I was. I think I knew in my heart that I'd think she was beautiful, but I still had that thought of what if she's a fugly or a plain Jane.
Did /does anybody else have that fear?
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I joke about our kid, since s/he will be Amerasian. All of the Amerasian girls I've seen are cute/adorable and turn out to be gorgeous adults.
The males on the other hand-- well. Let's just say I have Jon Gosselin and Rob Schneider as examples.
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I don't know why but I sometimes fear that we lucked out before and this one won't be as cute as our first... So sad, I know
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I think for me its more a curiosity of what s/he will look like. Of course I would love for the baby to be seen as a cutie, but know in the end I'll probably be completely blind to any homeliness.
ETA: @Habesbabe: Rob Schneider is Amerasian?! I never would have known!
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@HabesBabe: Ouch!!
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@cyndistar3: I must admit I've thought this same thing! Especially since DS has a different dad. I know it's terrible, but it's true. *hangs head* =/
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@HabesBabe: what about dean cain? keanu reeves? daniel henney?
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@runsyellowlites: Well at least im not the only one
though Im also afraid that they look the same because my daughter looks just like me since the darker traits are more dominant... Oh what I would give to have a blue eyed child lol
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@cyndistar3: DS got his eye color from his dad's side (dad is blue eyed).. DS's eyes are hazel and turn VIOLET! *gasp* DH and I are both brown eyed so yea... wonder what this lo will have. lol
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@runsyellowlites: Wow thats interesting! Who knows what will happen :o
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@mrbee: ouch is right!
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@LAGS: Rob refers to himself as half-Filipino (I think he means culturally), but I believe that ethnically he is a quarter Filipino.
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@LAGS: LOL... yeah, I'm not sure if he's 50/50... but I know there's some Filipino in there.
@mrbee: Very good examples of "cute" Amerasian males, Mr. Bee! And I think Mark Paul Gosselar is half Indonesian, too. But just sayin'... there aren't any unattractive Amerasian girls I can think of. LOL.
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I was sure my LO wouldn't be ugly. But also knew that I'd love her no matter what!
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I think my LO is cute but if she was ugly, would I even know it? I thought all parents their babies were cute...
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Yes, a little!
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@HabesBabe: That was Mrs. Bee giving examples of cute males... that's not something I would normally do.
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@ HabesBabe: Baby Y would also like to change your mind about the guys
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Yes, I fear our future children won't be attractive -- especially by comparison to my niece, whom I think is the cutest child alive (and the rest of our family is always raving about how adorable she is -- makes me feel bad for my cousin's three kids!).
Also, my husband and I -- both Caucasian -- want an Asian child because they're the cutest!
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I always feared that, and I made my family promise they'd tell me if my LO was ugly haha (they didnt agree to it). I made them promise because I didn't want to be the mom gushing to others when people would be thinking my LO isn't cute and then they'd have to pretend to agree with me. But really, now that she's here, I think she's the most beautiful thing ever, and really I wouldn't care if others thought differently because it doesn't matter to me!
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I am pregnant now, and I haven't really had any thoughts like that since I have been pregnant.
While TTC, if I saw an unattractive baby at work, I would think OMG, what if my baby comes out looking like that!? (Bad I know - I always tell parents their babies are cute though).
Since I have been pregnant, I don't worry about what it will look like, although I do worry about plenty of other things (mostly to do with the health of the baby)
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Yes I had this fear a little. I think it stemmed from the fact that it was hard to visualize what a combination of ourselves would look like. But I honestly didn't think our newborns wouldn't be THAT cute anyway b/c I set the bar low for newborns, hehe.
I think most babies start to look cute at 3 months and peak in cuteness at 6+ months... They have to build some chub and get all smiley first! But I do see beauty in newborns too, it's just a different kind of cute.
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Yes, it is a thought that occasionally crosses my mind - terrible I know! DH was quite a gorgeous baby though and everyone says I was a pretty baby (not sure I agree) but I'm hoping the good genes pass through! I have definitely seen some unattractive babies out there, although I would never say that to a parent!
That being said, we just saw our baby on u/s for our 13 week appt and I'm quite sure our baby has the most gorgeous little nose and chin ever, so I'm guessing I will be one of those mothers who thinks my baby is beautiful regardless!
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Yes, I have this fear!! Glad I'm not the only one...
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I think every mom thinks their baby is the cutest baby out there. Parents look at their baby with eyes full of love and all the see is how precious the baby is to them
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I have already thought of this even though I'm very newly pregnant. It's not that either I nor DH are unattractive...we just don't look anything alike. I'm worried our baby will come out looking like a modge-podge of our different traits and look like an alien : ) Terrible I know!!
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I worry about it because I don't really find DH's nephews to be my idea of cute, but I wonder if it's more the fact that I don't like their personalities. I've never seen a baby pic of DH but they say he looked like one of his nephews and I think he turned out very handsome. I know I will think my baby is cute regardless.
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I’m not really worried about cuteness, but more interested to see which one of us the baby looks like. We have totally different skin tone and hair color, basically the only common trait we have is we both have very dark brown eyes. So it will be neat to see what the baby ends up with.
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I have absolutely worried about this! I know that I'll think my child is beautiful no matter what, but it has crossed my mind and made me feel guilty.
I also worry about my child being unattractive in their awkward middle school years (which almost everyone is) and feeling bad about themselves like I did. I don't want them to suffer any heartache.
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This is one thing I haven't worried about. I figure he/she is ours so, he/she will be beautiful in our eyes.
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Yes! I know that I will think my child is beautiful no matter what, but I want others to think so too! I really don't want to be one of those moms who posts pictures and says how cute her child is when everyone else just nods out of politeness and then makes comments when I'm not there!
My mom's boss had a really.... not cute baby. And the sad thing is, she knew it! She would say things about it too!
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@Mrs. Yoyo: Baby Y is soooooo adorable! I didn't know he was Amerasian! Definitely giving me hope
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Sure, it crossed my mind- but after our 4D ultrasound at 30 weeks and another yesterday, he is the cutest thing I've ever seen. I know this kid will get anything he wants from me, I will be so wrapped around his little finger.
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My oldest niece came out looking like this guy:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/John_Prescott
Only without the toupee. If I convince myself my kids will look as fugly, I won't be disappointed. On the plus side, she now looks like a mini version of this chick:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Billie_Piper
Only with more proportionate teeth. So a fugly baby doesn't scare me. His siblings are gorgeous. My brother is attractive. My nephew looks kind of like a peach frog, but is still the most adorable little guy ever (he's so friendly and cheerful.)
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Nah, I'm worried our baby will be too cute and make all the other babies jealous.
though Im also afraid that they look the same because my daughter looks just like me since the darker traits are more dominant... Oh what I would give to have a blue eyed child lol
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