppose to happe till next week and he said quit stressing or your going to delay dropping your egg! I guess he is more involved then I thought.
GOLD / wonderful coconut / 33402 posts
He got undressed when I told him it was time. I told him he had to get up at 5 in the morning on Monday to BD before his flight since I had a positive OPK on Sunday afternoon.
wonderful grape / 20453 posts
DH was actually really interested in it. He listened when I explained things and asked questions. He never made me feel like I was being too intense; after all, he wanted a baby, too! And I think he was genuinely curious about how it all works. I think it helped that he knew I had endo and things *could* be problematic for us, so he didn't just blow it all off like, "oh it'll be fine, chill, honey". He took it seriously.
Once i overheard him "correct" one of his friends about something and he jokingly said, "No i'm not an expert in the female reproductive system, but unlike you, I listen to my wife when she talks!" LOL. it cracked me up!
wonderful olive / 19353 posts
He'd inquire when I'd be O-ing and if I said sometime this week, he'd make an effort to BD at least every other day on his own prompting.
bananas / 9229 posts
He was a little iffy initially when it came to details and knowing how the female body works. Now he doesn't seem to mind it and checks my OPK and whatnot! His mom is funny - she wants to be a grandma SO bad. At Christmas she said "about two weeks after your period, start having sex every other day!" LOL.
eggplant / 11408 posts
Hi all, I'm new to the site and so excited to be on the boards 
Technically, we are not actively TTC yet, just letting things happen, but we have been charting with the Creighton model for over a year for NFP. I honestly could not have done it without DH. He was a little unsure at first, but he learned with me and actually records every day when I tell him. He is super supportive! That being said, he's not the crazy who is constantly trolling the boards...I am
GOLD / papaya / 10166 posts
@Happygal: DH was the same way as yours. He wanted it to be fun instead of analyzing it.
@LovelyPlum: welcome and good luck!
bananas / 9899 posts
My DH is on a healthy diet, avoid alcohol and has sex with me. That is about the extent of his involvement lmao.
bananas / 9628 posts
he puts up with my crazy POAS'ing and takes a fertility supplement. he knows we have to BD when i say it's go time. this wk end he was cute, we were snuggled up on the couch and he made some comment about how i could possibly be carrying his child and i should 'keep up on those pregnancy tests' (i O'ed this weekend!) and let him know if i find out anything.... like i'm gonna not tell him =D haha. i think the TWW is harder for him than me =)
GOLD / wonderful apricot / 22646 posts
@LovelyPlum: welcome and baby dust your way!
we were in the same boat! he said let me know when, I OPK'ed 
pear / 1580 posts
As I learned certain things, he learned them about one or two months later. After the one-year mark, I really wanted DH to know about stuff because I didn't want to feel the urgency of having to BD on a certain day when DH comes home from work pretty late and is often very tired. This made me feel like I alone was responsible for getting us pregnant and I hated it.
Fortunately and unfortunately, DH became much more involved once we started seeing an RE. Once he realized that there was a LOT to know, he wanted to know it. And now he knows everything! He is crazy interested in my temps, asks me about my OPKs, everything. It... is... awesome.
wonderful pea / 17279 posts
He's involved a little bit. DH researched some things and wants me to finally order OPKs...really he just likes using his Amazon Prime. He is very interested in what HB has to say about different TTC things. He stayed in bed with me after BD to make sure I kept my hips elevated and he kept time.
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